Matthew2106 Posted November 2, 2007 Posted November 2, 2007 Some of you may have read it already.. But this is the basic story of my breakup, Which is actually really complicated, Lol. So it could still be a long post... My girlfriend of 20 months 4 weeks ago, kissed her best friend. I almost walked out on her when I found out 3 weeks ago, but she blocked the door and took my train pass away from me so I couldn't. And the worst part is I actually trusted and over-looked it, as I had done before when she was texting this Guy. 1 week later, I went back and could tell nothing was right, she had that look in her eyes. I should know after all. Apparently this wasn't fair on me and wanted a "temporary break" to sort her feelings out. Who needs to break 20 months for a crush? Really? No one. Anyway... me not being what she took me for (Stupid) Wanted the truth, and apparently in pursuing it pushed her away. Which is now her excuse for why she doesn't "Trust me with her feelings" or "want to be with me" anymore. Surely it should be the other way around? And also why 2 weeks after going on a break with me ended up with him. Now they have this whole, "amazing" thing going on, Where they keep going on about how totally in love they are and how she already stops in his bed over night, after 5 days of him asking her out. And how they'll be together forever, doing the things we always talked about. Apparently "he would do anything for her", when I was the one who sacrificed my most treasure posessions to spend weekends with her when we first dated [ I was 16 and had to catch a train ] such as my Xbox and a guitar. Sickening how she buys it, or maybe pretends to.. wants to believe it. Anyway, this guy's a real creep. He's known her for 4 years and has wanted her since then... used her best friend to get close to her... tried giving reasons to leave me, even tried touching her. Her being a people pleaser, forgave him wanting him back as a best friend and since has just been there. Prying. He caught her in a rough patch, and I was put in a suck ass situation. I wasn't allowed much contact.. or to see her, being on a break. Yet he was allowed to pick up all the pieces I apparently scattered searching for the truth. Spending nights with her... and taking her out. Pretty one sided break to sort her feelings out really.... An already ridiculous situation which has just been made complete rubbish. Now that she's with him, it angers me she still won't tell the truth.. and own up to me as to why she betrayed my feelings and trust in her to sort herself out and keep her word. Using the fact "she doesn't trust" me as an excuse. When all I've done is talked to people about my situation, because I needed the help she refused to give me, And asked her for the truth because I'm not as stupid as to believe everything she said. Surely I should be the one giving out limited trust... But once again I'm the idiot with a true love that's too selfish to admit to her mistakes. Why is she doing this? Because she knows she's in the wrong and doesn't want to anger me into completely moving on? Because she knows this relationship may not be for her in the end? And thinks if she avoids telling me until she trusts me again.. presumably we'll be "close" and end up being together once she's had her fun? Because let's face it, if we're close I probably wouldn't want to know anymore. Because I'm now a safety mat? Or maybe she's really in love with this guy and simply doesn't care about me anymore? She's so confusing.
Davey McG Posted November 2, 2007 Posted November 2, 2007 She sounds really immature. A lot of what she says sounds like the stuff I heard from girls when I was a teenager. I would let her go and make her own mistakes. It sounds like many-a-breakup and is one of those things she'll learn from. The other guy may have finally got what he wants but will realise that just as she left you for him, she can just as easily leave him for someone else. The guy is always going to be on the lookout because all it took was a little groping and being just-friends to get her. You've got to feel sorry for him as the only way he could get her was through attrition and deception. Waiting for her to "have her fun" is a bad idea and will only lead to heart-ache and confusion for you. Let her go and move on. She may realise she has made a mistake, but its just part of growing up and by the time she realises it will be too late and you both will have moved on.
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