daphne Posted November 2, 2007 Posted November 2, 2007 I don't know why I did it. I guess a part of me wants to hear what he has to say. Another would like to believe that he understands how he screwed up. But mostly, I just think that I'm stupid for responding. Even though I told him I don't think we could be friends at this point, in a sense I think I left the door open by not wording it more strongly. I do not have a single friend that would want me to even consider taking the jerk back. But 3 months later, I'm starting to realize that he wasn't all bad. LOL. More likely, I have a poor memory and forgot that for a short term relationship, he treated me like crap. Good lord.
Ocean-Blue Posted November 2, 2007 Posted November 2, 2007 It's never too late to resume NC. So you "slipped up". Just tell him you don't wish to continue talking to him.
Author daphne Posted November 2, 2007 Author Posted November 2, 2007 I broke up with him. He was treating me poorly, after chasing me hard. Then he called later to ask why I broke up, then rubbed my nose in the fact that he had met someone else.
Spinderella Posted November 2, 2007 Posted November 2, 2007 But 3 months later, I'm starting to realize that he wasn't all bad. LOL. More likely, I have a poor memory and forgot that for a short term relationship, he treated me like crap. Good lord. LOL. (I'm not laughing maliciously btw) Yeah its easy to forget the bad stuff. Its something our minds do. You left him for a reason, give yourself credit for having a good one. I have to remind myself of that too sometimes.
Spinderella Posted November 2, 2007 Posted November 2, 2007 I broke up with him. He was treating me poorly, after chasing me hard. Then he called later to ask why I broke up, then rubbed my nose in the fact that he had met someone else. Well, he is clearly pulling the jealousy card. If he was over you, he wouldnt need to call you.
bigheartkindsoul Posted November 2, 2007 Posted November 2, 2007 He wasn't all that bad, mmmm but hun is that a good basis too get back with someone. No. You deserve someone great and who treats you great not someone who just was ok and treated me ok 25% of the time and like crap the other 75% of it. Go back into NC, I am guessing and only guessing that he might just be keeping you nearby so that just in case he feels lonely or gets dumped he can come running back. Its hard and we have to muster up so much strength but it is possible, trust someone who was hurting so bad for the last 4months and now is totaly over the break up and ex and does not even think about getting in touch with him or want him too either. (((hugs)))
Author daphne Posted November 2, 2007 Author Posted November 2, 2007 Well, he is clearly pulling the jealousy card. If he was over you, he wouldnt need to call you. This, I know. I'm not even fully sure there was really someone else. He seemed a little desperate to get a reaction out of me at the time.
Author daphne Posted November 2, 2007 Author Posted November 2, 2007 Big, I hear you. That's why I've been avoiding contact since the last time he called. I think I could have been ok with a friendship later down the road, cos he wasn't a bad person. Just a lousey boyfriend and not in hte right place mentally to have a relationship. I do not believe he is trying to string me along. I think he knows he keeps screwing up, and is trying to get back in but screws up some more. I've dated a guy that tried to string me along. It doesn't feel the same at all. Plus, I seriously doubt he's dating anyone of consequence at this point. Call it female intuition. That's the only reason I responded. The problem is, after a long time apart, I'm not so sure he was the player I told myself he was. It was an easy way to move on. I don't like them, and they are a dead end. And time does reveal things a little more clearly. I joke about having a bad memory, but he wasn't as bad as I made him out to be. Does that mean he's ready to act right? I don't know. I'm curious to see what he has to say. To see if he has an apology or understands how bad he screwed up. Whatever he does, I'm not going back to what it was. Maybe we can try friendship, but it will have to be platonic. And if he wanted more than a friendship, he's going to have to prove that he's trustworthy and not as the jackass I came to think of him.
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