Saying " " when asking a woman out?

[Ponzoli]

is it wrong/unwise/counter productive to say please? Example, walking up to a woman and saying "You are so beautiful, and I really want to take you out, will you please go out on a date with me?" I have been told that including "please" when asking a woman out makes one seem pathetically desperate/begging. Ladies, any thoughts?

 

 

Also, on a off topic point, does anyone know how long one has to belong to the site before one is blessed with the privilege of being able to send/receive private messages? I would ask Tony via PM, but since I can't PM, I can't PM Tony to ask.

 

Also apparently, the word "please" (as evidenced by my butchered thread title" violates the Community Guidelines for this website. When did "please" become a profane utterance? Tony? Tony? ....

[BeautifulMusic]

I have been told that including "please" when asking a woman out makes one seem pathetically desperate/begging. Ladies, any thoughts?

 

I agree; it can sound like begging. If you want to be polite when you're asking a woman out, you can always say "May I..." instead of please and that way you know it won't come across as desperate. Or you could just ask someone out normally and not worry about it. But I wouldn't say please, in any case...

[tanbark813]

Definitely don't say "please".

 

PM's are available after a certain number of posts and/or length of time as a member. There seems to be some debate about that.

 

Words like "please" and "advice" are stripped from the title since they're too general.

[norajane]

is it wrong/unwise/counter productive to say please?

 

Example, walking up to a woman and saying "You are so beautiful, and I really want to take you out, will you please go out on a date with me?"

 

I have been told that including "please" when asking a woman out makes one seem pathetically desperate/begging. Ladies, any thoughts?

 

I would forget that whole sentence and start fresh!

 

First of all, I certainly hope you aren't walking up to strange women you don't even know and that's the first thing out of your mouth! That's guaranteed a NO. You really do have to engage in some conversation first.

 

"You are so beautiful and I really want to take you out" implies that her looks are the only reason you are interested in her. That's not entirely flattering nor endearing - she'll think all you want is sex, even if you phrase the question politely. Imagine a woman coming up to you and saying, "You are so rich, I really want to go out with you, will you please spend your money on me?" It's ok to compliment a woman on her looks, but don't tie that to telling her you want to take her out.

 

And then I agree with everyone else - no please! It is like begging.

 

And finally, the 'go out on a date with me?" part is too vague. You have to go in for the close by actually asking her out to do something for a specific date. Example: Would you like to go out for some Thai food Thursday night? Can I take you out for brunch at the new crepe place on Sunday?

[Krytie TV]

Absolutely DO NOT say please... or any of that stuff you had all polished. You need to ask someone out like you're sure they're going to say yes. Please sounds like you're begging.