mazy3 Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 Hi I have posted on here a couple of times my story is basically was with boyfriend 5 years but never lived together. He went prison when our son was 2 months old. Came out and moved back to his house (80 miles) away from me. Then 3 months ago i find out he is living with someone - he never told me i just found out. Then he has broke up with her a few times and comes running back to me. Also another thing to note is i gave birth to our 2nd child 7 weeks ago. when he is with us he says he wants us ....when he goes home says he wants to be with her. I really want to do no contact but i cant because of the kids ..... i really dont know what to do or what hes thinking ...how can he keep changing his mind like that Please any advice greatly apprieciated. Oh another thing i was going on a date last week and he totally kicked off having a right go at me until i said i wouldnt go ....just couldnt be bothered with the hassle i was getting. Pleeeeaaassseeee help me. What is he doing ...what do i do?
Lee725 Posted November 2, 2007 Posted November 2, 2007 Hi Mazy3, I am sorry i cant offer much help here because i can not relate to your situation (with the kids). He is trying to manipulate you and control you, He wants her, he wants you, he does not want anyone else to have you. That is really scary he sounds like a jealous possessive man. I would love to say NC, Get rid of him Etc, but i know it would not be that easy with the little ones. I will leave advice on this one to others who can relate to your situation, but i just want to say i hope everything works out for you and i am sorry that you are going through this.
Author mazy3 Posted November 2, 2007 Author Posted November 2, 2007 Thanks i know what you mean i seriously wish i could do not contact i really do.
Author mazy3 Posted November 2, 2007 Author Posted November 2, 2007 Hi I am back again as there have been more developments. I decided to tell him this morning that i am not waiting around anymore and that i am going to find someone who truly cares about me and not to text me. 2 hours later he calls and tells me about his troubles with his wages. I work out his wages for him and let him know. Since then he has been ignoring me......what the hell? i told him not to text me do a favour for him and then he blanks me and is off with me ...i have no idea what to do next Help
Author mazy3 Posted November 4, 2007 Author Posted November 4, 2007 Back again with another update ...... please read first post for general background .... anyway i texted my ex this morning to ask when he was seeing the kids got a text back 2 hours later dont text me im back with rachael?????? wonder is she knows he was with me last weekend ......am so sick of this please someone advice as to what he is playing at. Why did he stress so much about me going on a date and why does he keep running back and then going again ...desperatly need advice.
Amy22 Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 I don't mean this to sound harsh so please don't take it that way. I think he is running back and forth because both of you girls are allowing it. I wouldn't do him any favors. He wants to be with her let her figure out his wages. He is using you and you don't deserve that. You deserve someone who is going to be with you and your children 100% and so far he has proved that he isn't willing to do that. I wouldn't talk to him about anything else but the children. I wouldn't tell him you are going on dates. I would move on with your life and he will get it when he askes to come back and you say no. You don't owe him anything. You have got to be strong for you and the kids. Don't let him treat you like this. You deserve better and I hope you realize that and move on.
Author mazy3 Posted November 5, 2007 Author Posted November 5, 2007 Well the latest on my story is i had my exs brother on the phonr today asking about the kids and he asked me what my new boyfriend was like ..........i told him i had no idea what he was talking about. App my ex turned up with his girlfriend and when his brother asked what had happened my ex said id found somebody else..............now what the hells that all about am getting more confused by the day.
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