ShadowDrone Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 My gf's father never do anything in the house. He always leaves the house, he doesn't even work and my gf is stuck at home to take care of her younger brothers and stuff. I'm sick of this, we see each other like 12 hours per week, this is totally unacceptable(I'm 19 she is 17), I told her countless time to stop listening to her father(and just come to me house) so he would be force to do the job himself and heck if he doesn't she could call child services and the problem would be solved. Yet she keeps listening to him and whines that she is tired to do all those chores and stuff. While I'm SICK of never seeing her and that we can never spend alot of time. I'm serioulsy thinking of going to beat the crap out of her father so he's going to be stuck in a wheelchair(at least) for the rest of his life. Help me! what should I do!?
Trojan John Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 You should... calm the **** down. You sound like the one who is whining. She is taking care of her family. Okay, so her dad's a deadbeat, fine. She feels a sense of responsibility to her siblings. What are YOU doing to help HER? Can you support her and, potentially, her brother that she's responsible for? Can you help her with the things that she has to do otherwise? ADDED:: And forget about crippling her father. Seriously illegal and bad idea on so many levels.
Author ShadowDrone Posted November 1, 2007 Author Posted November 1, 2007 You should... calm the **** down. You sound like the one who is whining. She is taking care of her family. Okay, so her dad's a deadbeat, fine. She feels a sense of responsibility to her siblings. What are YOU doing to help HER? Can you support her and, potentially, her brother that she's responsible for? Can you help her with the things that she has to do otherwise? ADDED:: And forget about crippling her father. Seriously illegal and bad idea on so many levels. I won't go cripple her father even though I'd love to. Don't worry about that. Even if I did help her, it wouldn't change anything.. I mean we wouldn't be able to spend more time just me and her. We'd be stuck with all the annoying sisters/brothers around. Yes I'm whining alot about this, I've been supporting this for more than a year and a half and I'm serioulsy fed up of this. She should stop listening to that stupid father of hers, call the child serivces and just go on with her life. She can't take care of these kids forever and her father is a deadbeat anyway, so what's the point of encouraging her father by doing everything in his place? If my dad would give me tons of chores to do, so much I couldn't see my gf, I would disobey. I don't let me people walk all over me like that, I fight for what I want, for what I believe in. So I can't understand why she reacts in such a weird way.
Trojan John Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 Ah, I get it. Neither she, nor you live on your own, or seem (I don't know) capable of supporting yourselves financially. Of course this does not give her father the right to force her into involuntary servitude, but that also does not give YOU the right to tell her father what he can and cannot do. Be a MORE supportive boyfriend and help her with her chores. Think about it this way: you get to spend more time with her. Added:: And like I said before, she feels a sense of responsibility for her younger siblings. It's not uncommon.
Author ShadowDrone Posted November 1, 2007 Author Posted November 1, 2007 Ah, I get it. Neither she, nor you live on your own, or seem (I don't know) capable of supporting yourselves financially. Of course this does not give her father the right to force her into involuntary servitude, but that also does not give YOU the right to tell her father what he can and cannot do. Be a MORE supportive boyfriend and help her with her chores. Think about it this way: you get to spend more time with her. Added:: And like I said before, she feels a sense of responsibility for her younger siblings. It's not uncommon. So in short...there's nothing to do? Either I get to help her in that completly messed up family of her or I just suck it up? How depressing
jcster Posted November 2, 2007 Posted November 2, 2007 She can't take care of these kids forever and her father is a deadbeat anyway, so what's the point of encouraging her father by doing everything in his place? If my dad would give me tons of chores to do, so much I couldn't see my gf, I would disobey. I don't let me people walk all over me like that, I fight for what I want, for what I believe in. So I can't understand why she reacts in such a weird way. Wow! You need to grow the f*ck up! You sound like a thoroughly selfish boyfriend, and you are making your girlfriend's life much more difficult with your childish demands and posturing. I'm having a hard time seeing any validity in your side of the arguement. Try having some compassion, it might change your life.
Krytie TV Posted November 2, 2007 Posted November 2, 2007 You guys need to get past being adolescents before there is anything you can do about this. Trust me, high school relationships ALL have their parent dramas.
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