lynn123 Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 Hello everyone, I really need some support right now. My husband is moving out this Sunday. We have been married almost 8 years and have two children, 4 and 6. To begin, my husband only wanted to have sex exactly once a year each year after my first child. I thought that we were just under the usual stresses of family life. Then last year at this time I discovered that during the past six years of our relationship he was watching an inordinate amount of porn. I also discovered that he was posting want ads for discreet sex on at least two adult sex sites. He wrote to at least four women to meet him and sent one of the women his honeymoon picture (no I wasn't in it). Least to say I was devasted. I had him take a lie detector test to make sure that he didn't actually meet anyone and I was checked for STDs. He went to a one week intensive therapy for sex addicts last December. I think he stopped the porn use, but this year he still treated me like a roommate. I've been so unhappy. When I suggested that we separate he went to another therapist (this is one month ago) and they gave him a diagnosis of sexual anorexia. He came home and told me that his therapist told him that he hates women. He then told me that this means that he can only have sex with anonymous women. He can't have sex with me because he loves me. Then he said "Doesn't this prove to you how much I love you." It was then a lightbulb went off in my head and I decided to get off this crazy train. He is a kind person and I know he feels bad about everything. His therapist thought that he should move out and I am so emotionally bankrupt I tend to agree. But I do love him but I'm just so tired of having to deal with all of his problems. It seems that they have always defined our relationship. I could really use some words of encouragement now. Thanks.
Blue Eyed Brain Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 Oh how I feel for you. Many people are in similar situations however, they do not know that sex is an addiction (we tend to think it's cool to check out the latest hotties). I couldn't live with once a year sex, maybe, once a week sex, but I do love my sex. You are very brave and I respect your courage. PM for additional support....
smokiejjj Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 My sex therapist tells me internet porn is the crack cocaine of sex addiction. Humans I don't think were meant for this internet sex.. it simply overwhelms some men. I guess others can handle it but not me.
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