Sunblast Posted November 2, 2007 Posted November 2, 2007 Loyalfriend. while I think it's bad you even tried, I think it's great and mature that you made your change. Obviously, many girls do it to be bad, or different, or because aggression is sexy, but you can have all of that but in a higher-quality way, too, and I bet your boyfriend's kinda that way. Good for you. Don't go back.
The Joker Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 The OP on one hand cannot hold ground labeling any one problem against any one race where as it effects all. Though statistics can be very supportive in numerous claims. Statistics cannot be argued with, nor should the OP for posting her own comments on a dating transition from black men to white men as long as there is sufficient reason to back the claim. Truth be told, thug life and gangsterism IS glorified in mainstream pop American culture through rap music, music videos, movies, clothing (bling) so one cannot sit here and state it is politically incorrect to say this is a projected image in which (many) not all black's wish to socially identify with. If they identify with that image and other parts of society feel it is garbage mentality or just degrading then it is fair to say so. Just like the OP was trying to convey her past infatuation became a form of abuse and she's happy at the point she is now.
Timberlane Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 Back in college I visited a hot girl I had met at her dorm room. Within a few minutes of talking some suite mate of hers wanders into the room crying. She is an attractive, blond white girl going to Rice University, a fairly prestigious private college. She explains that her boyfriend is in the hospital. Her boyfriend is black and has sickle cell anemia. But the sickle cell isn't why he was in the hospital. He had been shot while consorting with other gang bangers hanging out in some gangland haunt that he knew was bad news. He was there in the hospital spouting off all sorts of gangsta code of Honor nonsense, which ultimately made his white girlfriend very sad. So she left and came to us to cry. After a half hour of this I frankly suggested that she just stop talking about it.
Road Rage Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 The irresponsiblity of the American black man goes well beyond the ghetto. Just ask Jesse Jackson how well he provided for his love child. Read Jesse Lee Peterson
Chrome Barracuda Posted December 5, 2007 Posted December 5, 2007 Ok--this is so weird, but I really-really wanted to know if there was anyone else out there like me. I'm your typical "white-girl" now. I have been with my boyfriend for over four years, and we have had an amazing ongoing LT relationship. Here's the funny part..He was my first "white-boyfriend"... I use to be such your atypical "white-ghetto-girl", when I was in highschool. I dated "thugs", "gangsa', type of guys, who happened to be black. I never dated a white guy until my current boyfriend, and I must say, I'm happy I made that transition. So the phrase "Once you go BLACK, you never go back" is out... It's now "once you go black, you want to go back"!!!!! I'm not racist by any means, but I have my quirks about "ghetto black guys" who deal drugs and don't take care of their children. Of course, I know that you don't have to be "black" to be a dead beat parent, but statistically speaking, a lot of "daddyless" children belong to a black father. I bring this up, because I am so grateful for meeting my boyfriend. He taught me so much. He loved me for me. Unlike the guys that I dated, they only wanted me for my body. Is there anyone out there who has dated black guys in the past, but went back to white men, because they felt they weren't getting anything out of a black guy? Or did you start dating a white guy and notice your "goals" in life changed? I did, and I'm very proud of myself for getting out of that lifestyle. Please, please don't take offense to this. I have black cousins, which is how I started dating black guys, but to me, the ones that I met were garbage, and cheaters!! It's not about race it's about the quality of men you were dating race not withstanding! Your just trying to push your poor mate choices off on a superficial quality. Race had nothing to do with your choice in who you attracted or who you slept with. The men who were garbage were not garbage because they was black. They was garbage because they was!!!! And it says alot about women, because women has the ability to pick men, they choose who they want to sleep with and go out with. You chose those guys! No one else put a gun to your head and made you choose. And yes I am a black man so dont try to play the race card/ better men with me!
XxBacktoBlackXx Posted December 5, 2007 Posted December 5, 2007 I agree with Chrome Barracuda. This is all I'm going to say because my last post was deleted.
vivrantflo Posted December 5, 2007 Posted December 5, 2007 I agree with Chrome Barracuda. This is all I'm going to say because my last post was deleted. This is funny, because that applies to me as well...
blackdood Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 Please, please don't take offense to this. I have black cousins, which is how I started dating black guys, but to me, the ones that I met were garbage, and cheaters!! wow this is horrible...You met a few black guys and no you have this horrible perception of african americans you dont have to be black to treat a woman badly and you dont have to be white to treat a woman good. I think its horrible how you generalize, That would be like me saying all blondes are stupid and easy..God some people dont make any sense
Leoni Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 oh, i know exactly how you feel. i dated a guy with black hair, and he was soooooooo lazy. i will never date a guy with black hair again, no way. you couldn't pay me to. even if i met a perfect man that was totally unlike the other black-haired guys i dated, who swept me off my feet and treated me amazingly and i fell in love with him, no way. i'll go find myself a brilliant blonde before i sink to that level again. With me, it's been the ears. I will no longer date any guy who has ears that stand out, even a little bit. I will also start going to highschools and colleges to lecture on this topic because men with ears that stick out, are bad news.
Cobra_X30 Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 wow this is horrible...You met a few black guys and no you have this horrible perception of african americans you dont have to be black to treat a woman badly and you dont have to be white to treat a woman good. I think its horrible how you generalize, That would be like me saying all blondes are stupid and easy..God some people dont make any sense I wouldnt use that term lightly... because your essentially generalizing the same way she is. Look, race doesnt really exist... its like santa clause... so many people stupidly mistake culture for race. Here is what I want to know. Why is it so rare for poeple to step up and say this? Seriously... if someone has blonde hair... does that make them a different race from someone with brown hair? It's an antiquated stupid idea... and somebody needs to say something!
Sunblast Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 What the f-ck EVER; most blacks see White women as conquests and there's plenty of black gangs where they rape White women as part of their gang activity, and the same exact thing happens in France with all the Algerians; in fact, they have a thing called the round-about where one black meets a French (White) girl and starts dating her and gains her trust and lures her into his house and then all of his Algerian (black) buddies gang-rape her. Look it up on Google. I've never heard of ONE case of Whites doing that, and that with our absolutely racist, anti-White media! EDIT: And to all the people that cry "racist", you know what, that's cool by me, call me whatever you want -- I'm not worried about you not liking me, I am worried about my girlfriend and sister being SAFE.
Trialbyfire Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 What the f-ck EVER; most blacks see White women as conquests and there's plenty of black gangs where they rape White women as part of their gang activity, and the same exact thing happens in France with all the Algerians; in fact, they have a thing called the round-about where one black meets a French (White) girl and starts dating her and gains her trust and lures her into his house and then all of his Algerian (black) buddies gang-rape her. Look it up on Google. I've never heard of ONE case of Whites doing that, and that with our absolutely racist, anti-White media! EDIT: And to all the people that cry "racist", you know what, that's cool by me, call me whatever you want -- I'm not worried about you not liking me, I am worried about my girlfriend and sister being SAFE. Ever heard of the KKK? I believe the current version wear hoodies.
Sunblast Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 Heh.. this is exactly it. People like OP and I say that we are concerned because of blacks treating us like sh-t and give valid concerns and people like TBF and others cry "racist" (boohoo) and say stupid sh-t about KKK.
Woggle Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 So in other words you went on your little ghetto safari and now that you are ready to settle down you pick a safe white guy. You were attracted to the ghetto like it was some fantasy not realizing that people in the ghetto become thugged out because the enviroment almost forces them to become that way. Most people living in the ghetto would kill for the nice peaceful life that a lot of white suburban kids find boring. It also has nothing to do with their race and everything to do with the type of men you were dating. I am sure that most people would agree that Denzel Washington is a better catch than Kevin Federline.
Trialbyfire Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 Fear of another race is irrational. It's allowing your monkey, chittering in the dark, to drive your attitudes. To dislike a ghetto culture is one thing, to dislike a race because of stereotypes, is foolish. Denzel Washington, Colin Powell and Barack Obama, would beg to differ from the ridiculous stereotyping...
NYCHottie Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 :bunny:Just wait until she dates some schmucky white guys, then she will be back saying white guys suck, too, and now shes moving on to the Latinos...
Trialbyfire Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 My ex-H, the cheater, is white. All white men cheat.
Moose Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 My ex-H, the cheater, is white. All white men cheat. I'm must not be white then??? My best friend in the entire world, (besides Mrs. Moose), is black. His wife is white. I don't see anything at all wrong with it at all. Now if he was all, "gansta"......then I might have a problem with it, then again, we probably wouldn't even be friends at that point....
burning 4 revenge Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 It's allowing your monkey, chittering in the dark, to drive your attitudes. I don't think you need to be calling anyone a monkey
Moose Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 I'm must not be white then??? My best friend in the entire world, (besides Mrs. Moose), is black. His wife is white. I don't see anything at all wrong with it at all. Now if he was all, "gansta"......then I might have a problem with it, then again, we probably wouldn't even be friends at that point....Come to think of it, I'd have a problem if SHE was a gangsta too.....
Trialbyfire Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 We all have a little primordial monkey inside of us. Most civilized people have learned to stifle the little git, telling it to shaddup and stop being irrationally afraid of every little sound it hears. We've learned that the paintings on the wall displaying scary monsters, doesn't mean those monsters exist.
Rooster_DAR Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 Like my GF says, Go white and you get it right! LOL
allina Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 I went through most of the replies here but not all, sorry if I repeat what someone already said. If anything your past should have shown you that anyone can be trashy or ghetto. This wasn't about the race of men you chose, you were trashy and "ghetto" yourself (you admitted) so you chose men who were on your level. Once you grew up and stopped idealizing "ghetto" culture you found a man who who was now on your level. It's not about stopping dating black men and starting to date white men, it's your shift in what traits you looked for in a man. Please keep in mind that there are brilliant black men, successful black men, loyal black men and ghetto, trashy black men JUST LIKE WHITE MEN. Quality men come in all shapes and colors, race doesn't determine the quality of a man (I can't believe I have to say this in almost 2008 ) I don't want to attack you personally but I urge you to rethink your position here. It is opinions like yours that keep us from moving forward.
Rooster_DAR Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 I went through most of the replies here but not all, sorry if I repeat what someone already said. If anything your past should have shown you that anyone can be trashy or ghetto. This wasn't about the race of men you chose, you were trashy and "ghetto" yourself (you admitted) so you chose men who were on your level. Once you grew up and stopped idealizing "ghetto" culture you found a man who who was now on your level. It's not about stopping dating black men and starting to date white men, it's your shift in what traits you looked for in a man. Please keep in mind that there are brilliant black men, successful black men, loyal black men and ghetto, trashy black men JUST LIKE WHITE MEN. Quality men come in all shapes and colors, race doesn't determine the quality of a man (I can't believe I have to say this in almost 2008 ) I don't want to attack you personally but I urge you to rethink your position here. It is opinions like yours that keep us from moving forward. All kidding aside on my last post, I agree here as well. Cheers!
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