He's moving to be with her

[Grace112]

My ex-fiancee called off the wedding a little over 3 months ago - exactly 6 weeks before the ceremony as to take place. Soon after our break-up, he became involved with a new woman who lives on the other side of the country. I just found out he's now looking for jobs where she lives so he can be with her.

 

I am heart-broken. We have broken up and gotten back together a few times over the past several years so despite him calling off the wedding, I've always felt like we'd have a chance to get back together - maybe not tomorrow but somewhere down the road. How can he possibly be thinking about moving to be closer to someone else when we were literally going to get married just a few months ago? It seems so unreal to me. When I start thinking about it, I get so sick to my stomach that I want to vomit. Is our 5 year love affair really something that can be pushed so far to the back of his memory that he's willing to give up any chance of us? It makes me feel worthless

[guinea01]

That kinda thing happened to me too.

It was about 2 months after we broke up, that he moved to the opposite end of the country, and took her with him! It hurt like hell, because that was what we had planned to do together, and he just replaced me with someone else.

 

I dont have any good advice really, its been nearly 5 months since we broke up, and I still have down days. Although they are getting further apart. It sucks, It hurts and the worst part is how worthless it makes you feel.

 

Just try not to let it influence how you feel about yourself, and your ability to have healthy relationships in the future.

 

We will all get through these challenges. Kia Kaha - stay strong.

[sb129]

Guinea- I hope the end of the country he moved to was the arse end of it.

 

Not sure whether you are from Nth or Sth Is so will reserve comments! (I am from Nth Is, but have soft spot for Sth).

 

Grace, you know, it might not seem like it right now, but this guy has done you a favour.

He has opened the door for you to find someone that REALLY wants to be with you, and won't trample on your feelings with the break up/ getting together cycle.

 

YOU aren't worthless, you just fell in love with someone who didn't return your feelings- that isn't a crime, and it doesn't make you any less loveable.

Imagine if you had gotten married, and then he had done it- much easier that its done now.

 

If it makes either of you feel any better, I bet the new GFs that your exes have are PARANOID about the two of you, hence the push to move so far away. I would bet money that Grace's ex won't be proposing to his new GF anytime soon, and I bet she knows it, and isn't happy about it at all.