Ohio_isforLovers Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 Well yesterday was my birthday hooray! 18 Finnallly!! Anyways I've been hanging around my ex for the past two weeks non stop like we would go out to dinners and movies and we would hook up and stuff. Well yesterday we chilled because it was my birthday and she wanted to for that reason. Well she was in a bad mood and like wouldn't talk to me or anything just laugh here and there. We ended up staying in her bedroom snuggling up in her bed. We started kissing and such and hugging. Then she told me "im only doing this for your birthday?" I'm like what???? She was like "yeah i don't care if u kiss me or anything it dosen't matter to me" after she said that i get all mad and leave and shes like "im sorry" i don't feel good right now. I ask her "wants wrong with her?" She replies "I need time for myself i'm like ok. and that i feel like its such a bad thing for you to like me cause i don't wanna hurt you again" I'm like "wtf are you talking i told i'm not gonna give up on you!" Well after that was over i celebrated my b-day at my house and shes over. We ended up chilling in my bedroom again! lol Well i kissed her and she told me the same thing "i'm only doing this for your birthday". I ask her what about the other days before that we kissed. Shes like "no that was different." Im like oh okay? So i asked her again is it true that you started having feelings for me again and shes like "yeah but only a little since that day on monday" Well at this point i felt like i shoudnt of asked her this but i told her "so are you gonna be like this with every guys birthday?" In a joking way. She replies " I danno? probally not" im like what? what you meen you danno! Shes like " Well if something happens it happens" I think she said that because shes the type of person who says that with everhting. But i danno... So im here to ask the community a question what shall i do? to get this girl in my arms again??
peace_pipe Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 Well yesterday was my birthday hooray! 18 Finnallly!! Anyways I've been hanging around my ex for the past two weeks non stop like we would go out to dinners and movies and we would hook up and stuff. Well yesterday we chilled because it was my birthday and she wanted to for that reason. Well she was in a bad mood and like wouldn't talk to me or anything just laugh here and there. We ended up staying in her bedroom snuggling up in her bed. We started kissing and such and hugging. Then she told me "im only doing this for your birthday?" I'm like what???? She was like "yeah i don't care if u kiss me or anything it dosen't matter to me" after she said that i get all mad and leave and shes like "im sorry" i don't feel good right now. I ask her "wants wrong with her?" She replies "I need time for myself i'm like ok. and that i feel like its such a bad thing for you to like me cause i don't wanna hurt you again" I'm like "wtf are you talking i told i'm not gonna give up on you!" Well after that was over i celebrated my b-day at my house and shes over. We ended up chilling in my bedroom again! lol Well i kissed her and she told me the same thing "i'm only doing this for your birthday". I ask her what about the other days before that we kissed. Shes like "no that was different." Im like oh okay? So i asked her again is it true that you started having feelings for me again and shes like "yeah but only a little since that day on monday" Well at this point i felt like i shoudnt of asked her this but i told her "so are you gonna be like this with every guys birthday?" In a joking way. She replies " I danno? probally not" im like what? what you meen you danno! Shes like " Well if something happens it happens" I think she said that because shes the type of person who says that with everhting. But i danno... So im here to ask the community a question what shall i do? to get this girl in my arms again?? First off, she's not your "Ex" because she is still in your life. Ex's are just that because they are removed from your life. I've never been one to believe in being "friends" with your ex. The fact of the matter is people lie to themsleves everyday to make them feel better about everday situations. This is one of those situations. My ex and I don't "chill" on my birthday or any other day. Do i hate her? Absolutely not, but I do recall resaons why she became my ex in the first place. Bottom line: You're either split up or you aren't. If you continue down this path, expect more of the same.
peace_pipe Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 So im here to ask the community a question what shall i do? to get this girl in my arms again?? Date other women, have sex with other women. Keep this one on the back burner and you'll find out real quick what her intentions are.
Author Ohio_isforLovers Posted November 2, 2007 Author Posted November 2, 2007 I understand but shes confusing... Just yesterday she called me right after work and asked if we could hang out at my house we did till like midnight! From 7 to 12 between those times we kissed and got intimate not full on sex but touching and stuff. Im still confused she would kiss me for awhile and then stop and look at me and say "this dosent meen anything to me" and just give a sad expression. I lift her head up to me and tell her to look at me and i dont say anythign and i continue to kiss her. lol Well i feel like shes confused alot and she dosent want a relationship with no one right now. Cause thats what she told me and that she dosent have feelings for no one except for me which is little. But as this is happening she wants to full around with me? I need a little more help?
jcster Posted November 2, 2007 Posted November 2, 2007 Well i feel like shes confused alot and she dosent want a relationship with no one right now. Cause thats what she told me and that she dosent have feelings for no one except for me which is little. But as this is happening she wants to full around with me? I need a little more help? I think you're right - she is confused and she really doesn't want to be in a relationship with anyone right now. She's hanging around you because you are obviously still into her, and it's better than nothing. I'm assuming that she's around your age...and that's an incredibly difficult time for young women. We make a lot of mistakes in love and relationships, and we truly have no idea what we really feel. A lot of young women will mistake being needed for being in love, and this brings out the type of things you've been describing. My advice is to move on. She's telling you the truth - she's only with you because you want her to be - and that's not going to be enough for either of you.
Sean0775 Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 Just walk away. Being alone is better than being a cuddle-bitch.
Lyssa Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 She seems confused and also too young to date. Both of you should move on and go separate ways.
LoisLane Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 Drop the girl already. She's not worth your time. Anyone that is playing around, not knowing what she wants, wants to be around till someone better comes along - waste of time. What kind of a girl makes out with a guy because it's his birthday?? If she really did that for her guy frens, then wow - she must have really gotten around.
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