What I would like.....

[Cobra_X30]

Oh ok, I mentioned car because here it seems to be important or at least useful especially when dating. I have been asked a few times do you have a car, so am able to meet up with them.

 

Also means more independence, not realiant on a SO to get me around?? Surely a good and important thing??

 

Well, with a car there are some cultural differences. Where I come from if you dont have a car... you have a really big problem. Compared to New York where you dont need one.

[peace_pipe]

This is just an example, but my point is that you might do well to put yourself in places the sort of men you want go, and judging by your track record, the internet is not that place.

 

Once again people, the same folks on the internet are the same people in the real world.

 

Internet users don't crawl out from under a rock to use thier PC...

[MR2Aaron]

Once again people, the same folks on the internet are the same people in the real world.

 

Internet users don't crawl out from under a rock to use thier PC...

 

Right, but the demographic that goes to autocrosses (again, just an example) is not necessarily the same demographic that uses Match.com. I'm sure there's some overlap if you look at a large enough sample, but it's not the same group. Same with anything else - join a recreational softball league and I'm sure you'll meet a different group of people than you would at an autocross, star trek convention, or college town shot bar.

 

Sure, the person you meet on Match (or Eharmony or Yahoo Personals, etc) has a real-life identity, but if you did an exhaustive study of Match's user base, I expect you'd find that there are certain demographics that are underrepresented in comparison to the population at large.

[Sean0775]

I didn't say you list them out while you're on a date. Who's that stupid to do that?

 

Well, if you're only getting dates from the Internet dating sites instead of RL then... doesn't that tell you something?

 

I'm sorry... I just find something might just be wrong with you.

So because someone doesn't like things such as bars, parties, randomly flirting with people while they grocery shop, etc, it means there's something wrong with them? Sorry, but that's some seriously flawed logic. The thought that anyone who isn't a social butterfly doesn't have confidence or self esteem is very narrow-minded.

[bigheartkindsoul]

So because someone doesn't like things such as bars, parties, randomly flirting with people while they grocery shop, etc, it means there's something wrong with them? Sorry, but that's some seriously flawed logic. The thought that anyone who isn't a social butterfly doesn't have confidence or self esteem is very narrow-minded.

 

Thank you Sean.

 

just to confirm I do not have 3eyes, a ladies moushtache or goatie, look like a bloke, talk funny or anything else like that wrong with me.

 

I do go out quite alot, in fact hell of alot as already said I go out to bars, restauarants, out in London, out with friends all over, work do's, Fencing Lessons (just starting), gym & swimming, also business networking events - so probably am more social than alot of people.

 

Is there something wrong with me? No I do not think so, am more friendly than most girls in the UK I see out, smile more than they do, would never diss a guy for trying and am receptive to people talking with me.

 

Being in a Sales role as an Account Manager for a Finance company I have to be good with people and have good conversational skills.

 

Ok I do not approach guys in bars or wherever however am receptive and polite if I am approached.

 

I also would like to say that I do believe that UK is different to US, does the person at the theme park ride operator in UK talk to you ask about you day and how are things going, no they do not. Do UK people talk to each other in the UK, not really. For instance as a single female when out with a girlfriend would a couple start talking to us just to be friendly, NO they would not, however when on holiday with a girlfriend, get UK couples talking to us all the time over the tables at dinner or in a bar.

 

Its just not the done thing in the UK, so yes there is a difference. Come to the UK and witness to yourself. I've just come back from the states and had more strangers talk to me there in two weeks than I have in the whole year in UK.

 

My aim of this thread was to vent my frustrations I felt this morning, get things off my chest as alot of people do on here about allsorts of topics I guess some people are either jealous or just lack in compassion for those struggling or trying to understand how things happen or work with anything including myself in the dating/SO world.

[LoisLane]

So because someone doesn't like things such as bars, parties, randomly flirting with people while they grocery shop, etc, it means there's something wrong with them? Sorry, but that's some seriously flawed logic. The thought that anyone who isn't a social butterfly doesn't have confidence or self esteem is very narrow-minded.

 

Did I say that? I was so sure I didn't but if I did, that was not what I meant. Thanks anyway but I am in no way, narrow-minded.

[bigheartkindsoul]

I personally know many guys who have a similar outlook, including myself. We are all single.

 

I encourage you to approach the men just as you would have them approach you. Give them the same courtesy that you describe above and it will be returned. If you do this, you won't be single long, trust me. But you have to really do it!!

 

Thank you I will try your suggestion for sure and see how I get on. Again thanks for the words of wisdom and such a great suggestion I do appreciaite it.

[LoisLane]

just to confirm I do not have 3eyes, a ladies moushtache or goatie, look like a bloke, talk funny or anything else like that wrong with me.

 

No one here said you did but what you fail to see is that, you get slightly hurt when someone tells you that you're way too confident or something might be wrong with you. Like I said, I have been where you are right now and I was doing the same thing. Over-analyzing everything about me and people around me.

 

I do go out quite alot, in fact hell of alot as already said I go out to bars, restauarants, out in London, out with friends all over, work do's, Fencing Lessons (just starting), gym & swimming, also business networking events - so probably am more social than alot of people.

 

I'm sorry but the more you post all these incredible things you do, the more arrogant you sound. It's great that you're trying a lot of things right now and you're so lucky to have 28 hours instead of 24 hours like us, well me normal people to do all those wonderful things and hobbies!

 

Is there something wrong with me? No I do not think so, am more friendly than most girls in the UK I see out, smile more than they do, would never diss a guy for trying and am receptive to people talking with me.

 

Well I guess you not being able to find anyone out there means there's nothing wrong with you then, I guess. My bad.

 

Ok I do not approach guys in bars or wherever however am receptive and polite if I am approached.

 

Some men are intimidated by overly confident women so it might just help if you did approach one or two. Does not make you a wh0re.

 

I have been to UK and I honestly did not come across those 'UK people' you talk about. Really. I guess it's just one part of UK, I haven't been too.

 

My aim of this thread was to vent my frustrations I felt this morning, get things off my chest as alot of people do on here about allsorts of topics I guess some people are either jealous or just lack in compassion for those struggling or trying to understand how things happen or work with anything including myself in the dating/SO world.

 

Yes, your thread is just like your other threads. It's all about how beautiful, confident, gorgeous woman you are. If being this confident and beautiful is what it is like, thanks but no thanks. I'm good with the way I am.

 

Maybe you just haven't met a guy that sees you as his cup of tea. I sincerely hope you will one day.

[bigheartkindsoul]

No one here said you did but what you fail to see is that, you get slightly hurt when someone tells you that you're way too confident or something might be wrong with you. Like I said, I have been where you are right now and I was doing the same thing. Over-analyzing everything about me and people around me.

 

 

 

I'm sorry but the more you post all these incredible things you do, the more arrogant you sound. It's great that you're trying a lot of things right now and you're so lucky to have 28 hours instead of 24 hours like us, well me normal people to do all those wonderful things and hobbies!

 

 

 

Well I guess you not being able to find anyone out there means there's nothing wrong with you then, I guess. My bad.

 

 

 

Some men are intimidated by overly confident women so it might just help if you did approach one or two. Does not make you a wh0re.

 

I have been to UK and I honestly did not come across those 'UK people' you talk about. Really. I guess it's just one part of UK, I haven't been too.

 

 

 

Yes, your thread is just like your other threads. It's all about how beautiful, confident, gorgeous woman you are. If being this confident and beautiful is what it is like, thanks but no thanks. I'm good with the way I am.

 

Maybe you just haven't met a guy that sees you as his cup of tea. I sincerely hope you will one day.

 

 

28hrs instead of 24hrs??? Sorry but lost at this we still work on 24hrs, would you be able to expand on what you mean?

 

If you did know me, even if only over the tinternet, you would know that I am not in the least bit arrogant, if I was then would I be asking for help, would I be questioning what is wrong with me as dating material, would I be asking do men like women with curves..............no because arrogant people would probably just say "hey I am the greatest person on earth" no questions asked, no ifs buts or maybes.

 

I am not like that, on here or in real life. I am genuinely a nice person.

[plainoldjared]

No one here said you did but what you fail to see is that, you get slightly hurt when someone tells you that you're way too confident or something might be wrong with you. Like I said, I have been where you are right now and I was doing the same thing. Over-analyzing everything about me and people around me.

 

I'm sorry but the more you post all these incredible things you do, the more arrogant you sound. It's great that you're trying a lot of things right now and you're so lucky to have 28 hours instead of 24 hours like us, well me normal people to do all those wonderful things and hobbies!

 

ok sarcasm does NOTHING, you're positive USEFUL tips are much easier to read and not so uncomfortable. lets not get petty here, keep it clean and USEFUL.

 

loislane you might be trying to help, and tough love seems to be your method but dont get carried away with negativity. keep it positive and sensible, youre good at those.

[bigheartkindsoul]

ok sarcasm does NOTHING, you're positive USEFUL tips are much easier to read and not so uncomfortable. lets not get petty here, keep it clean and USEFUL.

 

loislane you might be trying to help, and tough love seems to be your method but dont get carried away with negativity. keep it positive and sensible, youre good at those.

 

Thank you. You are right I guess some people look for the bad before they see the good and will also always rant on someone, even for doing exactly what they stated is a good idea earlier on.

 

i.e. Meeting people in RL!!!

[Sean0775]

Did I say that? I was so sure I didn't but if I did, that was not what I meant. Thanks anyway but I am in no way, narrow-minded.

Whether you meant it or not, it's certainly what I took from your post. I have a habit of seeing the worst in a given situation though, especially on the internet. People tend to post on forums like this to get helpful advice, and most of them don't respond well to sarcastic remarks saying, "There's something wrong with you".