What I would like.....

[bigheartkindsoul]

Having a bad morning and need to vent off some steam.

 

I'd like from a guy in a relationship

 

Someone who will take my odd bad quality because he appreciates all my good qualities that I have.

 

Someone that will take the rough and the smooth.

 

Someone who is fun and like to go to new places, new country pubs, new restaurants, etc

 

Someone who takes an interest in my interests just as I do there's even if it I don't really like it will make an effort to get involved.

 

Someone who is honest and open just as I am.

 

For all this they get

[Lunar Sonata]

When you find that, then what?

[bigheartkindsoul]

Having a bad morning and need to vent off some steam!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Before I end up in tears

 

I'd like from a guy in a relationship.

 

Someone who will take my odd bad quality because he appreciates all my good qualities that I have.

 

Someone that will take the rough and the smooth.

 

Someone who is fun and like to go to new places, new country pubs, new restaurants, etc.

 

Someone who takes an interest in my interests just as I do there's even if it I don't really like it will make an effort to get involved.

 

Someone who is honest and open just as I am.

 

Someone who doesn't dismiss my feelings and emotions or says they are stupid.

 

For all this they get................

 

Good looking

Blonde

Good body

Great legs, ass & boobs

Funny

Fun

Loves sex

Likes sports

Doesn't like soaps (as in soap operas) one bit

Own car

Good job

Own place

Plenty of own hobbies and friends

Independent

Caring

Kind

Compassionate

Gets on well with almost everyone

Lovely smile

Generous

Comprimising

 

 

They get someone who loves cars, watching top gear, plays golf a little, has alot of get up and go, has high sex drive and always iniciating it too. A girl who will happily go shopping on her own and infact 9 times out of 10 prefers it this way.

 

So WTF am I single.

 

Is this really that much too ask.

 

Yeah I do have the odd bad quality but not that bad, and the good far outweighs the bad. Bad is I am a feeling & emotional person, I cry sometimes, sometimes I get stressed a bit sometimes not at someone at something like a PC going dead slow or something not going right, you know what apart from that, there is nothing worth noting.

 

You know what I just donno anymore, I cannot be anymore than I am yet this is not enough for me to have a normal decent LT relationship.

[bigheartkindsoul]

I am not lacking in self esteem, just lacking in confidence in the Opp sex. I just don't get it, I really do not. Heads a mess today with all this *****.

 

And I have to spend the day with my boss having my review & customer appointments - fab! Would rather hibernate.

[LoisLane]

I've been reading your threads. Are you a confident woman? All over I see your posts, you're like telling everyone here how great you are. Are you an attention seeker or what?

[bigheartkindsoul]

I've been reading your threads. Are you a confident woman? All over I see your posts, you're like telling everyone here how great you are. Are you an attention seeker or what?

 

Recovering from a break up, so did my self esteem take a serious knock, yep you bet.

 

Above is a vent, not looking for attention just trying to gain an understanding into opp sex.

 

Guess I must have missed what a public forum like this is about, asking questions and venting your problems? Well this is my problem that I am struggling with.

[Lunar Sonata]

I'd like from a guy in a relationship.

• Someone who will take my odd bad quality because he appreciates all my good qualities that I have.
• Someone that will take the rough and the smooth.
• Someone who is fun and like to go to new places, new country pubs, new restaurants, etc.
• Someone who takes an interest in my interests just as I do there's even if it I don't really like it will make an effort to get involved.
• Someone who is honest and open just as I am.
• Someone who doesn't dismiss my feelings and emotions or says they are stupid.

 

For all this they get................

 

• Good looking
  Blonde
  Good body
  Great legs, ass & boobs
  
• Funny
  Fun
  
• Loves sex
  
• Likes sports
  Doesn't like soaps (as in soap operas) one bit
  Own car Men usu. have this. Not something a man will care about
  Good job See above
  Own place See above, possible detriment.
  Plenty of own hobbies and friends
  
• Independent Awesome!
  
• Caring Even better!
  
• Kind Repetitive!
  
• Compassionate And caring!
  
• Gets on well with almost everyone Cool
  
• Lovely smile oh shi... back to square one are we?
  
• Generous Awesome
  
• Comprimising
  

 

So WTF am I single.

 

Is this really that much too ask.

 

Yeah I do have the odd bad quality but not that bad, and the good far outweighs the bad. Bad is I am a feeling & emotional person, I cry sometimes, sometimes I get stressed a bit sometimes not at someone at something like a PC going dead slow or something not going right, you know what apart from that, there is nothing worth noting.

 

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Your *exchange* list seemed a bit unbalanced and even more so if it's organized by priority. But overall you seem like an awesome catch.

 

The hard truth is you're probably not as attractive as you think you are or/and you are looking (or should I say being looked at) in the wrong places. That or there's something you're not telling us. Anyway, good luck with those appointments!

[LoisLane]

Maybe there is something about you that men just don't get? Overly confident? Intimidating? You might wanna hold back on all these 'good' qualities you have and just relax. Instead of pondering about the 'why aren't my qualities good enough for men to want to stick with me', I suggest you look deep inside yourself. You might just find the 'off' thing about you.

[bigheartkindsoul]

Thank you, what is men USU??? Ta

[Lunar Sonata]

usu. means usually

[Lunar Sonata]

Maybe there is something about you that men just don't get? Overly confident? Intimidating? You might wanna hold back on all these 'good' qualities you have and just relax. Instead of pondering about the 'why aren't my qualities good enough for men to want to stick with me', I suggest you look deep inside yourself. You might just find the 'off' thing about you.

 

Yeah and after going through all that then she might end up just like me. Too freaking perfect and awesome for the world.

[LoisLane]

Your *exchange* list seemed a bit unbalanced and even more so if it's organized by priority. But overall you seem like an awesome catch.

 

The hard truth is you're probably not as attractive as you think you are or/and you are looking (or should I say being looked at) in the wrong places. That or there's something you're not telling us. Anyway, good luck with those appointments!

 

I have to agree with you on this one. Everyone here will tell you, you're a great catch etc because of all the good qualities you possess but I doubt they would if they really know you for real. Anyone can be whoever they want here in the internet life. Yes, some are real but come on, most of them have their alter ego online.. or something.

 

I really hope you meet the man you're looking for. I wouldn't just settle but I would really tone down on my good qualities. Bragging too much about it ain't flattering.

[bigheartkindsoul]

usu. means usually

 

Oh ok, I mentioned car because here it seems to be important or at least useful especially when dating. I have been asked a few times do you have a car, so am able to meet up with them.

 

Also means more independence, not realiant on a SO to get me around?? Surely a good and important thing??

[Briggs55]

I am not lacking in self esteem, just lacking in confidence in the Opp sex.

 

I would still consider this to be the same as lacking self-esteem. But it's only due to one particular area, not as a whole and/or multiple issues. It should be fairly easy for you to get over it because you seem so secure in yourself and your beliefs + abilities. But if I may ask, why are you desperate for a relationship? Do you need someone else to make you happy? Do you get that bored by yourself?

[Lunar Sonata]

Oh ok, I mentioned car because here it seems to be important or at least useful especially when dating. I have been asked a few times do you have a car, so am able to meet up with them.

 

Also means more independence, not realiant on a SO to get me around?? Surely a good and important thing??

Whoa whoa whoa...

 

Right now nothing would make me happier (or so I think) than a confident woman who somehow needs me in a way.

 

Don't think it's all roses just because you're a woman who can do everything herself. Men want to feel needed, but not too much!

 

Next time you get asked if you have a car, say it's broken. Maybe then they can offer to pick you up or something!

[bigheartkindsoul]

I have to agree with you on this one. Everyone here will tell you, you're a great catch etc because of all the good qualities you possess but I doubt they would if they really know you for real. Anyone can be whoever they want here in the internet life. Yes, some are real but come on, most of them have their alter ego online.. or something.

 

I really hope you meet the man you're looking for. I wouldn't just settle but I would really tone down on my good qualities. Bragging too much about it ain't flattering.

 

Oh gawd I don't do this in "real life" although what I state is always honest on here and am not different to what I say above. I don't sit at a date and list them out....could you imagine...lol

 

Its just what I see and just struggling with the fact that I cannot seem to meet anyone.

 

I go out alot to allsorts of places, I have hobbies alot of them too, I have a job where I meet alot of clients and also go to networking meetings to do with work, as well as functions etc.

 

When I am out I honestly am such good fun, very relaxed, smiling - yet still do not meet anyone out. The only place I get dates from is Internet dating.

[bigheartkindsoul]

I would still consider this to be the same as lacking self-esteem. But it's only due to one particular area, not as a whole and/or multiple issues. It should be fairly easy for you to get over it because you seem so secure in yourself and your beliefs + abilities. But if I may ask, why are you desperate for a relationship? Do you need someone else to make you happy? Do you get that bored by yourself?

 

No quite happy with my own company and hobbies etc, I would just like as most do that extra special person in my life to love, to be loved, to cherish, to spoil, to do things with. I am 34 been single for 5yrs mostly and at a time in my life where this is what I would very much like in life.

 

Whoa whoa whoa...

 

Right now nothing would make me happier (or so I think) than a confident woman who somehow needs me in a way.

 

Don't think it's all roses just because you're a woman who can do everything herself. Men want to feel needed, but not too much!

 

Next time you get asked if you have a car, say it's broken. Maybe then they can offer to pick you up or something!

 

But if dates are from the internet, its safe driving myself, I wouldn't tell a stranger my address or get in a car with them. Could be a mad axe murderer.

[LoisLane]

Oh gawd I don't do this in "real life" although what I state is always honest on here and am not different to what I say above. I don't sit at a date and list them out....could you imagine...lol

 

I didn't say you list them out while you're on a date. Who's that stupid to do that?

 

Well, if you're only getting dates from the Internet dating sites instead of RL then... doesn't that tell you something?

 

I'm sorry... I just find something might just be wrong with you.

[bigheartkindsoul]

I didn't say you list them out while you're on a date. Who's that stupid to do that?

 

Well, if you're only getting dates from the Internet dating sites instead of RL then... doesn't that tell you something?

 

I'm sorry... I just find something might just be wrong with you.

 

Thanks.

 

well you do not know me so you cannot comment really. have you ever thought it is different in the UK to other places?

 

In UK people don;t talk to people anymore, I try but most keep themselves to themselves.

[Lunar Sonata]

Internet dating pool is full of trash. In the marginal pool of men and women who don't use internet to hide something, there are more quality women than there are quality men.

 

Quality men will be meeting people in real life. Same can go for quality women but since more women are justifiably insecure as opposed to the creepily insecure men, I concluded there are more quality women on the net.

 

I've never hooked up online and never plan to.

[LoisLane]

Thanks.

 

well you do not know me so you cannot comment really. have you ever thought it is different in the UK to other places?

 

In UK people don;t talk to people anymore, I try but most keep themselves to themselves.

 

You're welcome.

 

UK people, US people... they are people. Human beings are almost the same when it comes to attitude/characteristics. If not, then there wouldn't be such a thing as "we have a lot of things in common".

 

You're right. I don't know you but I was somewhat in your place before but I got over myself.

[ahah2322]

Internet dating pool is full of trash. In the marginal pool of men and women who don't use internet to hide something, there are more quality women than there are quality men.

 

i second that. the internet does seem to have a motley group of less-than-stellar characters. maybe you should go out there and meet guys! also, you should be more confident about yourself

[peace_pipe]

Having a bad morning and need to vent off some steam.

 

I'd like from a guy in a relationship

 

Someone who will take my odd bad quality because he appreciates all my good qualities that I have.

 

Someone that will take the rough and the smooth.

 

Someone who is fun and like to go to new places, new country pubs, new restaurants, etc

 

Someone who takes an interest in my interests just as I do there's even if it I don't really like it will make an effort to get involved.

 

Someone who is honest and open just as I am.

 

For all this they get

 

I personally know many guys who have a similar outlook, including myself. We are all single.

 

I encourage you to approach the men just as you would have them approach you. Give them the same courtesy that you describe above and it will be returned. If you do this, you won't be single long, trust me. But you have to really do it!!

[peace_pipe]

i second that. the internet does seem to have a motley group of less-than-stellar characters. maybe you should go out there and meet guys! also, you should be more confident about yourself

 

From my experience, the ratio internet losers to cool people is the same online and those I meet in real life.

 

The internet is not some magical place, remember those people on the internet are the same peeps you see at church...

 

think about it

[MR2Aaron]

 

Yeah I do have the odd bad quality but not that bad, and the good far outweighs the bad. Bad is I am a feeling & emotional person, I cry sometimes, sometimes I get stressed a bit sometimes not at someone at something like a PC going dead slow or something not going right, you know what apart from that, there is nothing worth noting.

 

Are you sure there's nothing worth noting? No one is perfect. Maybe you're excessively messy? Belong to a wacky religious sect that insists that its adherents wear assless chaps on Wednesdays, Thursdays and Saturdays? A little bit too into how awesome a catch you are? I find it every bit as obnoxious when women do that as I'm sure women do when men do it.

 

Maybe you should just try getting out more. I find that I really only get depressed about being single when I spend several weeks without doing any real socializing. I live in a different city than most of my friends, so I sometimes go through periods where I don't have a reason to visit them for three or four weeks. I've previously used autocross (a very inexpensive form of amateur auto racing) as an example of something to try before where as a woman, the odds are in your favor that you'll meet elligible single men, although you'll likely meet some weirdos like me, too. Most clubs that do it are very newbie-friendly, and either have special events where they walk you through it, or have a novice group where they hold your hand at their regular events. This is just an example, but my point is that you might do well to put yourself in places the sort of men you want go, and judging by your track record, the internet is not that place.