italia21bells Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 Okay, so I met this amazing guy from match.com, and he absoutly makes me soo happy, we are planning on meeting this friday after my class to have coffee sooo that on saturday when we go to dinner and a movie, its not soo awakward....soo heres the thing, Im 20, 21 in 3 months, and he just turned 40....he has a 8 yr old son, and is divorced for 6 years, and only dated one girl since....I know im very mature for my age, but I like to laugh and just be happy,but i dont want him to think of me as a young girl that isnt ready for a committed relationship,....Im not going to meet his son till we really know its going somewhere, which i can completly agree with, but today we were talking and he told me that his son wanted to talk to me on the phone, but he was in bed already...which was cute...but Im closer in age to his son than to him....do you think that people will look at us differently since im 20 yrs younger then him? oooo and what do you think would be a good first date apparel? jeans and a cute sweater? or black pants and a sweater??? please help!! I have no one else to talk to about this!!
Lyssa Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 How long have you been talking to this man? Age is just a number, yes but are you sure you want to commit to him? I think at your age, you should go out and get to know more guys. You're still very young and so much more to explore. If you're really going for this, jeans and a cute sweater will do.
Krytie TV Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 How the heck does someone make you sooooo happy when you've never even met??? Of course you're happy, he'san experienced forty year old that knows exactly what to say to an inexperienced 20 year old to get what he wants. Any forty year old that dates 20 yos is a slimy creep. I stand by that. Your post, and the way in which you are totally about to be taken for a complete ride without even being aware, scares the hell out of me. I guarantee a very dramatic end to this situation.
jcster Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 You're 20 years old! Why are you on Match.com?! Go out and meet some guys your age! This guy is back at his house doing the "Snoopy dance" because he suckered some sweet young 20 year old to go out with him! Gah! Please take my advice and BREAK THIS DATE!!!!!
peace_pipe Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 You're 20 years old! Why are you on Match.com?! Go out and meet some guys your age! This guy is back at his house doing the "Snoopy dance" because he suckered some sweet young 20 year old to go out with him! Gah! Please take my advice and BREAK THIS DATE!!!!! Let this thread stand as another testament to my claim that most American women are emotionally unstable.
Sean0775 Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 You're 20 years old! Why are you on Match.com?! Go out and meet some guys your age! This guy is back at his house doing the "Snoopy dance" because he suckered some sweet young 20 year old to go out with him! Gah! Please take my advice and BREAK THIS DATE!!!!! Because the bar scene is a terrible place that no one should go ever if they want a relationship that isn't garbage. Personally, I'm waiting for a pretty girl to trip over a stackbase at work so I can rush over there and make sure she's ok/do the accident report. I'll probably have about as much luck with that as I would in a bar, and maybe more since any girl would know I actually have a job. Don't worry about the age difference. Go out a couple times and see how things feel. If it's awkward, tell him it won't work out, but if it feels right to you, give it a shot.
LikeNoOther Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 20 yrs old with someone almost 20 years older than she is? Unbelievable.
tomwiz Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 thats an insane age difference, I dont care how mature you think you are. If you think you're going to be the same person in 3 years, your crazy. This guy is a creeper.
jcster Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 Let this thread stand as another testament to my claim that most American women are emotionally unstable. Now you're just trolling. Get some therapy...please. The girl is 20 years old...she just doesn't know.
salmagundi Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 Here's what I think: On the one hand earlier today I talked to a guy about 50ish in my education program who told me he's gonna go get work in eastern europe teaching english because...well...because here in Quebec he says he cant get twenty and thirty year old women to go out with him but in the Ukraine he cant beat twenty year old peasant girls off him with a stick. I dont want to talk to him anymore... And honestly, I'm seeing a girl that I'm about 9 years older than and I hesitate...a little bit anyway. But on the other hand my grandfather was a great man who dated and then married a women 19 years younger than him and they were together for almost 50 years. So basically, I dunno. But it might just be the exception proving the rule. I mean, I'm 34 and I can say honestly i have no desire to date anyone under, say 25 because I just think that that would be too young for me. So what makes a forty year old guy with a kid think dating a twenty year old would be a good idea if I wouldn't do it. anyway, salmagundi
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