shadowplay Posted October 31, 2007 Posted October 31, 2007 I'm in a relationship (obviously) and I love my bf, but there's this crush I've harbored for about a year that I still think about quite a bit even though I haven't seen him in over six months and I barely know the guy. The worst part is that this guy is a complete, unmitigated douchebag. In fact even his close friends talk sh$t about him behind his back. He's basically a manwhore who's banged a million chicks. Yet he has this strange hold on my imagination that no other guy seems to. I keep having this fantasy of going to NY and tracking him down and seducing him. I'm rarely attracted to a$$h8les (I swear, usually they're a complete turn off), but he's different. He has this weird, enigmatic, alluring quality. The main thing that reels me in his unusual, biting sense of humor. It's like this combination of slightly deranged, innocent, bizarre and sarcastic, kind of like that user Magichand's. People joke that he straddles the fine line between batsh$t crazy and brilliant, if that makes any sense. His whole personality is this weird clash of innocent and corrupt that I find very enticing for some reason. I get the sense he has a vulnerable side, and I love nothing more than the challenge of trying to unearth that in somebody who's hardened on the surface. I guess the main thing is he seems exciting. He's vibrant and passionate in a way few people are. He also has this glamorous quality. He's very rich and went to one of the best private schools in NY. He's hot and dresses hiply. He does a lot of coke. You know the type. Anyway, I've barely talked to this guy (he went to my college), but he made some suggestive comments to me that kind of freaked me out at the time. I brushed him off but secretly wanted to be with him. Seriously, what is wrong with me?
johan Posted October 31, 2007 Posted October 31, 2007 I don't see why you're beating around the bush so much, shadowplay. If you want to go out on a date with me, just say so! And yes, I do have a vulnerable side that I don't show to many people.
Author shadowplay Posted November 1, 2007 Author Posted November 1, 2007 I don't see why you're beating around the bush so much, shadowplay. If you want to go out on a date with me, just say so! And yes, I do have a vulnerable side that I don't show to many people. I would, but I'm afraid I'd just be the 538th notch in your bedpost.
Krytie TV Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 I would say that you're attracted to him because he's an *********. That basically confirms that some people just set themselves up for trouble. But really everyone, women want nice guys!!! Until they turn out to actually be nice. Then, amazingly, boredom sets in? Really? I never would have guessed it.
Author shadowplay Posted November 1, 2007 Author Posted November 1, 2007 But that's the thing, I'm almost never attracted to *******s and I really do value nice men (not doormats, there's a difference).
Ariadne Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 Well, I think you may be in a phase where you are actually getting over your bf. This is the first sign. You probably got turned off by him somehow. Ariadne
johan Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 I would, but I'm afraid I'd just be the 538th notch in your bedpost. I understand what you're saying. But there are a couple of things I feel like pointing out. One, it's a little ironic that I was jokingly accusing you of expressing interest in me while your post was clearly about someone else. And yet you responded as if I my fake interest was real. And there's even more irony in the fact that you express that concern with me, when in reality my "bedpost" has no notches. And yet this thread is about the crush you have on a guy who you describe as "basically a manwhore who's banged a million chicks." I know what you're really saying to me, about how you assume I am here in LS virtual life. But I do wonder if this real life guy expressed interest in you if you'd say I would, but I'm afraid I'd just be the 538th notch in your bedpost.
Author shadowplay Posted November 1, 2007 Author Posted November 1, 2007 I understand what you're saying. But there are a couple of things I feel like pointing out. One, it's a little ironic that I was jokingly accusing you of expressing interest in me while your post was clearly about someone else. And yet you responded as if I my fake interest was real. And there's even more irony in the fact that you express that concern with me, when in reality my "bedpost" has no notches. And yet this thread is about the crush you have on a guy who you describe as "basically a manwhore who's banged a million chicks." I know what you're really saying to me, about how you assume I am here in LS virtual life. But I do wonder if this real life guy expressed interest in you if you'd say I WAS JOKING. I thought that was pretty clear. Or are you still playing with me? I'm confused.
Kamille Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 I don't see why you're beating around the bush so much, shadowplay. If you want to go out on a date with me, just say so! And yes, I do have a vulnerable side that I don't show to many people. Johan, are you saying you're magichands??? ... thoughts racing.
Kamille Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 Shadow, I don't think you should read so much into your crush. It's normal to have crushes. I don't understand why you're trying to read something into it.
johan Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 I WAS JOKING. I thought that was pretty clear. Or are you still playing with me? I'm confused. Oh. So, you're actually cool with being the 538th notch?? Ok then! Now we're getting somewhere!
squeak Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 Why? Escapism? Something for the mind to dawdle on, to take itself away from day to day realities. The lure of the impossibility of the actual situation. A rejection escape hatch.
Kamille Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 Oh. So, you're actually cool with being the 538th notch?? Ok then! Now we're getting somewhere! I'm still trying to figure out if magic and you are one and the same... multiple personality kind of thing. you both definitely have a great sense of humor and a dark side...
Author shadowplay Posted November 1, 2007 Author Posted November 1, 2007 I'm still trying to figure out if magic and you are one and the same... multiple personality kind of thing. you both definitely have a great sense of humor and a dark side... They're equally funny but Magic Hands seems a bit more deranged/bizarre to me (not in a bad way, though). Johan's more of a sweetheart.
johan Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 I'm still trying to figure out if magic and you are one and the same... multiple personality kind of thing. you both definitely have a great sense of humor and a dark side... Magic was much smarter than I am.
johan Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 They're equally funny but Magic Hands seems a bit more deranged/bizarre to me (not in a bad way, though). Johan's more of a sweetheart. I think you hit the nail right on the head there. Especially that last part.
Kamille Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 I think you hit the nail right on the head there. Especially that last part. did it hurt?
Author shadowplay Posted November 1, 2007 Author Posted November 1, 2007 Plus Johan isn't gay to the best of my knowledge. Maybe Magichands is Johan's gay, evil twin.
Kamille Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 Plus Johan isn't gay to the best of my knowledge. Maybe Magichands is Johan's gay, evil twin. Well I nearly eloped to paris with Magichands, so he is, minimally, bisexual. Or was it ambisexual?
johan Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 Well I nearly eloped to paris with Magichands, so he is, minimally, bisexual. Or was it ambisexual? Why didn't you go through with it? Did your father find out?
Kamille Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 Why didn't you go through with it? Did your father find out? something about visiting the eiffel tower with a pink elephant. I got vertigo. green robots on the other hand...
johan Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 Yeah. But you're deeply, irretrievably in love with someone else. And so is shadowplay. So this can only be hypothetical, i.e. a tease.
Kamille Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 Yeah. But you're deeply, irretrievably in love with someone else. And so is shadowplay. So this can only be hypothetical, i.e. a tease. But all girls need a good solid crush on a man with a great sense of humor and a dark side And wow! we're finally back on topic!
Cobra_X30 Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 Plus Johan isn't gay to the best of my knowledge. Maybe Magichands is Johan's gay, evil twin. Any chance that your crush has anything to do with placing emotional distance between you and the BF? That distance can and will protect you from pain or rejection.
Author shadowplay Posted November 1, 2007 Author Posted November 1, 2007 Any chance that your crush has anything to do with placing emotional distance between you and the BF? That distance can and will protect you from pain or rejection. very possible.
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