waitingwaitingonyou Posted October 31, 2007 Posted October 31, 2007 Well here is my stupid story. I met this girl in Feb. Everything was great until this summer. We were together. She has had problems from before and I found them out too late. I found out she had an aborton, that she sleeps around with other guys and that she does cocain. We broke up on Sunday and I have not contacted her since. It is not Wed. So three days with NC. I want to contact her and try to refule the fire. I found out that she had been seeing another guy behind my back last week and it just didnt work out. I dont want to be with her but I really want her to call just to see how she is. I feel sorry for her. She does not have a great life. I have never done drugs and have a great job now she is just playing the field and sleeping with everyone. I am just wondering. Should I call or should I let it go and move on? I want to call but I doubt she will ever call. I have never done anything to hurt her. She is not a person to admit her faults. She has major problems. So again here is my questions; Should I call her or should i just let it go? Why do i like this person I know that she is the devil? There probabably is no hope in getting back together but I wonder if she is thinking about me. Thanks
Spinderella Posted October 31, 2007 Posted October 31, 2007 It depends on your reasons for wanting to contact her. You said you want to see if she is ok, then you said you want to refuel the fire. It doesnt sound like she is in a place where she can have a serious relationship at the moment. You dont say why you broke up. Did she end it or did you? Perhaps you like her because you can see the real her through the problems. Maybe she just needs a good friend at the moment. But it sounds as though you want more than friendship, and she just doesnt sound like she is ready for that.
Author waitingwaitingonyou Posted November 1, 2007 Author Posted November 1, 2007 found out she cheated on me....while i was at the same party. I broke up with her dude. . I know she aint no good for me... But I do care about her. But i need to get over it! So its just a matter of time you know? But i wanna keep contact but Its not going to work out. Been 3 days nc and havent heard anything. So i really dont think she will call...what should i do if she does call? Should i answer? or just leave the situation alone?
funkybassplayer Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 Put some distance between you and her, and maybe in a few weeks you may be ina better place to give her the support. But sometimes we have to let people make there own mistakes, for them to heal themselves. If she calls i would answer, but make it clear what you want, but as others have said she is not in the space to be in a relationship. Its good that you are willing to forgive her for what she has done, as this will help you move on, and perhaps in th future you can offer her a freinship, and the support if she should want that. At the moment i sounds like you want a relationship, and thats why its goodto put space between you first. Give your emotions time to heal.
Author waitingwaitingonyou Posted November 1, 2007 Author Posted November 1, 2007 Yeah I totally agree. She kinduv screwed me over. I dont want that at all. But time will show. I hope she does change as a person. She should not be living like that. I havent called her in 4 days. She hasnt called me either. I doubt she will call. She is probably really happy with her new life.
funkybassplayer Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 Yeah I totally agree. She kinduv screwed me over. I dont want that at all. But time will show. I hope she does change as a person. She should not be living like that. I havent called her in 4 days. She hasnt called me either. I doubt she will call. She is probably really happy with her new life. To act the way she is, she has alot of deep pain, but the lifestyle that is chooses to lead, is a cover for the inner pain, to make her feel good. Im sure deep down you dont think that she is a happy person. But it is for her to choose how and when she wants if ever to change. Main thing is try to realise that she is deeply hurting (from something in her past) and only she will be able to look for the help when she is ready. Meanwhile, you look to yourself, try not to think about whos not talking to who, that really does not matter in the bigger picture. You have to heal, and move forward for yourself, and if she caomes to you at a later point, and you wish it, maybe you can help her.
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