skeletonindacloset Posted October 31, 2007 Posted October 31, 2007 So my girlfriend and I just broke up because she had cheated on me and I wasn't ever thinking about her at all throughout my day so we were just not working out at all. It actually ended up being a relief. And soo... I got dumped over three years ago by a woman whom I was madly in love with but she had a boyfriend and it all went down badly and they're together and I've been on the pity pot ever since. What I can't seem to get over is how this still consumes me day in and day out. I've been told to talk it out and I talk with a couple of very close friends and I never walk away feeling anything but worse for the wear. I've been told to keep myself busy, to keep the ole noggin occupied with other things and so I go to the gym regularly, I just got done moving, I play in three different bands, I teach guitar on the side, I'm taking piano lessons, reading more, and I wait tables in a hectic restaurant environment. There's a million and one things to occupy my mind and she always finds her way to the forefront of my brain. I've had relationships with four different women since then and all the damn time this ex is on my mind. I don't want to be one of those guys who shouts out another womans name in the throws of passion. I want to move on and become a healthier feeling person but I can't get her out of my head. Hell, I can't even shove her to the side for a brief moment. I'm sick of feeling this way.
waitingwaitingonyou Posted October 31, 2007 Posted October 31, 2007 Im in the same boat dude. I am on NC. We broke up on sunday and I havent talked to her since. But my chick has serious problems. I would say let it go dude. We live and we learn. I am going through hell man. I just want to move on and I think that you shold too. If you wanna chat with me buddy then we should talk on AIM or something. Chill out... Collect your thoughts and move on to the next one.
Author skeletonindacloset Posted October 31, 2007 Author Posted October 31, 2007 That's what I've been trying to do for over three years. Sex, drugs, and rock&roll haven't worked, old fashioned physical labor, talking it out, crying, you name it. None of this crap has done a damn thing for me. It's been three years and I want to get my life back.
Krying Posted October 31, 2007 Posted October 31, 2007 I know the feeling skeleton. As stupid as this sounds, I'm looking for my ex in other people right now, thinking that I will experience what I did with her, with someone new. I came across some documentary footage today of people committing suicide by jumping of the Golden State Bridge. I always thought they were total losers and life surely can't be that bad. But I'm starting to really hate my life. I hate hearing things happen for a reason and it's all actually supposed to be good. What good am I experiencing in my life right now. None. I can't even get a date on craigslist for crying out loud lol. So I guess I'm just supposed to bury my head in the sand, and forget my ex. But how do you erase some of the most memorable and happy moments I've ever experienced. Rather than wanting to let it go, I want more. Life sucks. Holidays suck.
kittensmittens Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 Krying....I really know how you feel. I'm going through the same thing. I don't know why this sounds cliche (b/c I don't know where or what it's from) but letting go is truly the hardest part, I think. I feel like I don't want to let go, I didn't want it to end, I have seriously had the sh*tiest time in my life since then, I really tried to be optimistic but life just kept throwing more crap at me, and I just want him BACK now. I just want my life back the way it was, I want my home back, I want my happiness back, and I want the memories with him to continue being made. We're probably only missing out on making more happy memories that might even be better, or at the very least, as good as the ones we're stuck on (or so I'm told). But damn it, it's hard to let go! Just know that you're not alone and hang in there.... PS--I'm not excited about the holidays one bit either. AND my birthday is thrown into the mix...
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