If you're not interested in sex, are you out of love?

[complicatedlife]

Just out of curiosity:

 

If a woman is married with children - she is 36- and is not interested in sex with her husband - he complains about it and she says I can tolerate it once every other week (which he does not like), she is not affectionate towards him, but is very "nice" half of the time, the other times distant - does this mean she doesn't love her husband romantically anymore? She is, however, able to maintain very good and close relationships with her girlfriends and family members - just not with her husband. When sex does happens, she is multi-orgasmic (or so he thinks!), yet won't want sex the next day (which I find weird - multiples and you don't want that at least several times per week?). Now that there is a legal separation, they are in counseling but she refuses to engage in any intimacy at all and has not since June. She does not work (that may or may not provide insight).

 

What do you guys think? (I asked a friend, and she thinks she's gay - I think she's just out of love.)

[reboot]

There are a lot of reasons for someone to be disinterested in sex besides "falling out of love" with their partner. Does she know he's been cheating? That will do it every time.

[complicatedlife]

There are a lot of reasons for someone to be disinterested in sex besides "falling out of love" with their partner. Does she know he's been cheating? That will do it every time.

 

And it has been that way for 9 years.

[tinke]

possibly there is a history of sexual abuse.