ladybug63 Posted October 31, 2007 Posted October 31, 2007 Has been a minute since I spoke with mm. on my way to work yesterday ran into him. He began to talk I listened (probably not the best thing to have done). Said things are tore up at home (again not because of me.) Said he wanted to patch things up there. I'm looking at him like ok why are you telling me that. He still want to maintain a friendship with me. I told him he don't have to remain friends with me because he think I will expose him. Just let it go. It is already hard enough trying to deal with letting go but if he want to still hold on as a friend that makes it even more difficult. I was doing fine until I saw him and spoke with him. He promised we would not be intimate but just remain friends. I am a strong person but with all the things he said he was dealing with at home, I just don't know. I told him I thought it would be easier for him to work things out at home without the complication of dealing outside, he said let's just see how it go. I just would find it a little easier to deal with him trying to get over him than to just remain friends. Because it would be like I will call because I know he will be there. When I need something he will grant it.So can someone advise me why in the world is the friendship so important rather than just letting go?
reboot Posted October 31, 2007 Posted October 31, 2007 It keeps you in a backup role, just in case things don't work out at home.
TogetherForever Posted October 31, 2007 Posted October 31, 2007 He just wants to make sure someone is there who he can fall back on. TF
nadiaj2727 Posted October 31, 2007 Posted October 31, 2007 Do be his friend, it won't let you be able to move on emotionally on your own. It will hold you back and make you feel like you're still waiting for him. Just move on hon, find new friends and a better (single) man.
frannie Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 For him? Backburner woman, ego-massager, an ear for when he's feeling down... what's in it for you..? Nothing.
KATANYA Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 I know there are a few exMM on this site (more so recently it seems) so I would like to hear from any exMM on why they do this? BS and exOW/OW all feel pretty much the same way in that its the old 'keep her on the back burner in case" theory but, in all fairness, we also all say the same thing being the M doesn't end. Maybe MM really feels he is OW's friend and, if Ladybug wants that, great. If she doesn't, then NC is in full order. I'd really love to hear exMM's take on this - anyone around?
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