Pentula77 Posted October 31, 2007 Posted October 31, 2007 I have met a few girls online with the first meeting being coffee and a chat. More often than not I've enjoyed meeting these girls and they have suggested calling them. The thing I find difficult though is when you don't want to take things further. How is the best way to handle this ? Would you expect an email ? I guess what I'm trying to say is that I find online dating weird...when you express interest online how can it be real until you have met the person ? but before you have met the person you have built up some kind of connection otherwise you wouldn't have met up
curiousnycgirl Posted October 31, 2007 Posted October 31, 2007 It is true when you meet on line you build up expectations that are often not met when you meet in person - that is why I always encourage people to meet as soon as possible rather than having long, drawn out IM and email exchanges. The most polite thing to do would be to tell someone that you don't feel a connection when you are face to face. Absent that the next best is telephone. Of course reality is that in today's day and age many people just send an email or IM. It really is pretty rude and cowardly to go that route, but I guess a natural follow on to meeting on line, is dumping on line too.
Timberlane Posted October 31, 2007 Posted October 31, 2007 Actually, since you are initially meeting online, the e-mail message to show you are not interested to me feels better to get. I don't have to worry about displaying my disappointment and finding a way out of the conversation. Contrary to what you might think, it's more considerate. If you have known the person for a while and there are feelings involved, then yes, see them or call.
compassion42 Posted October 31, 2007 Posted October 31, 2007 I agree, light hearted"it was fun meeting you" email would be fine. I'm not sure if even being specific about not feeling a connection in person is necessary. Just don't initiate getting together again.
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