chickadee07 Posted October 31, 2007 Posted October 31, 2007 :lmao:hi ok so heres the deal. i met the man of my dreams on the internet, but we live in the same town. we had four perfect weeks together, in four weeks we spent i think 3 nights apart and even then we were talking on the internet, we just felt so comfortable and in love straight away. about two weeks in he was told that he was going away for work for five weeks, knew it was coming and it made me cry (trust me i never cry but mention him or the fact that he's away and bam i start bawling) before he left we discussed moving in together when he came home and he hinted around the fact that in six months if everything is still going strong he would propose, so eventually that devastating day came, i drove him to the airport and sobbed all the two hour drive home. now it's been just over a week since he left but he's not coming home for another three or four weeks. he rings or texts me everyday a couple of times. i still miss him unbearably but over the last couple of days it's been extra hard, when we talk on the phone the conversation becomes stale, i don't want to talk about how much i miss him because that just makes me cry and he wants me to be strong and there's only so much we can talk with what is going on in our everyday lives. i'm really worried that with the time apart and the distance he will feel differently when he comes home. and i really wish he would just come home, i think it's the lonliest that the hardest, i don't know anyone that has a loved one working away, so i'd love to talk to other people in the same situation
Els Posted October 31, 2007 Posted October 31, 2007 Perhaps this isn't the best way, but it's the most effective one for me: Thinking about how lucky you are compared to others. After all, 4-5 weeks seem a lot shorter when there are people waiting months to see their bf/gf, hey? On a side note, if a relationship really does fall apart due to 5 weeks of distance, I honestly don't think it was worth investing in anyway. If he can change his mind because of 5 weeks apart... what about if you put on weight? If one of you gets too busy to see the other much? There will be so many other, potentially harder things that every relationship has to go through. Think of it as a test of sorts, perhaps. Then again, all logical thinking aside, I remember when I sent my guy to the airport as well. And I remember how totally, totally ****ty I felt on the way back. So don't worry, there's lots of other people going through this.
dancinggal Posted October 31, 2007 Posted October 31, 2007 Oh yeah, you've been bitten by the love bug, lol. I'm not going to be seeing my boyfriend for another 4 months (we've already done 4, so we're half way there!!!) I keep super, super busy, hang out with all my friends, go out on the weekends, if I'm not doing anything, rent some videos, get some ice-cream and hang out by myself, lol. Just stuff to keep me away from thinkng too much about how much I mis him. When things get really tough (and they do), I plan stuff for our future, like look at apartments we could rent together, or go funiture shopping, write him sappy, sappy letters, stuff like that. Maybe you could plan some fun stuff for when you get to see him again? Find new stuff to do with your time and it will fly (I wish we only had 4 or 5 weeks to go! Oh well, soon the waiting will be over). Don't forget to communicate heaps, be open about your feelings. I know it can get lonely, and I'm the same, none of my friends have to deal with anything like this, but keep smiling, its worth it remember? As for if he will feel the same way when he gets back, I have the same fears. But you have to remember, he agreed to do this for a reason too.
Author chickadee07 Posted November 1, 2007 Author Posted November 1, 2007 thank you guys yoiu are both so right. he messaged me this morning when came off night shift to say that he hopes i'm safe and well so i guess i'm in his thoughts as much as he's in mine...still miss him like crazy though. and really after reading other people's stories i should be thankfull i have only three weeks left and not three months like some of them poor things.
I Luv the Chariot OH Posted November 2, 2007 Posted November 2, 2007 i'm really worried that with the time apart and the distance he will feel differently when he comes home. and i really wish he would just come home, i think it's the lonliest that the hardest, i don't know anyone that has a loved one working away, so i'd love to talk to other people in the same situation You've only been together four weeks, but you're planning on moving in together when he gets back, and getting married in six months? How old are you? I think if you've having doubts like that, you probably (definitely) not ready to be thinking of that sort of stuff. Why do you need to rush everything if he's right for you?
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