bigheartkindsoul Posted October 30, 2007 Posted October 30, 2007 So first date since BU, not for me was a little dull and didn't even buy me a diet coke!!! Lol Provisional date for next Friday and potential one that called on my way home from date this evening, who sounds like fun. So fingers crossed, hard work this dating stuff but alot of fun too. One question though if you don't like someone or think that there isn't anything there, how do you break it too them? I don't like to be horrible and rejected people. Seriously I hate doing it, feeel so bad???
Timberlane Posted October 30, 2007 Posted October 30, 2007 Aw, I'm sorry to hear that. Hopefully he was just a nervous, socially inept but ultimately very sweet and exciting guy. If not, we still are all over here strewn about the planet desperately swooning for you. Seriously. You never know how many dates it is going to take to meet the kind of guy you would like to start seeing. Don't get too discouraged. My date is tomorrow as well as a job interview. So a lot of presenting myself in a good light all around. I will need a cocktail at some point in the evening I am quite certain. As for telling someone you aren't interested, it's not too bad to hear that from someone as far as I'm concerned. It's sometimes better than hearing nothing.
oppath Posted October 31, 2007 Posted October 31, 2007 It's easy, you just say "Thanks, I had a lot of fun, and you are a great guy, but I don't think we are a match." I've said it and never seen the person upset, and I've had people say that to me and I haven't felt upset. It saves me a phone call or two made their direction for them to let me know -- which makes my dating easier -- and it makes their dating easier because they don't have to deal with me calling.
Timberlane Posted October 31, 2007 Posted October 31, 2007 I definitely prefer to read it in a message rather than getting a phone call, or worse, hearing after having a nice dinner! That happened to me once. I could have been doing something with friends that night, but instead I was getting pink slipped.
oppath Posted October 31, 2007 Posted October 31, 2007 Yes, if it is only 1-or-2 dates, an email is fine, especially if it is online dating. Just say "thanks, I really enjoyed our conversations, but I think we are different people. Best of luck in your dating life." It takes 30 seconds and you won't have to deal with them calling you for more dates, and they will know not to call.
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted October 31, 2007 Author Posted October 31, 2007 Thank you friends. I will send him an email as this seems to be acceptable. Although not for me, meeting new people is always fun so no regrets, and its nice to go out to different places aswell. Probably gave him a little boost too I hope, so even though I am not the one he might have polished his skills a little on me so next time is easier for him. Gawd I am too nice Anyways onto the next. LMAO
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