eroei Posted October 30, 2007 Posted October 30, 2007 I've tried about every online dating site there is, you name it. Free ones, paid ones, social networks such as the most popular ones (and they have combined membership that tops the entire population of North America!) and I have yet to find my twinsoul aka soulmate. It almost feels like a SETI ARECIBO search, one that is against every odd, one in a trillion, next to impossible. The world is huge, 6.7 billion is a very very very large number indeed. Finding our soulmate in person is mathematically impossible. If we spent just 10 seconds to get to 'know someone' a 'first impression' (about the time it takes for our subconcious to register if we like the person or not) it would take 2100+ years!!!! So therefore we must leverage the power of the internet and instantaneously mass broadcast communication in order to have any hope of finding him her.. Does anyone have any valid ideas of how to accomplish this? Bo Chen
Art_Critic Posted October 30, 2007 Posted October 30, 2007 Start by dropping the word soulmate.. that sounds desperate.. Your whole page weeps of desperation.. something tells me that the women you are trying to date see this..
quankanne Posted October 30, 2007 Posted October 30, 2007 oh, honey, just a word of advice from someone old enough to be your mama: Don't publicize personal information like where you live or your phone number because there are nutcases out there who wouldn't think twice about coming to your door and hurting you, all because you were naive enough to post that kind of information on the internet! as for your soulmate ... well, the best advice is to stop obsessing over the fact that you haven't found one yet, and that person who is your other half will appear in your life. Mind you, it might not be who or what you expect, because your soulmate isn't limited to the perfect person of the opposite sex, but someone who embodies what a true friendship is. And I've heard people say it's a relative, a lover, a buddy, even a pet. Mine are my two best friends, who know me and love me better than anyone ever could, except maybe my mom. And she was my biggest soulmate because we truly were the best of each other ...
dancinggal Posted October 30, 2007 Posted October 30, 2007 Babe, I think the best way to be finding your 'soulmate' (or a future SO) is to be out there having a good time. I'm a little wary of internet dating sites, just because its not as spontaneous as meeting someone in real life, getting to know them and falling in love with them without intent. Go out a lot, take up new classes at the gym or hobbies, go for lots of walks around your local park, do ANYTHING to get out of the house and make sure you have a great time doing it. Don't concentrate on finding 'the one', just have fun in your life and believe me, people will be attracted to that.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 30, 2007 Posted October 30, 2007 I've tried about every online dating site there is, you name it. Free ones, paid ones, social networks such as the most popular ones (and they have combined membership that tops the entire population of North America!) and I have yet to find my twinsoul aka soulmate. It almost feels like a SETI ARECIBO search, one that is against every odd, one in a trillion, next to impossible. The world is huge, 6.7 billion is a very very very large number indeed. Finding our soulmate in person is mathematically impossible. If we spent just 10 seconds to get to 'know someone' a 'first impression' (about the time it takes for our subconcious to register if we like the person or not) it would take 2100+ years!!!! So therefore we must leverage the power of the internet and instantaneously mass broadcast communication in order to have any hope of finding him her.. Does anyone have any valid ideas of how to accomplish this? Bo Chen Yes, (as stated before) write the word "soulmate" out of your vocabulary. They do not exist. If they did, yours would be working at a dry cleaners in Rwanda, and never sitting behind you in grade 11 Math class. Then coax yourself into realizing that you really could be compatable with perhaps 40-70% of those in the age-and-gender range you'd be interested in dating. Then, since you are happy to use the internet in assisting your search, make it your goal to do your best to interact with prospects ONLINE-ONLY for quite some time beFORE you even consent to moving to telephone conversation, and do that for a little while before meeting in person. Upon first real-life meeting, you want it as your goal that you each have plenty of familiarity with the "pawns" in the everyday life of the other, so that you can simply have the instincts to ask the right questions which will keep the conversation flowing. This will be tremendously easy because you've done so much online preparation. It will also weed-out those whose attention spans are about as long as their lipstick cases as well as weeding-out those whose only interest in you is sex. Once youuuuuuuuuuuuu witness yourself AND a woman engaged and challenged (in the best context) by face-to-face conversation, even though you just met, you will be far more intrigued over the chance to get back together with her than you would have been, if the exact same human being had approached you at a bar or on your lunch break at work. Instead of doing so very much work in processing the 6.7 billion data bits out there, you would better spend your time if endeavoring only to make yourself more vulnerable TO the onset of a loving relationship. Stop giving-in to those who think you should go out and meet after 90 minutes of messaging just because you have in common the fact that you each stop at the same Starbucks on two mornings a week. Stop agreeing to those dates made through online personals after just one *wink* and a brief chat with someone. Of course you're going to get there and both have nothing of substance to say to one another, and you're going to blame each other for this, and not accept that the real reason is a lack of sufficient preparation and ground-work. When you've mastered these, come back and offer us a progress report, and perhaps we can fine-tune the rest (wink! - LOL)
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