passionateconfusion Posted October 31, 2007 Posted October 31, 2007 I don't think you are for real. Others have mentioned your other post about being an old dried-up all alone 50-year-old with two grown children who don't love you. I think you are either making up stories for attention (at least one of those stories has to be completely fabricated) or you are completely dillusional. Whoever you really are, I suggest you go to therapy. And if you really do have this poor little 1-year-old child, please please go to therapy!!! The term 'gold digger' seems to come to mind when I read this post. You give women a bad name. I love him, of course I would love to have a life with him You certainly have a funny way of showing it - yes, suing the man - brilliant idea ...
LexiB Posted October 31, 2007 Posted October 31, 2007 I researched this issue a little on Lexis (law student, I confess ). Pretty much checks out word for word as the OP said... EXCEPT that the statues I found granting exclusive rights of the home to the custodial parent only applied to couples who once were married. Admittedly, i only looked at federal law but I'm guessing I either missed some state law that applies the same way to unmarried couples, or your attorney's technique is going to be to broaden the scope of the existing law to include you? Either way, good luck with all of this and please keep us posted as much as you can - particularly on your attorney's reasoning in this case, just for all us legal geeks out here PS - congrats on your decision to leave an unhealthy relationship. Whatever amount of money this guy has to pay out, good. Serves him right for cheating in the first place.
Trimmer Posted October 31, 2007 Posted October 31, 2007 PS - congrats on your decision to leave an unhealthy relationship. Whatever amount of money this guy has to pay out, good. Serves him right for cheating in the first place. Heh... Don't congratulate her along those lines until you've reviewed this thread where she reports that things have apparently taken a turn... Hard to say whether it's a turn "for the better" or not; I suppose that's all a matter of perspective. I will also note that the last we heard from her was her post of: "OMG!!!! I AM SO HAPPY - I DONT KNOW WHAT TO SAY---I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO??? IS THIS REALLY HAPPENING??? HE WANTS TO MARRY ME???", and that since then, she hasn't posted any followups for almost a full day now.... I hope that after hearing this surprisingly sudden news from an apparently wealthy, powerful, manipulative, and controlling man with a lot to lose - one whose reaction she fully expected to be "rage", and one who has claimed he could make her "disappear" - she didn't end up needing that bodyguard after all...
Trimmer Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 pjean - are you there? Are you safe? She hasn't posted since Oct 30 when she started her "Omg! I Served Him Same Day He Served Her!" thread...
Trimmer Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 Probably safe and figuring out her next post. I hope so - her MM sounds a little scary...
LucreziaBorgia Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 I'm curious to see where this goes too. The last thread I followed like this was LittleLady's where she did pretty much the same thing: posted a "I'm going to tell the MM about the baby" thread and then... nothing. I hope to hear an update on this one, at least.
Impudent Oyster Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 Isn't there some kind of writers strike going on in Hollywood? Maybe she's just on strike.
outofdarkness Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 Met my MM tonight and told him it was over. Explained to him that emotionally I do love him, but our children need a father...a family. I apologized to thim that I could not make it work. No matter how I tried to make the relationship feasible it always ended alone. He just cant love two families. He doesnt believe that I am ending it. He doesnt think I have the willpower to say goodbye. He just told me it isnt a bad situation, just an impossible one. He said something about men seeing how wonderful I am and I told him that he didnt. He responded that he does know I am wonderful he just cant do anything about it. He left tonight very sad knowing it was the last time he would kiss me, touch me, have me love on him. I told him he could see his son, but I had to move on. He just kept asking why? Why was I just pushing him away? I told him it has no happy ending. No matter what I sacrifice, what I accept abpout his marriage it is never enough. He was very sad and upset. He assured me no man will ever do anything but hurt me. And there better never be another man in our home. Which is the home he provided for me and our child. He asked me if I thought it was fair to have another man in his house? Well, it ended on a sad note. He just kept kissing me goodbye and waiting for me to tell him I love him. All I said was goodbye. I know tonight will be the last time we are ever together. My heart is sad. Tomorrow my attorney will serve him with the paternity letter while he is at work. I dont know how he will react. I am assuming pissed off beyond all measure. I think I am going to retain 24 hour bodyguard service until this matter is resolved. He has made many threats to me in the past if I ever contacted an attorney. But the attorney has assured me he cannot evict me from our home, he must pay the retainer and he has to pay immediate temporary support. Our child has rights. Yes, for all those who inferred that I dont work. Well, no, right now I have a child that is under 6 months of age. Until a time that I feel he can be away from me then I beleive he deserves at least one full time parent. It is a job raising a family as a single parent. I wont take that bonding time away from him. When he is older, of course I will return to work. I am college educated. I wish no harm for my MM family. But, my attorney said I cannot concern myself with it. I did not make the decision to cheat, I was unaware of his marriage. He is the one who has the committment to his wife. The one thing I want, which my attorney assures I will get, is our child will have his fathers last name. Its important our child knows where he comes from and who his family is. It is our childs right and no one has the right to deny him that. I will keep you posted on his reaction tomorrow once he is served. I dont look for it to be positive. He was heartbroken that I ended the relationship tonight, of course after we had physical intimacy, but nonetheless I told him that was the last time...the end...its over. You didn't know he was married when you met him or throughout the entire A? That makes a difference in my mind. If at any time, most especially BEFORE you became pregnant by your MM, you knew he was married...Well, IMHO..You must bear some of the responsibility for this mess. The child is illegitimate, like it or not..He is married to someone else. In the eyes of the law, yes, you are entitled to child support, and possibly his last name for your child..BUT he does NOT have to keep you as comfortable as you are now unless he has a limitless supply of money and happens to have a conscience. I'm sorry but most of these stories just don't turn out well. I hope you're able to find some peace and move on...and for goodness sake, do background checks on your dates from now on. If it seems too good to be true, it most likely is a lie. Good luck..ood
MrsHellnoFire Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 You didn't know he was married when you met him or throughout the entire A? That makes a difference in my mind. If at any time, most especially BEFORE you became pregnant by your MM, you knew he was married...Well, IMHO..You must bear some of the responsibility for this mess. The child is illegitimate, like it or not..He is married to someone else. In the eyes of the law, yes, you are entitled to child support, and possibly his last name for your child..BUT he does NOT have to keep you as comfortable as you are now unless he has a limitless supply of money and happens to have a conscience. I'm sorry but most of these stories just don't turn out well. I hope you're able to find some peace and move on...and for goodness sake, do background checks on your dates from now on. If it seems too good to be true, it most likely is a lie. Good luck..ood Unfortunately this would not apply to the OP. She declared in one of her previous postings that she is ONLY used to dating/having sexual relations with MM .. and it has been that way throughout her entire life.
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