DateAnalyzer Posted October 30, 2007 Posted October 30, 2007 You see someone that is think is really for you because of their Photo and they things they like and when you send that person a message they NEVER GET BACK TO YOU. And to make things worst, you constantly ger messages from members you are not attracted to. DEPRESSES THE HELL OUT OF ME WHICH IS WHY I TEND TO LOOK AT ONLINE DATING SITES AS POINTLESS
Cad Rake Posted October 30, 2007 Posted October 30, 2007 dude that's how life is. The ones you want, don't want you. The ones who want you, you don't want. It ain't just online dating.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted October 30, 2007 Author Posted October 30, 2007 dude that's how life is. The ones you want, don't want you. The ones who want you, you don't want. It ain't just online dating. Yeah that' why I hate looking. If people know how hard it is to find THE RIGHT ONE then why is it a problem if someone is not married at a certain age? This girl on the online dating site was everything I wanted in a Girl and I never heard back from her. Then people want to know why I prefer to stay in the Fetish World.
Cad Rake Posted October 30, 2007 Posted October 30, 2007 Look up "ladder theory." The ones you feel ambivalent about are on the same rung of the ladder as you. The ones you really want are higher, and will not want you. The ones way lower you will not want. Concentrate on the ones you think are "just okay." Those are the ones who are the female equivalent of you on the desireability scale.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted October 30, 2007 Author Posted October 30, 2007 Look up "ladder theory." The ones you feel ambivalent about are on the same rung of the ladder as you. The ones you really want are higher, and will not want you. The ones way lower you will not want. Concentrate on the ones you think are "just okay." Those are the ones who are the female equivalent of you on the desireability scale. It's also a dumb feature that some online dating services have called-"People who viewed your profile" Why the hell do I want to see a list of girls who looked at me and went to the next ad?-lol
troutie jr Posted October 30, 2007 Posted October 30, 2007 It's also a dumb feature that some online dating services have called-"People who viewed your profile" Why the hell do I want to see a list of girls who looked at me and went to the next ad?-lol Then don't look. Check your messages only. Simple solution.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted October 30, 2007 Author Posted October 30, 2007 Then don't look. Check your messages only. Simple solution. Yeah I decided to ignore that feature
The Joker Posted October 30, 2007 Posted October 30, 2007 This girl on the online dating site was everything I wanted in a Girl and I never heard back from her. Then people want to know why I prefer to stay in the Fetish World. Well maybe she considered you until she scrolled down to the part that talks about your fetish!?
uniqueone Posted October 30, 2007 Posted October 30, 2007 Yeah that' why I hate looking. If people know how hard it is to find THE RIGHT ONE then why is it a problem if someone is not married at a certain age? I think you're viewing this all wrong. Stop looking for the "right one". Instead look for ones that you enjoy getting to know. That's all....nothing more. Don't go in search of your dream girl...it doesn't work like that. Go in with the expectation of meeting some interesting people and no other expectations. And WHOA! What's this about "not married at a certain age?" You're headed for danger right there, buddy. Divorce court here you come! You're falling into the trap that too many people have fallen into. I've seen the outcome of it and it's not pretty. You need to get rid of this attitude fast. And if you have others pushing this attitude on you, then you need to be strong and not listen to them. Don't let age dictate what you do in life. This isn't a race. This girl on the online dating site was everything I wanted in a Girl And so is Giselle Bundchen. Anywone can look good on paper. How do you know who or what she is really like? You don't even know what she really looks like. Then people want to know why I prefer to stay in the Fetish World. You can count me as one person who doesn't want to know.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted October 30, 2007 Author Posted October 30, 2007 Well maybe she considered you until she scrolled down to the part that talks about your fetish!? I don't put anything in a dating profile about fetishes. Maybe she was looking for the most attractive man in Pennsylvania who will have 45 girls already on his contact list
uniqueone Posted October 30, 2007 Posted October 30, 2007 It's also a dumb feature that some online dating services have called-"People who viewed your profile" Why the hell do I want to see a list of girls who looked at me and went to the next ad?-lol That feature isn't always that bad.....try to think positively. I usually don't use that feature at all. The other day I was bored so I looked at it. I clicked on a couple of the ads of the people that had viewed me---to see their whole profile. Even though I liked some of them, I did not send any winks or messages (I almost never do). A few days later, I received a message from one of them. He said he saw that I viewed his profile, etc........ So see? You never know.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted October 30, 2007 Author Posted October 30, 2007 I think you're viewing this all wrong. Stop looking for the "right one". Instead look for ones that you enjoy getting to know. That's all....nothing more. Don't go in search of your dream girl...it doesn't work like that. Go in with the expectation of meeting some interesting people and no other expectations. And WHOA! What's this about "not married at a certain age?" You're headed for danger right there, buddy. Divorce court here you come! You're falling into the trap that too many people have fallen into. I've seen the outcome of it and it's not pretty. You need to get rid of this attitude fast. And if you have others pushing this attitude on you, then you need to be strong and not listen to them. Don't let age dictate what you do in life. This isn't a race. And so is Giselle Bundchen. Anywone can look good on paper. How do you know who or what she is really like? You don't even know what she really looks like. You can count me as one person who doesn't want to know. I guess she was my dream girl but I don't go looking for that, I just stumbled across her ad and was AMAZED at how beautiful she was.
uniqueone Posted October 30, 2007 Posted October 30, 2007 I guess she was my dream girl but I don't go looking for that, I just stumbled across her ad and was AMAZED at how beautiful she was. Too many guys do that.....go for the looks. Maybe that's why so many marriages end up in divorce. You have to like the person for other reasons.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted October 30, 2007 Author Posted October 30, 2007 Too many guys do that.....go for the looks. Maybe that's why so many marriages end up in divorce. You have to like the person for other reasons. Well it was her looks and the fact she had no kids, liked watching tv, reading, and eating seafood.
uniqueone Posted October 30, 2007 Posted October 30, 2007 Well it was her looks and the fact she had no kids, liked watching tv, reading, and eating seafood. Oh..well..it's good it was more than her looks. On the other hand, you really can't go by tv and seafood as the basis for a relationship. Tv habits change. I used to watch tv quite a bit. I rarely watch it now. Did I ever think I'd be like this about tv? No way! If you told me a decade ago, I wouldn't be a tv watcher anymore, I wouldn't have believed you. And it's the same with the seafood common denominator. Food preferences change too...those aren't very static. So then what happens when one person starts disliking tv and seafood and the other person still loves them? What if that's what your relationship was based on? Sort of causes some problems, doesn't it? You can't base relationships on those things. Now the "kids" thing....that's a valid one. You want someone without kids and that's a core value you place on your relationship choices and as long as you have sound justification for your decision to want someone who's childless, then that's one to stick with. If I were you, I would try to come up with some other "must-haves" just like that which will help you make choices that will be more solid than the "tv and seafood" ones.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted October 30, 2007 Author Posted October 30, 2007 Oh..well..it's good it was more than her looks. On the other hand, you really can't go by tv and seafood as the basis for a relationship. Tv habits change. I used to watch tv quite a bit. I rarely watch it now. Did I ever think I'd be like this about tv? No way! If you told me a decade ago, I wouldn't be a tv watcher anymore, I wouldn't have believed you. And it's the same with the seafood common denominator. Food preferences change too...those aren't very static. So then what happens when one person starts disliking tv and seafood and the other person still loves them? What if that's what your relationship was based on? Sort of causes some problems, doesn't it? You can't base relationships on those things. Now the "kids" thing....that's a valid one. You want someone without kids and that's a core value you place on your relationship choices and as long as you have sound justification for your decision to want someone who's childless, then that's one to stick with. If I were you, I would try to come up with some other "must-haves" just like that which will help you make choices that will be more solid than the "tv and seafood" ones. It probably would have been more things but she never gave me the opportunity to get to know her.
Cad Rake Posted October 30, 2007 Posted October 30, 2007 that's because she's a 9 and you're (most likely somewhere around) a 5. No offense. I am too.
Jack Africa Posted October 30, 2007 Posted October 30, 2007 Well it was her looks and the fact she had no kids, liked watching tv, reading, and eating seafood. Mmm - deep man, real deep !
Krytie TV Posted October 30, 2007 Posted October 30, 2007 I think you're viewing this all wrong. Stop looking for the "right one". Instead look for ones that you enjoy getting to know. That's all....nothing more. Don't go in search of your dream girl...it doesn't work like that. Go in with the expectation of meeting some interesting people and no other expectations. And so is Giselle Bundchen. Anywone can look good on paper. How do you know who or what she is really like? You don't even know what she really looks like. I find this advice to be incredibly hypocritical considering your "ewww I just made a date" comments. You write people off as soon as you see them or read about them, what makes you think others don't... and shouldn't?
uniqueone Posted October 30, 2007 Posted October 30, 2007 I find this advice to be incredibly hypocritical considering your "ewww I just made a date" comments. You write people off as soon as you see them or read about them, what makes you think others don't... and shouldn't? I could explain to you why your comments have no basis in fact and what the difference is (and there is definately a difference) but this thread is about DA. Please stick to topic. I refuse to contribute to pot-stirring. You can PM me if you don't understand something that I say.
The Joker Posted October 30, 2007 Posted October 30, 2007 I could explain to you why your comments have no basis in fact and what the difference is (and there is definately a difference) but this thread is about DA. Please stick to topic. I refuse to contribute to pot-stirring. You can PM me if you don't understand something that I say. That's right the topic is about the Date Analyzer who posts here. Though it is rather odd, considering you are giving him dating advice when your own experience in dating is met with a very low success rate. Not only that but you inject a rather negative attitude before a date actually occurs, during the date and afterwards. Providing what looks like control issues to protect a rather low self esteem. In this thread DA is asking for advice on his online dating issues. So i think you are discrediting your own worth viewed by other LS readers by not standing by your own words in your other threads. At the same time incapable of providing him with advice which will gain him some success. (Especially if he's reading your other threads)
xfess Posted October 31, 2007 Posted October 31, 2007 I considered the online dating like fishing (seems like a stupid comparison but its worked). Imagine you put a piece of bait on a hook and throw it in the water, hoping that you'll get a bite (winking or emailing 1 person). perhaps they'll bite, but maybe not. Now what i did was put bait on 100 + hooks and threw them in the water (I honestly sent 100+ emails to girls in one day), and there was a good chance you'd get a bite. And thats what happened..... at one time I was emailing back and forth 7-9 girls, some of them stopped replying back but with the others i began chatting with them on AIM. Right now I am chatting with about 5 of them & i have dates with 2 of them. So it goes to show that you have to set yourself out there. Take a great picture of yourself, have an interesting profile, and email girls and talk or ask questions about themselfs and thier interests. You never know
uniqueone Posted October 31, 2007 Posted October 31, 2007 That's right the topic is about the Date Analyzer who posts here. Though it is rather odd, considering you are giving him dating advice when your own experience in dating is met with a very low success rate. Not only that but you inject a rather negative attitude before a date actually occurs, during the date and afterwards. Providing what looks like control issues to protect a rather low self esteem. In this thread DA is asking for advice on his online dating issues. So i think you are discrediting your own worth viewed by other LS readers by not standing by your own words in your other threads. At the same time incapable of providing him with advice which will gain him some success. (Especially if he's reading your other threads) Sorry, the two aren't parallel, but I won't argue it here. If you want, feel free to pm me and I'll explain it to you. And I think it's up to DA what he wants to listen to and I'd like to hear more from him, rather than posts like this which are just trying to provoke an argument. Again, feel free to pm me Joker, if you need me to clarify something for you. I'd be more than happy to. Also, I would reassess who here is showing the negative attitude.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted October 31, 2007 Author Posted October 31, 2007 I considered the online dating like fishing (seems like a stupid comparison but its worked). Imagine you put a piece of bait on a hook and throw it in the water, hoping that you'll get a bite (winking or emailing 1 person). perhaps they'll bite, but maybe not. Now what i did was put bait on 100 + hooks and threw them in the water (I honestly sent 100+ emails to girls in one day), and there was a good chance you'd get a bite. And thats what happened..... at one time I was emailing back and forth 7-9 girls, some of them stopped replying back but with the others i began chatting with them on AIM. Right now I am chatting with about 5 of them & i have dates with 2 of them. So it goes to show that you have to set yourself out there. Take a great picture of yourself, have an interesting profile, and email girls and talk or ask questions about themselfs and thier interests. You never know That sounds good but do u still leave someone a message who hasn't been on the site in 30 days?
bigheartkindsoul Posted October 31, 2007 Posted October 31, 2007 You see someone that is think is really for you because of their Photo and they things they like and when you send that person a message they NEVER GET BACK TO YOU. And to make things worst, you constantly ger messages from members you are not attracted to. DEPRESSES THE HELL OUT OF ME WHICH IS WHY I TEND TO LOOK AT ONLINE DATING SITES AS POINTLESS Don't let it get you down, it is a case of going through quite a few people, sending quite a few emails before anything happens. Also I am rubbish at keeping up with it, takes me ages to send back emails just cause I am usually busy with work during day and own things in evening and just don't always think to hop on there and respond. I also never get incontact with guys in the first instance at the moment I let them come to me, so the more winks, emails you send out the more responses you'll get.
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