EYECANDY000 Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 Ok heres the deal! I have been dating this guy for the last couple of months. The thing is, different ethnicities! He speaks spanish and I dont. Somethimes when Im in the same room with him and his friend he has to constantly translate the whole conversation. I know it kind of gets annoying at times. Also, I feel like Im depriving him, because I cant really go to a lot of family functions because a lot of his grandparents only speak spanish. i really do see a future with him, but i guess this is the only thing that bothers me. ometimes i wonder if he would dump me for someone who speaks spanish, only because they would have a little more in common.. any feedback? anyone in the same situation?
corazoncito Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 Yes, kind of. My BF is French and when we're with his family and friends of the family, they mostly speak French. I understand about 90% of what they're saying, but don't have much ability to reply in French (as bad as this sounds, sometimes that's actually a blessing in disguise, especially when they're discussing something very boring in great detail. Nobody gets offended if I "tune out" ). But, in the long-run I do want to fit in and so I signed up for a French course that meets a couple of nights a week. It helps! If you are really worried about it, you could try taking a Spanish class, to at least get the basics. It may also be a nice gesture to him that you're interested. Also, IMO, knowing even a little of a foreign language can never hurt, regardless of whether things work out with the particular guy in the long run or not.
amaysngrace Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 My BF speaks Spanish as a second language but mostly he speaks English. I speak very little Spanish so sometimes when I try to seem smart I say things and then have to ask him "is that right?" But I've only ever heard him have a conversation in Spanish just once. But what he does that's funny is he plays his guitar on the beach and sings about people walking by in Spanish. They have no idea what he's saying about them and neither do I but it's still pretty funny.
popey Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 I don't see why you can't go to family functions. Ask how to say things. Learn a little a spanish and make the effort. Ultimately, if you want to, you can learn the language. Tell him you feel bad that you don't understand the language, and ask him to help you learn. There are lots of things people can lack in common that might make them fear, someone else who posessed the commonality might seem better for them, but I don't think this is a way to approach a relationship. If that's what mattered most to him, he wouldn't be dating you in the first place, right?
Ocean-Blue Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 Is your bf comfortable with the fact that you don't speak Spanish? The fact that he's still dating you suggests he is. So don't let it bother you. There are many couples out there who learn to adjust to such things. Who knows, if this relationship moves forward...perhaps you could learn some basic/conversational Spanish? Impress those grandparents of his.
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