jimmer21 Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 heyguys new here, heres my story. we are only young 18 and 19, were together for two years almost and we did have one or two splits in that time only sort silly ones though. her mum has always been against it i dont know why but yeah we had a massiv drunkend argument a munf almost now and we broke up that nite. she completly changed two days before she sed she never wants to lose me and she loves me soo much i am her everything and can see us together forever. now she shut the door completley just sed i dont want to be with you or see or speak to you after the night in the mornin. i rang her a few days later and she sed i have no feelings and i dont like you anymore i just couldnt imagine it like this all she has done is cared for me so good and we wer best frends. ive been an idiot tryed callin and textin and emailin sumtimes lookin rele weaki just wanted to fight for her i missed her so much i think about her every second. from our mutualfreinds she seems fine and also that she does ask about me n and what im up to. she also puts fings on her facebook like shes rele happy and stuff and she sed to me the other days shes over it how can that be. ive never had trouble gettin over women before. i was her first and i cant imagine her withsomeone else i want ther back so much but i cant contact her anymore i look like a pratt and she takin the mick i usuly contact every 4 or 5 days thenget upset when she ignores me. shes goin to uni next year and seems like she cant wait. i thonk tomyself no contact or gettin anuva girl will help me get her back but also i feel she wont call back ever im sooo messed up its unreal i cant explain it. i saw her drive by my work and i looked other way cus i know shell look but i cant not look at her internet sites and blogs shes gettin ppl to rite on her wall and stuff to annoy me i can see it and i justy dont know i gave her my heart please help me guys in any way possiblejust want to curl up and die but that aint good for me i feel like everyone is laffin at me and i havent got many frineds that are around allthe tiem im doin gym and footie and college and work and going out to new places with mates but even allthat i just dont stop finkin of her
Author jimmer21 Posted October 29, 2007 Author Posted October 29, 2007 sorry its a long thread guys, i forgot tometion that the argument was quite aggressive but its not like us we wer always in eachothers arms. i know she isnt interested in anyone else i just know that i know that she didnt ewant to split from me to get with someone else i know it cus like all her close people telling her to and also we had alot of agrovsation at times and i was a little jelus and controling but sowas she sometimes. i just feel to mmyself that ican rele work and make it happen and can let go of my jelus side and that its mentto be and also that even now i still want to share all the new things imdoin in my life with her she was my best friend. i just cant understand cus she was always 100% devoted to me i came first and now it just gone blank we havent had a proper converstion about it she just ignores my attempts but ive been nc for a few days and will never contact again now she made me look stupid. i feel she will never ringagain but i want her to i know i should ignore the first call.she says to her mates she cant waitto go to uni now which hurts i know i wouldnt handle her with someone else i was her first and after 18 munfs she was still shy so it would rele hurt for someone else to have her like i did. anyone relate to my situation here need opinions and advise i know i aint 35 and maried and kids and stuff butfor me this was rele serius and feels like my life is over i love her that much
Lee725 Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 anyone relate to my situation here need opinions and advise i know i aint 35 and maried and kids and stuff butfor me this was rele serius and feels like my life is over i love her that much Hi Jimmer21, Please dont EVER believe that your life is over and just because you are not 35 married with kids does not mean that anyone is not going to take your heartache seriously. Sometimes we all hurt and have heartache and each persons is as serious as the next. I wish that i could relate to you but i fall closer to the 35 catergory (Tho not married no kids YET! ) I am not able to offer you to much advise on this one, but i will try. I hope that this does not sound cold, but if she has switched off completely and done so quickly, It could be that she might have met someone else or something really serious has happened that has made her change the way she feels about you. I remember being that age (cracking open the memory banks), and i know that girls that age CAN change their minds and the way they feel pretty quickly, i did it time and time again. Try to stay Strong, try a time of NC and see if she comes around, sometimes we need to take a step back from people to give them a chance to miss us. Even tho this is going to be hard for you. It is likely that you will meet someone in the future that you will feel as intensely about as you do this girl now, even tho that is hard for you to believe now i know. Keep us informed of your thoughts/feelings and we will do our best to help you.
Author jimmer21 Posted October 30, 2007 Author Posted October 30, 2007 yeah i have realised it isnt the end of my life and that i will probly move on in time but i know it has nothing to do with anyone else i can gurantee that and she sed to me on the phone she couldnt even get with someone still. im slowly getting better but its a rollercoaster isnt it
Author jimmer21 Posted October 31, 2007 Author Posted October 31, 2007 how can someone go from complete love to i have no feelings and not even want to talk to you and also try play silly games on the internet to make u jelus its a lil childish wich makes me happyier about it all. would it be cus shes so hurt and all confused or what how do people act after things like this
Lee725 Posted October 31, 2007 Posted October 31, 2007 how can someone go from complete love to i have no feelings and not even want to talk to you and also try play silly games on the internet to make u jelus its a lil childish wich makes me happyier about it all. would it be cus shes so hurt and all confused or what how do people act after things like this Sometimes people can act happy and as if nothing is wrong even when they are hurting inside. She is may be putting things on her facebook because she knows that you will check it. You will have to stop looking at her facebook because it is just going to keep reminding you. I have had to stop looking at things relating to my EX on the internet because i know that it upsets me. How long has it been since you have spoken, txt or had an actual email from her?
Author jimmer21 Posted November 1, 2007 Author Posted November 1, 2007 yeah but why would she want me to see that stuff though? i putting stuff up the same to show i getting on with it too. she deleted the pics of me n her off the last album today. apparently met up with a boy but sed on her fing its a friend fing. its been a month since we broke up now and she hasnt made any contact atall, i spoke to her twice and shes been very harsh and other than that ignores all contact from me but i have gone 6 days now nc. i know we are young but we wer very close we did real so many fings together holidays and ev erything but i cant explain how confused i am that she can just treat me like hit and take the micky out of me like that after all we been through. fair enuff if she cant take the agro thats ok but whybe harsh about it. ive got past all the sorrow stage and that and then i hit the angry stage and saw through my silly weak behavior and saw i was looking like a fool and she was being mean.today was the firstt day i dint wake up thinkin about her i just fort gah pathetic immature person to myself but i would like to fink i would get back with her but idont see it lol. i accepting this is it for good but i dont want it can you see it through what i have said that she just isnt ever going to call one day we wer in love she couldnt wait to see me now its ye wotever speak tto you not soon haha im meeting up with a casual girl atm and im sure she mite no by now i just dont know
Lee725 Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 yeah but why would she want me to see that stuff though? Only she really knows why she wants to you to see it and hun you will only see it if you look. If you dont look you wont know and it will help to save your sanity. i putting stuff up the same to show i getting on with it too. she deleted the pics of me n her off the last album today. apparently met up with a boy but sed on her fing its a friend fing. It is really up to you what you put onto your facebook, but try no to put photos up just to try to make her jealous, otherwise you could both end up putting worse and worse photos up. It is not unusual for her to take your photos off, when someone feels hurt sometimes the first thing they do is to remove the things in their life that remind them of the other person. As i said before try to be strong dont look at her facebook it is only going to make you worse. its been a month since we broke up now and she hasnt made any contact atall, i spoke to her twice and shes been very harsh and other than that ignores all contact from me but i have gone 6 days now nc. It could be best to keep going with NC, if she is being harsh and does not want to talk, then you cant force her. While you keep trying to contact her, she know that she has you dangling and she prob thinks that she can have you back anytime she wants. You need to take that feeling away from her. i know we are young but we wer very close we did real so many fings together holidays and ev erything but i cant explain how confused i am that she can just treat me like hit and take the micky out of me like that after all we been through. fair enuff if she cant take the agro thats ok but whybe harsh about it. ive got past all the sorrow stage and that and then i hit the angry stage and saw through my silly weak behavior and saw i was looking like a fool and she was being mean.today was the firstt day i dint wake up thinkin about her i just fort gah pathetic immature person to myself but i would like to fink i would get back with her but idont see it lol. i accepting this is it for good but i dont want it can you see it through what i have said that she just isnt ever going to call one day we wer in love she couldnt wait to see me now its ye wotever speak tto you not soon haha im meeting up with a casual girl atm and im sure she mite no by now i just dont know Waking up today and not thinking about her is a good thing, it could be a sign that you are on the road to recovery. I would never say never about anything, but getting on with your life, spending a little time with other people will do you the world of good. I know that six days can feel like an eternity when you are waiting for someone to call. She might call you back one day, but in the mean time you need to move on and look after yourself. Show her that you do not need her to be a full person because you dont. It is great that you are meeting up with another girl! Show the EX that you can be happy and enjoy life without her, one day she might see this and realize that she has made a mistake, but hopefully by then you will be really happy with someone else!
Author jimmer21 Posted November 2, 2007 Author Posted November 2, 2007 apparently shes meeting up with a boy but its a friend fing so wotever i dont know. i meeting up with girls but i just aint interested as i am with her. does anyone know anygood ways to help themselves not think aobut it cus its been amonth and im still crying about it feels like there something wrong with me im a man for god sake.
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