plainoldjared Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 Well its over. My gf of 3 yrs and I finally talked Friday night I fought the urge to argue with her, I tried to get the truth out of her but she refused to give me that so I ended the conversation there and told her its over. I miss the good times of course and it'll take a while before I can completely let go. She's called me and texted me but I wont answer. I want to meet someone and distract myself but I know its not right and not fair so sex is out but I really want to make out with someone and to have fun again... thats ok right?
amaysngrace Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 Not only is it okay but it's healthy to move on. I just think some healing should be done before you decide to get into another relationship. But casual sex can be on your to do list as long as you're wanting that. The only problem is if you're still hung up on her you may compare everybody to her and not be turned on enough by anyone to actually have sex. And that can bum you out.
reboot Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 You also have to be careful not to transfer all those feelings you had for her to a new girl (aka rebound). Fun is good. Relationship is bad (temporarily).
Author plainoldjared Posted October 29, 2007 Author Posted October 29, 2007 Not only is it okay but it's healthy to move on. I just think some healing should be done before you decide to get into another relationship. But casual sex can be on your to do list as long as you're wanting that. The only problem is if you're still hung up on her you may compare everybody to her and not be turned on enough by anyone to actually have sex. And that can bum you out. haha! yes I agree that would BUM me out. I do want to hang out with some other women, my boys have been exactly that "my boys" they think I just need to sleep with someone and dont get why I want to wait. Sex is great but I do feel that I need to keep it simple for now... You also have to be careful not to transfer all those feelings you had for her to a new girl (aka rebound). Fun is good. Relationship is bad (temporarily). Yes, thats also a concern which is why Im staying away from relationships. Just dates and meeting good women.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 Well its over. My gf of 3 yrs and I finally talked Friday night I fought the urge to argue with her, I tried to get the truth out of her but she refused to give me that so I ended the conversation there and told her its over. I miss the good times of course and it'll take a while before I can completely let go. She's called me and texted me but I wont answer. I want to meet someone and distract myself but I know its not right and not fair so sex is out but I really want to make out with someone and to have fun again... thats ok right? I'm sure that there must be some background to your story somewhere, but I prefer not to search for it, and instead just stop here long enough to praise your strong and logical efforts in this approach. The implication is that a - she didn't treat you fairly in some way(s) b - you called her on it c - when she wouldn't reveal the full truth, you walked with your head held high Yes, it would be easier to have a distraction to inspire you during these first few weeks, but your strength already shows and you are doing the right thing in being fair to yourself. She effected her own demise and you have no reason to ever look back. Good for you! I wish more people would have that strength, for then more would be content with their lives.
Author plainoldjared Posted October 29, 2007 Author Posted October 29, 2007 I'm sure that there must be some background to your story somewhere, but I prefer not to search for it, and instead just stop here long enough to praise your strong and logical efforts in this approach. The implication is that a - she didn't treat you fairly in some way(s) b - you called her on it c - when she wouldn't reveal the full truth, you walked with your head held high Yes, it would be easier to have a distraction to inspire you during these first few weeks, but your strength already shows and you are doing the right thing in being fair to yourself. She effected her own demise and you have no reason to ever look back. Good for you! I wish more people would have that strength, for then more would be content with their lives. Thanks I wont be looking back again. Strength meets anger is the way to go when breaking up with someone that has seriously f'd you over...
bigheartkindsoul Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 Well its over. My gf of 3 yrs and I finally talked Friday night I fought the urge to argue with her, I tried to get the truth out of her but she refused to give me that so I ended the conversation there and told her its over. I miss the good times of course and it'll take a while before I can completely let go. She's called me and texted me but I wont answer. I want to meet someone and distract myself but I know its not right and not fair so sex is out but I really want to make out with someone and to have fun again... thats ok right? The only thing hun I would say is be careful its not a rebound thing and the OP doesn't get hurt. Also make sure you give yourself time to heal and grieve for the loss on that previous relationship. But have fun, as long as no one gets hurts then go for it. So when we off out then lol
Author plainoldjared Posted October 29, 2007 Author Posted October 29, 2007 The only thing hun I would say is be careful its not a rebound thing and the OP doesn't get hurt. Also make sure you give yourself time to heal and grieve for the loss on that previous relationship. But have fun, as long as no one gets hurts then go for it. So when we off out then lol I definitely want to be careful, Im trying to be logical and realistic and not extremely picky. I think I'll start slow, dancing dinners drinks and then I'll see what happens... Uk eh...
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