waitingwaitingonyou Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 I broke up with my girlfriend on sunday. I found out that she is not right for me. She was a heavy drug user and a flirt to everyone. I also found out that she was fooling around with other guys behind my back. I still love her to death and want it to work but I know that she is not mature enough for me., She is 28 (same age as me). She lives in a fantasy world, she does not have any aspirations or goals in life. She can barley get by. Your probably thinking...Why is this guy sending this message. Well deep down I want to call her to see how she is and I really do love her with all my heart. BUt I know that NC will be the best for me in the long run. I have just started NC since sunday and I know that I wont call but here is the problem. If she were to call or send me a text message, should I return the message or anwser the phone. I do not want to backtrack at all. I want to move on and move forward in my life. I have many goals and things that I want to accomplish! Please give me some insight here. I am dying inside.... I so want to call but I dont know what that would open! From - Just a man with a heart!
funkybassplayer Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 hey mate, maybe she has to be left to hit rock bottom b4 she will move up with her own life. As for you, you sound like you want to get on. Then do it, dont call her and block if possible her moby and emails, as any contact from her will pull you back. She not the sort of woman that is good for a relationship, and yes you may care, but she needs more than your help to sort her out. Maybe in a few months you may be in a better place to heelp her with much less emotional attachment, but to get there, you have to heal first. So if your goal maybe to help her in the future, get yourself fit first, then you can be the judge if you wish to be there for her, but i suspect that she will find another guy, and he will brunt it as you did.
Author waitingwaitingonyou Posted October 29, 2007 Author Posted October 29, 2007 Yeah she is a player. We have only been dating for 9 months. It is not too long but I really wanted it to work out. I mostly wanted for her to get on her feet. She is a bit messed up in the head. But I guess you cant help everyone. I will not call her, I can promise you that, but everyone asks me what are you going to do if she calls? To be honest, I dont really know....
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