Do guys prefer women with curves?

[plainoldjared]

Thanks, I think you put that in a lovely way.

 

I think my "view" comes from two separate areas. For one, I'm a US size 4 and really want to get back to the 0/1 I was at 18. I'm very fit and I feel like if I was bigger or "curvier" I would feel sloppy and not be able to run, hike and be active. The second issue I have with the "men love curves" argument is that people like Scarlett Johannson are considered super curvy. Yes she has curves but she is still trim and in good shape. I feel like it's more that men like trim women that have a visible waist and bust. I'm not sure if this makes sense it's how I feel. Even on dating sites most men check off boxes like thin and athletic for their possible match, not thick or big.

 

I agree, I have a problem with these categories that some idiot thought up. Its the media and entertainment business all trying to freak us out confuse us and conform us into their budget models. I think anyone that places these unrealistic expectations on any sex should be isolated because they are trying to control us. Nobody but a physician should tell anyone that anything needs to change in them.

[plainoldjared]

Hotdiggiddy Plainoldjared, you make me want to terminate my devotion to god. Is there room for two loves in a nun's life? what a fine peice of man you are, and they do say man's best friend is a dog. Mother Magdalen always tells us that the body of a woman is sinful which is why she makes us cover up. I remember one night Brother Neil had come by the pavillion to borrow some sugar, and I just happened to have some under my habit next to the fish. The habbit is a great place to store groceries, and tools and small villages. It was that day that he realised that the curves of a woman is determined not by the size of her habit but by what she does with it.

 

Wow, well although I do agree a woman should be respectful in how she dresses herself I dont think that showing a little is bad

 

Now I'll take the compliment and say thank you sweet nun

[tanbark813]

The second issue I have with the "men love curves" argument is that people like Scarlett Johannson are considered super curvy. Yes she has curves but she is still trim and in good shape. I feel like it's more that men like trim women that have a visible waist and bust. I'm not sure if this makes sense it's how I feel.

 

I wouldn't call Scarlett "curvy" but I also wouldn't call her skinny. She's just hot. You can definitely be curvier than her and still be called "curvy" as long as you have that hourglass shape. The OP is a great example of a curvy girl.

 

Even on dating sites most men check off boxes like thin and athletic for their possible match, not thick or big.

 

This is a different issue, IMO. Most women place themselves in a thinner category than they really are. A lot of women who are fat will call themselves "curvy" or "a few extra pounds". And I don't mean fat as in could-stand-to-lose-ten-pounds, I mean fat as in pushing-220-and-have-no-idea-what-a-treadmill-looks-like.

 

Men don't check off "thick" or "big" because then you'll get morbidly obese. You get thick or big already just by checking off "about average".

[bigheartkindsoul]

Thanks, I think you put that in a lovely way.

 

I think my "view" comes from two separate areas. For one, I'm a US size 4 and really want to get back to the 0/1 I was at 18. I'm very fit and I feel like if I was bigger or "curvier" I would feel sloppy and not be able to run, hike and be active. The second issue I have with the "men love curves" argument is that people like Scarlett Johannson are considered super curvy. Yes she has curves but she is still trim and in good shape. I feel like it's more that men like trim women that have a visible waist and bust. I'm not sure if this makes sense it's how I feel. Even on dating sites most men check off boxes like thin and athletic for their possible match, not thick or big.

 

Scarlett Johannson, well looks like she is trim who knows what is trimmed for the video cameras or photos also what kinda hold you in undies she has on under those dresses?

 

Who knows but I cannot believe all these celebs are quite as gorgeous and slim as it apprears to us how we see them, DVDs, Mags etc.

 

And we have all hopefully see acticles of celebs without make up!!! Just regular girls like the rest of us without all the make up, fab clothes/dresses and hairsylists.

[plainoldjared]

Oh god now I am swooning even more, cause you sound like me, I don't like cruel people and people without compassion for others. If OP are not like that then just keep your opinions to yourself rather than saying something hurtful!

 

what happened to the golden rule? treat others like you would like to be treated. the focus is usually on what we should look like, what our bank accounts should hold or whats parked in the garage what about respect and courtesy for other peoples' life experiences and accepting that we are who we are because of what we've seen done and had done to us. that should be the focus... 3

 

thank goodness for you BHKS

[bigheartkindsoul]

what happened to the golden rule? treat others like you would like to be treated. the focus is usually on what we should look like, what our bank accounts should hold or whats parked in the garage what about respect and courtesy for other peoples' life experiences and accepting that we are who we are because of what we've seen done and had done to us. that should be the focus... 3

 

thank goodness for you BHKS

 

Shame some UK men incl the ex don't think "thank goodness for you BHKS" I still get **** all over, even though I am a genuinely nice person with a big heart.

[plainoldjared]

Shame some UK men incl the ex don't think "thank goodness for you BHKS" I still get **** all over, even though I am a genuinely nice person with a big heart.

 

You too? Sheesh! My ex did a real nice job of ****ing all over me

[brothermartin]

OK, since I consider myself the formost authority and long time fan of the voluptous/curvy women, I have to get my say in before this burns out.

YES! I love curvy women. I love voluptous women. I love large women. I love women that most guys would call "fat". I DO NOT like a woman that is really big or a woman that is really small. I like most of the women in the middle of that body type. Example: All the Lane Bryant models. YUM!!

 

I just wish women would stop seeing their weight or size as a hang-up. Believe me, if every woman on the planet were a size 12, shallow guys would either get over it, or turn gay.

[pollywag]

Scarlett Johannson, well looks like she is trim who knows what is trimmed for the video cameras or photos also what kinda hold you in undies she has on under those dresses?

 

Who knows but I cannot believe all these celebs are quite as gorgeous and slim as it apprears to us how we see them, DVDs, Mags etc.

 

And we have all hopefully see acticles of celebs without make up!!! Just regular girls like the rest of us without all the make up, fab clothes/dresses and hairsylists.

 

There there child, jealousy is not a good emotion for a lady to have. Take my paw and let us pray together.....A lot of celebs are beautiful even without makeup, the problem is not the celebs but the people who want to tear them down. We get so used to seeing them done up that when they catch them in a picture that is more natural most people want to see the bad in that out of sheer spite. We look for the bad in the good. God made us all beautiful, well except for those he made butt ugly...he must have been out on jury duty are purgatory when that happened...

[bigheartkindsoul]

There there child, jealousy is not a good emotion for a lady to have. Take my paw and let us pray together.....A lot of celebs are beautiful even without makeup, the problem is not the celebs but the people who want to tear them down. We get so used to seeing them done up that when they catch them in a picture that is more natural most people want to see the bad in that out of sheer spite. We look for the bad in the good. God made us all beautiful, well except for those he made butt ugly...he must have been out on jury duty are purgatory when that happened...

 

Not tearing them down, just saying they are just like us and look just like us without the expensive clothes, heavy theatrical make up, corsets, airbrushing - we should not have to strive to look like they do, even though the pressure from the media for us too is immense.

[pollywag]

Not tearing them down, just saying they are just like us and look just like us without the expensive clothes, heavy theatrical make up, corsets, airbrushing - we should not have to strive to look like they do, even though the pressure from the media for us too is immense.

 

So don't. :-)

[bigheartkindsoul]

So don't. :-)

 

Oh if it were that easy! Ask 1000 girls and 990 would say they feel a certain amount of pressure at somepoint in their lives.

[brothermartin]

Sorry BIGHEART, POLLWAG has a point. Too many women look at acttress, models, and celebs. and buy into the bulls**t that that's the standard they have to live up to. But men dont help the situation either when they make it all too clear that that is the kind of woman they consider attractive, and any other kind is just OK.

 

Remember what I said before, men will get used to it, or turn gay.

[Trialbyfire]

Oh if it were that easy! Ask 1000 girls and 990 would say they feel a certain amount of pressure at somepoint in their lives.

Why not set your own bar? This way you can decide what you want to look like and how far you're willing to go to get there.

[pollywag]

Oh if it were that easy! Ask 1000 girls and 990 would say they feel a certain amount of pressure at somepoint in their lives.

 

That's why I joined the convent my child. ;-) It's not easy being a woman with all the pressures from the ideals people think they are supposed to look up to, yes. But Hollywood lives off of beauty these are people that make their living from their looks so of course they have to put extra care into it, the problem is not the media or those people it is the empty souls that buy into the idea that they have to be like them to be happy. If we spend less time infront of the television trying to match up to fake ideals and more time developing our minds and soul. It is all formation. Feed your brain the right information and you will process it in such a way that is right for you. If you live a frivolous existence then that is the only thing you will aspire to be. I mean you as in the general "you"

[jcster]

Oh if it were that easy! Ask 1000 girls and 990 would say they feel a certain amount of pressure at somepoint in their lives.

 

The thing is...nearly all of the pressure is coming from other women! We do it to ourselves. Get ok with yourself, and your problems will be over in this arena. Trust me, there are all sorts of guys out there with a myriad of tastes, there's someone for everyone.

 

And... Brother Martin.... Bless you!!!

[tanbark813]

How many women posting about the pressures on women to look perfect would be fine dating a guy 3" shorter than them?

[coco_milkshake]

It is sad that people put soo much pressure on girls to be "perfect". My idols are Beyonce and J-Lo cos they are proud of their curves. I look at Posh Beckham and I see a woman with the body of a 12 year old boy with 2 balloons stuck to her chest.

[plainoldjared]

That's why I joined the convent my child. ;-) It's not easy being a woman with all the pressures from the ideals people think they are supposed to look up to, yes. But Hollywood lives off of beauty these are people that make their living from their looks so of course they have to put extra care into it, the problem is not the media or those people it is the empty souls that buy into the idea that they have to be like them to be happy. If we spend less time infront of the television trying to match up to fake ideals and more time developing our minds and soul. It is all formation. Feed your brain the right information and you will process it in such a way that is right for you. If you live a frivolous existence then that is the only thing you will aspire to be. I mean you as in the general "you"

 

Very well phrased I agree, we all need to focus on our minds and souls before being able to understand our bodies.

[plainoldjared]

How many women posting about the pressures on women to look perfect would be fine dating a guy 3" shorter than them?

 

This is a great question. I remember the girls that ignored me in junior high because I was shorter than them suddenly had no idea what I was talking about in highschool. 6'2" now 5'6" then

[bigheartkindsoul]

Yes I guess although always had body woes, I got to a point last year where I didn't anymore and was quite liking what I saw, the the ex came and went and took alot of my self worth & self esteem with him and left me with a fair bit of self doubt. Which i am working hard on getting back fully.

 

But generally I am happy with my body, until I hear comments like chubby chasers that is....LMAO

[Trialbyfire]

I've yet to meet a man who's under 5' tall. Boys in elementary school, just don't cut it for me now.

[tanbark813]

This is a great question. I remember the girls that ignored me in junior high because I was shorter than them suddenly had no idea what I was talking about in highschool. 6'2" now 5'6" then

 

I'm 5'6" but get my fair share of action. But I have been told flat out by girls that they wouldn't date me because of my height. The most common reason is because they like to wear heels.

 

Now, I'm not saying that men are perfect by any means. We can definitely be shallow. But you'll never hear a man turn down a woman so he can feel comfortable in a certain pair of shoes. Let's not kid ourselves that women have their own shallow preferences.

[coco_milkshake]

How many women posting about the pressures on women to look perfect would be fine dating a guy 3" shorter than them?

 

I am 5'3" so are you asking if I would date someone who is 5'0"? I feel bad for saying this but I would feel a bit strange. For me, he has to be at least 5'6" or over.

[tanbark813]

I've yet to meet a man who's under 5' tall. Boys in elementary school, just don't cut it for me now.

 

 

So out of curiosity, what's the minimum height you would date?

 

I'm curious because on dating sites a lot of 5'8" women have around 5'8" as their minimum for a guy, but women around 5'3" frequently list 6'+.