lil_usagi7 Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 Hi everyone, So from the look of things on this forum, my situation is very different from most of the posts here because I’m the one that did the breaking up. Well here goes… My bf and I have were college sweethearts and have been together on and off for 4 years. It’s been a really rough and bumpy ride. I’ve always wanted to work things out with him but he’s always been the one to break up with me and the one to come back to want to work things out. But this time was different. I broke up with him 2 days ago. I know he tried his best at the relationship but the fact that mother and friends were spreading nasty rumors about me behind my back was getting too much to handle; not because it was bothering or hurting me but because it was bothering and hurting him. They were saying things like “she’s just using you for a rebound” (which is ABSOLUTELY NOT TRUE), “How’s Crazy?”, “Are you still with Psycho Bitch?”, “Why are you with Sicko?” And to think, I have never even met any of these people! Yes, I used to take anti-depression medication for a short period of time because of a death in my family but it doesn’t make me a crazed loony that should be shunned from society. I have since recovered and live a much better quality of life. But the fact that he was caving into that nonsense really hurt me because none of it had a grain of truth to it. It was wearing me down because it had been going on almost non-stop for the last 3 years and there doesn’t seem to be any end in sight. Everyday when I come home, he'll tell me about something new and nasty someone said about me. I felt like he didn't do enough to protect and defend me from that crap since it's been going on for such a long time. I broke up with him because I felt like I was going to crack. So here I am, 2 days after I broke up with him. I wonder if I did the right thing, if it's too late to turn back, and if this is something I'll regret. Honestly, he and I didn’t want it to end but I just couldn’t take his friends’ and mom’s crap anymore. I called him yesterday night and told him that I didn’t want it to end, that I just needed a break from all of it because it was eating away at me, and if we could step back and talk to each other again in a week to figure things out. He said, “I don’t know. I feel like my heart shattered in a million pieces. I feel empty and like I have nothing left to give. I'm not going to call you. You call me and we’ll see.” My question is am I doing the right thing? Should I call him back? Or should I do no contact? Any advice, comments, suggestions? Thanks, everyone. Anything would be helpful…
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