nookzter Posted October 29, 2007 Share Posted October 29, 2007 Hi, I am trying desperate to cope with my separation of currently 1 month from my wife by doing NC steps. Im trying to do as much NC as possible to save any chance of a reconciliation but I cannot help see her every night as she still needs me for transport to get home after work (short 5 mins trip from station to home)and do the weekly shopping (which usually ends up with me hanging around the whole day while she looks at every shop. I do not rush her as this was one reason she left. I never took her out much on weekends so Im trying to do it now even though it probably means nothing to her). We still talk on the phone and in person regularly and are on friendly terms because we need to arrange daughter and government family assistance matters. Every conversation though just seems to lead me to a "pushing and pursueing" question which I cannot help most times (I need better self control). I do this because she moved from overseas to be with me four years ago and relied purely on me from the time we were married. She never learned to drive or have many of her own friends until now. She said she will eventually learn but this will be a long while. We have a daughter who I consider the main reason I do things for my ex wife even if its not good for me emotionally. There may still be a chance to get back together I believe once she creates an identity for herself but this will be a VERY long time. Any advice on how I can better cope with my situation and improve possible chances or getting back together? Link to post Share on other sites
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