Keeping the faith & perseverence

[tontitadeamor]

I am into this LDR too and I already am engaged (next Feb will be our first engagement anniversary). I have so far almost 2 years into this relationship [ I met my now fiance on Nov05 and we became friends before deciding going any further - and so far it had worked pretty good]. I just had seen him so far only 3 times [sept 06 first time we met, Feb 14th our engagement day and this sept too] Our relationship, i can describe it as growing up every day more and becoming more mature. As long as I don't have visa, My family traveled to the USA this year and has met his parents and part of his family. my mom told me so many good things about them as they told me about my family too. Gotta mention that I have very good communication with this family too. but the thing is that sometimes.. our communication as a couple [me and my fiance] someway is hard, meaning that sometimes hes very busy at work and we don't talk for about a week or couple days. It's not something that gets me worry like getting an overwhelming feeling [like if he would be cheating on me or something] cuz i really trust him alot. but sometimes i get sad bc i would like to be with him and share with him and his family [whom are great to me]. I already feel like they are part of me [like i care about them]. My fiance says that he loves me and he mentions alot he loves the fact i am going to be his wife and he keeps telling me about [when i have some trouble here] to do not get worry cuz in the meantime, I will not be living here anymore nor we wont be apart too. but i get confused sometimes cuz he doesn't like talking to much about plans for the our wedding but he only mentions hes working so hard to save up money to have a great wedding. also he mentions about the place we are going to live when I go there. but again, It gets me sad that we don't talk too often.. what can I do?

[dancinggal]

Yuk! Long distance is so ridiculously hard sometimes. Its good you trust him, and its completely nature to wish to be with him sharing the good times. My boyfriend is working super hard too, like 9am - 9pm weekdays and weekend nights. Sometimes it annoys me, because I do work long hours too, and that combine with the time difference means sometimes its a long time before we both get to chat, but he's only putting himself through the rigorous work schedule trying to save enough money to come live out here with me. I know its frustrating, especially if you want to talk about something really exciting like you wedding and it seems he's always too tired to talk about much, but remember why he's doing it. What I do when things feel a little lonely is looking around for apartments, or shopping for furniture and stuff. I plan stuff for our future, thinking how great it will be when we get to be together all the time. Maybe you could do something like that with your wedding, don't plan the whole thing without him, but start to look at stuff for it in your spare time when you wish you could be talking to him. And then, when you are speaking, talk about it to him, and he'll have to talk back about it too. Above all, remember this is a temporary situation, and soon you guys will be together for the rest of your lives.