loveinlife Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 I just got into a relationship. This new girl is really smart, intelligent, pretty, nice, and caring. Some things i don't really like, her past and how she knows so many guys.. Makes me think about what kind of girl she is. Recently, my ex has been calling and texting me... she was the girl who broke my heart two times. Now she wants to get back into my life... wth??? I mean two times is enough, im not down for another repeated history of falling in love and get broken again by the same girl a third time. Its just my own common sense to not fall for this trick. My ex also verbally abused me, which caused lots of emotional breakdown and lowered my self confidence. Took me nearly 2 years being together, 8 months of fwb, and 1 one year of being single to find out who i am and not what she portrayed me and how she hurt me and loading those kind of junk in my head. So my issue is why can't the old gf just leave me alone when i don't want her in my life anymore... Why does she come to me when things turn sour for her... i hate how these questions that prompt in my mind and what she did to me. It is just wrong. I don't deserve those treatments, no one does. I thought since i loved her she wouldn't do things to hurt me but she did so much that i will not turn back to her. Future: This is what i hope will happen. For the new gf i really care about her. I want things to work out for us. I guess i am in love with the new one and she is practically the kind of girl i want. sweet, kind, and caring. Just needed to vent this out. Thanks for reading =)
Lovegod Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 It's jealousy. Women want what other women have. Watch women in a social setting - they compete with each other all the time especially with dress and men. They critique each other, and they can be extremely nasty about it! "Like, OMG, all skanked up and no place to go!". Ever hear a woman say stuff like this about other women? It's their competitiveness. It's the same way with men. "Like, OMG, what's he doing with that SLVT?" Your ex knows you're moving on with your life, but she's still competing to be the best damn girlfriend you ever had. She doesn't want this new woman to do a better job. She's acting on her emotions and trying to get your attention away from this new girl. Best thing you can do is tell her to **** off and leave you alone.
jcster Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 So my issue is why can't the old gf just leave me alone when i don't want her in my life anymore... That's up to you. Why won't you stop talking to her? If you don't want her in your life, say so and never speak to her again. Why does she come to me when things turn sour for her... Because you'll put up with it and play the game. i hate how these questions that prompt in my mind and what she did to me. It is just wrong. I don't deserve those treatments, no one does. I thought since i loved her she wouldn't do things to hurt me but she did so much that i will not turn back to her. Then there you go. Why are you even entertaining a thought of going back to her? You say you're worried about "what kind of girl" your new girlfriend is, because she might have some sexual history...but "what kind of guy" is she getting with you? A gameplayer? Someone who blames their problems on the ex? You really need to move on from the last one before you commit to the new one.
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