NotAgain Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 This is a bit random, but...do you think that once you've had sex with someone it's harder to let them go? The bond is a lot deeper? Or you simply miss the sex? Just wondering really. I guess it probably depends on the person and how they view sex, yeah? I've been in love before, and lost, but my newly ex is the first person I've "properly" had sex with. I'd only really want sex with somebody I love. And I was his first, and he SAID that he;s the same. I was just wondering how much much you guys think sex comes into it?
alwayshurt Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 Sex has nothing to do with feelings. It is more a physical factor as it is beauty. Feelings are mostly fed by attraction (not physical...although it culd be at the beginning of the relationship). Attraction is a much deeplier thing which is stimulated by the personality, integrity and many other qualities. Once attraction is killed there is not much you can do to bring it back no matter how good the sex was or how physically attractive you are. That is why is rare that a broken relationship can be fixed, unless the reason of the break up are related to exteranal situation (cheating, mistreating etc). Yes, you may have sex with that person again but then it would be just physical. Don't expect you b/f to come back romantically because he had good sex with you or b/c you are his first one. Chances are that he may come back only if he sees in you a challenge, somebody with unique qualities that cannot be replaced. Sex can be replaced!!!
BlueEyedSarah Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 I think it depends on diffrent people as people view sex diffrently than others.
amaysngrace Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 Never underestimate the power of sexuality. It's a primal instinct.
Amy22 Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 I think it depends on the situation. I have had sex with people I didn't love and when I never saw them again I didn't care. But the sex I had with my ex was different. It was done with love and caring. It's hard for me to explain but I do think it makes it harder because to me we shared more then just sex, the sex meant something to me.
Author NotAgain Posted October 28, 2007 Author Posted October 28, 2007 Sex does have something to do with feelings! If you're in a relationship with someone and you have sex, it's gotta mean more than just sex. And no way, I wasn't applying I'm going to have sex with my ex to get him back or anything, lol. I would not degrade myself like that...I'd hope . No, I wouldn't. I was just simply wondering.
Virginia Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 Any news? As for your question, I agree with you lots of love and heart healing vibes xxxxx
Author NotAgain Posted October 28, 2007 Author Posted October 28, 2007 Any news? As for your question, I agree with you lots of love and heart healing vibes xxxxx I text him saying, "Yeah, I already knew. Jade." And..nothing .
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