troutie jr Posted October 30, 2007 Posted October 30, 2007 This is a simple question to answer. I think he likes you. Is that all you want? Seems to me that you want more. If you do, talk to the guy we aren't mind readers.
plainoldjared Posted October 30, 2007 Posted October 30, 2007 I also agree with Kamille. Touch is a big deal, if he's interested. Think about the rush you received when he touched your hand. Susan, don't be afraid to maintain eye contact but not in an interrogating fashion. More with a smile in your eyes, give him flirtatious looks. One way is to look at him full on, he makes eye contact, you look down for a split second, then look back at him with a flirtatious smile. ok just reading this made me smile. Absolutely 100% correct, TOUCH is a great way to let him know you like but the looking up and smiling always makes me stutter and blush
Author SusanChess Posted October 31, 2007 Author Posted October 31, 2007 Thanks everyone I'm learning a lot!
Kamille Posted October 31, 2007 Posted October 31, 2007 Thanks Kamille! Your post had a big impact, especially when you said "I was convinced that no guy could possibly want to date me and would therefore keep men at bay- simply by being awkward around them or downright stand-offish. I would avoid talking to men, especially men I found attractive, and if one approached me, I would cut the conversation short and walk away. Do you do any of that?" Seriously, it's like an exact description of what I always do. I'm concentrating on looking a little more "open" when I'm out in public now, trying not to look down and frown so much. I can tell by this thread that you're already taking a step in the right direction Susan. Negative perceptions of our own images can have a very real impact on how we interact with people. I don't know quite how to phrase it, but one thing I came to realize in my battle with negative body image is that I was reducing my self-worth to beauty. I was submitting myself to an evaluation that I would never apply to anybody else and that I never even thought applied to anybody else. I thought that somehow, in my case, people wouldn't want to be 'seen' with me and the easiest explanation was that it was because of how I looked. This was the result of some pretty traumatising high school taunting by popular girls. I still get bouts of low-self esteem where I think that my new beau, for instance, will eventually realize that I'm not pretty or something. If you had personal messages I would send you a link to a picture of me and you would see that there is absolutely nothing wrong with me. I can even now admit and see that I am pretty. Men I knew in high school and university now approach me (now that I am more approachable thanks to dealing with this problem) to tell me that they had a crush on me but that I gave the impression that I was out of their league.
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