khoed792 Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 Hello i am 19 this year , jst came down to a new town met a girl whos 18 same uni and same course she had a long distance but after meeting me.. "i think" she kinda broke it off wif him and i asked her out 1 month later and she said yes (BTW she's real popular with the guys but REAL innocent) so this is 2nd month now ,but shes acting all weird .. i told her i love her .. sometimes she says it back sometimes she jst smiles ... then also i know she wants to me stay over but she doesnt invite me .. she wants me to ask her if i can stay over .... also sometimes .. when i say i miss u .. she jst smiles again... sometimes in chuch she wuld leave me and talk to her friends.. she even said .. " i miss all my friends .. they sortoff stopped talking to me when we went out " then the day came when she said like .. im really scared one day i might not love u anymore. then i asked why wuld u say tat ??? then she said because we cant predict the future IS SHE FOR REAL ??? she doesnt even act as if she loves me i keep asking her if she does but she keep saying YES I LOVE YOU but it just doesnt seem right can u guys help me out ??
Reckless Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 First I'd say stop trading "I love yous", they are not a commodity on the Stock Market, if you want to say it, fine, wonderful ! but say it freely because its how you are feeling. Expecting nothing in return. I'm not saying people don't like to hear I love you back when they say it but no one wants to feel "pressured" into saying 'I love you' ; depending on our upbringing and how we are feeling, we may or may not feel like expressing it. IS SHE FOR REAL? Sure, this is what she is like. What a lot of 18 year old girls are like. At 18 we haven't stopped growing and learning things and you girl is just growing and learning. She acts "weird" when she's feeling weird, she says she 'misses her friends' (she probably means she misses being free and single) when she does... and you know what? sometimes she's not sure if she loves you now, yet alone if she'll love you next year. Take this relationship for what it is, probably a practice swing in the great baseball match of love, and learn a very important lesson for all future relationships, women are weird, we often don't say what we mean and nothing, including love, NOTHING is certain in life but death and taxes. Enjoy the moments, relax, speak up about any real concerns and don't pressure anyone to feel more than they do.
BlueEyedSarah Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 i told her i love her .. sometimes she says it back sometimes she jst smiles ... Don't keep telling her you love her, just say it when you feel it and when you say it don't expect it back, she will tell you when she feels like it too. Some of the feelings you express is better left unsaid because you don't want to seem too clingly, thats a turn off. " i miss all my friends .. they sortoff stopped talking to me when we went out " A lot of young people find it difficult to balance between seeing friends, boyfriend, work and school. She has proberbly abandoned a few of her friends while dating you. I think you should give her a suprise to invite her and all her friends out for a night out or something, that will make her very happy then the day came when she said like .. im really scared one day i might not love u anymore. then i asked why wuld u say tat ??? then she said because we cant predict the future She is expressing how she feels. We all can't predict the future, you are both young with the rest of your lives ahead of you. She is worried of hurting you. I think you should just have fun, see how it goes, don't worry so much about wether or not it will work out, your both still young.
brothermartin Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 In my experiences, most women tend to be a little skittish when it comes to relationships and commitment. Not saying that they avoid the subjects like some men do, but they sometimes do things that might seem,...crazy to us guys. But dude, dont you think its a little soon to be using the "L" word with this girl? You said its only been 2 months. Youve may have just scared the hell out of her and now she dosent know what to do about you.
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