Author Ruby Posted October 29, 2007 Author Posted October 29, 2007 ok Cad thanks for your imput Now scoot back to your skinny coke head girls as your help is not wanted/needed here ... thanks
bigheartkindsoul Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 I dont know if this site helps - It twists my head in 100 directions. I spoke to him last night and agreed to see him on Tuesday and I told him that it was no guarantee that thinsg would be ok. I told him that I was not happy and that if he could not chnage the things that I cannot put up with then just be honest. He said he does not want to discuss this on the phone as he wants to meet up and face to face it like adults! He told me he loves and misses me so much and I said that I miss him too, but that does not mean I am willing to remain unhappy with his treatment of me! I will just see what he has to say ....... If I do not like it I will walk, I promise! I find sometimes during my healing these sites helped and sometimes could do my head in, reminders of problems, hurt, etc and like you said not sure which way to turn. Take advice on bored but at the end of the day go with what you think will be best for YOU. ok Cad thanks for your imput Now scoot back to your skinny coke head girls as your help is not wanted/needed here ... thanks LMAO - very very funny And its not love always that is painful its losing it that sucks the most, but we do thankfully get over it in time and move on and feel great things again. Take care x
Cad Rake Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 Now scoot back to your skinny coke head girls as your help is not wanted/needed here ... thanks I must admit I like skinny coke head girls.
Author Ruby Posted October 29, 2007 Author Posted October 29, 2007 I suppose I feel a sense of 'I asked for help so now I must do as I am told' when I post here. And I am right as I get told off for still having feelings. I am telling you all the bad side of things and not the good so you have my ex down as a nasty piece of work who is abusing me and I am the fool putting up with it. I wouldnt say it is outright abuse (I have been abused, I know) It is a lack of communication and him not taking me serious and being selfish and childish. I am going to hear him out and see what he says - I am not going to told I am drawing it out and not doing as I am told so go away until you learn to do as we tell you. I am not silly (like some of you think) I am a sensible woman with alot of experience. I come here to say things I would not say to my friends and I dont expect to be treated like a leper for it!
bigheartkindsoul Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 I suppose I feel a sense of 'I asked for help so now I must do as I am told' when I post here. And I am right as I get told off for still having feelings. I am telling you all the bad side of things and not the good so you have my ex down as a nasty piece of work who is abusing me and I am the fool putting up with it. I wouldnt say it is outright abuse (I have been abused, I know) It is a lack of communication and him not taking me serious and being selfish and childish. I am going to hear him out and see what he says I am not silly (like some of you think) I am a sensible woman with alot of experience. I come here to say things I would not say to my friends and I dont expect to be treated like a leper for it! Here here girl to ^^^^^^^^^^^^^ totally agree. I will just say, be cautious and careful and try and keep a level head when you do meet him. Hope it works out the way YOU would like. Good luck x
jcster Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 I suppose I feel a sense of 'I asked for help so now I must do as I am told' when I post here. And I am right as I get told off for still having feelings. I am telling you all the bad side of things and not the good so you have my ex down as a nasty piece of work who is abusing me and I am the fool putting up with it. I wouldnt say it is outright abuse (I have been abused, I know) It is a lack of communication and him not taking me serious and being selfish and childish. I am going to hear him out and see what he says - I am not going to told I am drawing it out and not doing as I am told so go away until you learn to do as we tell you. I am not silly (like some of you think) I am a sensible woman with alot of experience. I come here to say things I would not say to my friends and I dont expect to be treated like a leper for it! It's a matter of "Garbage in, Garbage out." We can only work off of what you give us, and you have to admit, you've been a bit "selective" with your facts. Sorry if you don't like the advice, but you truly did ask for it. I'm getting to the point where I think you really don't want advice at all - you just post here for the attention/validation. That's cool, but personally, I'll reserve my future advice for people who will at least listen to it. Have a great life.
whichwayisup Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 Ruby, ask him to seek couples therapy with you. IF he is willing to go and try to change and learn to compromise, then maybe, just maybe you could actually have a healthier relationship with him. It's too easy for him to say I love you and I miss you! I want you! Talk to me, I will change, and not follow through. Anyway, you'll know when you've had enough.
Cad Rake Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 As DeAngelo says "Attraction is not a [conscious] decision." Telling this woman what to do is a waste of time. She'll get back with the dude once he says whatever she wants to hear.
compassion42 Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 cad rake-I recall you quoting DeAngelo in other posts.....this may be an ignorant question but are you referring to the singer or some philosopher?
Night is Long Posted November 2, 2007 Posted November 2, 2007 The problem is that deep down I dont want us to break up. I have realized that I need to let him see how it is to really lose me. I have given him enough chances. I want him to wake up and see what he is losing. Do you think he will? You're trying to punish him but you are punishing yourself in the process.
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