Ruby Posted October 27, 2007 Posted October 27, 2007 I have told him it is over and have told him not to contact me. He text me yesterday saying "Can we meet up pne day to sort this out as I really miss you" I didnt reply He text today saying "shall I take that as a no?" I didnt reply This is not easy I wish it would all be ok and that he would say the right thing and it will all be ok! Why does love hurt so much? I have burning tears behind my eyes all the time and a thump in my chest that is like a physical pain. I miss him so much.
ajolie1982 Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 i understand what your going through . i am too right now . I really wish i knew the answers too
Lyssa Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 Post-break up is never easy! You will get over it. Not instantly but you will... It took me almost 3 years to get over my ex but hey, I did it and it feels ssoooo good!!!
alwayshurt Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 It's hard to give opinions if you don't give more details on how you brke up. However, if you miss him so much, as you say, why don't you just listen to what he has to say. Perhaps, he wants to have a second chance or just a closure. Either way it is up to you to handle the situation the best way it works for you. If he hurt you badly from the beginning and you lost trust then I wuld just ignore him and move on.
funkybassplayer Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 At least text him back, there is nothing more hurtful, and painful than to be ignored. even if you were to tell him thank you but im happy now, he will have an answer. although you being silent also communicates your pain as well to him, as if you were happy youd just text back.
Author Ruby Posted October 28, 2007 Author Posted October 28, 2007 Well basically he did not listen to problems that I had in the realtionship and now I have got to a stage that I cant put up with it anymore and he cant see that there is a problem with what he does. I have told him it is over and I think for the first time he is taking me seriously. I know that if I respond now he will sit back and chill and not worry - I agreed to meet him last Friday but he cancelled as he was ill - How I see it is that if it was important enough he would have crawled around here to sort things out! Plus he wasnt even that ill!
funkybassplayer Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 then if its over hunni, perhaps just text that to him. Then he will know.
BlueEyedSarah Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 He had he's chance to meet up and he didnt. I think you should get some mates together and go out that day instead of sitting at home thinking "we could have met up today blah blah blah..." I think its best to be in nc with him. But if you do text back I would just put 'I'm busy'.
Amy22 Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 I agree that you gave him a chance and don't have to meet again if you don't want to. You can done that decision is up to you but I agree with the other posters I would text him back and tell him no. I have been ignored and agree with funkybassplayer it is very hurtful and painful to be ignored.
Author Ruby Posted October 28, 2007 Author Posted October 28, 2007 He text me today saying that he will change for me and could I please answer the phone (he has phoned and text and I have ignored it) Its hard for me to ignore him as I love him
alwayshurt Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 He text me today saying that he will change for me and could I please answer the phone (he has phoned and text and I have ignored it) Its hard for me to ignore him as I love him wow! your attitude makes me think that I still have chances with my ex g/f with whom I broke up 1 year ago LOL. She was ignoring my calls and never answered any of my contact attempts. Perhaps she loved me but was really hurt for some weird behaviour of mine. Jokes apart, back then I was really regretful for the way I had treated her and very much willing to change my attitude and make things work. It is very true that you realize how important a person is to you when you loose her/him. I didn't get my second chance and although presently I am in pain because of somebody else I can tell you that deep down I still love my ex. If you think it is worth, I would just give him another chance, at your condition though. You can test the field and decide if you want to call it a quit for good or perhaps it will work. People make mistakes, nobody is perfect, but if you feel that he is really sorry what the hell. It may be the good one. If you go for it, just be careful. If he is not sincere it may be more painful than it is right now...for you. I have to also say that when we are lost we say anything, inconsciusly, just to get what we want. It is very hard to make a decision. And you, women, are very strict on that. Once it is over is over. Of course mine is a man perspective.
Author Ruby Posted October 28, 2007 Author Posted October 28, 2007 I do think it is possible for someone to change - But THEY have to want the change I will meet him on Tuesday and if I dont like what I hear I wont give him another chance.
alwayshurt Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 I do think it is possible for someone to change - But THEY have to want the change I will meet him on Tuesday and if I dont like what I hear I wont give him another chance. Right, don't settle for less than you want and expect. If that is yur picture, you are really pretty so you won't be alone for long. Good luck
birdie Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 I do think it is possible for someone to change - But THEY have to want the change I will meet him on Tuesday and if I dont like what I hear I wont give him another chance. I remember your posts Ruby because I went through something similar recently as well. By all means do listen to what he has to say and be very clear about what you want but be careful as well because I don't know how realistic it is to expect him to change. I really don't know how much you can expect from other people when it comes to change and compromise. The jury is still out for that one.
Recommended Posts