bigheartkindsoul Posted October 27, 2007 Posted October 27, 2007 I know it is different for everyone as we all have our preferences, likes, dislikes, what are yours????? Basically I think I am a pretty good catch, my self esteem took the dreaded dumpee's nose dive 4months ago and have been working on it since to get it back. Doing fairly well, do you consider these to be good qualities in a potential dater? Good looking Blonde Good body Great legs, ass & boobs Funny Fun Loves sex Likes sports Doesn't like soaps (as in soap operas) one bit Own car Good job Own place Plenty of own hobbies and friends Independent Caring Kind Compassionate Gets on well with almost everyone Lovely smile I think I have just sold myself to myself and bought ones self esteem right back up. Donno you know when you just have blips of doubt in whether you will find and be with someone great in the future.
Ocean-Blue Posted October 27, 2007 Posted October 27, 2007 I know it is different for everyone as we all have our preferences, likes, dislikes, what are yours????? Basically I think I am a pretty good catch, my self esteem took the dreaded dumpee's nose dive 4months ago and have been working on it since to get it back. Doing fairly well, do you consider these to be good qualities in a potential dater? Good looking Blonde Good body Great legs, ass & boobs Funny Fun Loves sex Likes sports Doesn't like soaps (as in soap operas) one bit Own car Good job Own place Plenty of own hobbies and friends Independent Caring Kind Compassionate Gets on well with almost everyone Lovely smile I think I have just sold myself to myself and bought ones self esteem right back up. Donno you know when you just have blips of doubt in whether you will find and be with someone great in the future. Sounds like a keeper to me. I'm sure most guys would love to date a woman with such attributes.
Jack Africa Posted October 27, 2007 Posted October 27, 2007 Sounds like a keeper to me. I'm sure most guys would love to date a woman with such attributes. How about posting a picture in your profile.
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted October 27, 2007 Author Posted October 27, 2007 A keeper yes but how about intelligence? Yes have that too, work for a large finance company as an Account Manager, have reasonable qualifications too. Also just gerenerally intelligent about life, maths, general knowledge, computers, music, etc
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted October 27, 2007 Author Posted October 27, 2007 http://profile.ak.facebook.com/profile5/635/55/n520640565_7252.jpg Suppose I just keep thinking, what is wrong with me, why am I still single, am I not worth it, how could someone like him dump me, You know what I mean, normal break up questions and finding your self worth again. I donno ????????
shadowplay Posted October 27, 2007 Posted October 27, 2007 I think it's funny that you listed "blonde"
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted October 27, 2007 Author Posted October 27, 2007 I think it's funny that you listed "blonde" Yeah donno why has nothing to do with anything So smart sometimes, do dizzy others
GALT Posted October 27, 2007 Posted October 27, 2007 Sold---when shall we get together? Are you in the US? Or the UK?
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted October 27, 2007 Author Posted October 27, 2007 Sold---when shall we get together? Are you in the US? Or the UK? Lol....I am in the UK
JosieMcCoy Posted October 27, 2007 Posted October 27, 2007 I'm pretty damn great if I do say so myself! (Whoops! I swore! I guess now I'm a bad girl!!!) Cheers!
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted October 27, 2007 Author Posted October 27, 2007 I'm pretty damn great if I do say so myself! (Whoops! I swore! I guess now I'm a bad girl!!!) Cheers! Cool girl , am trying to make myself believe always instead of flip flopping between I am great, I am ok, I am not, I donno something must be wrong with me, etc etc Hail the day it is always I am bl00dy great - each and every day
JosieMcCoy Posted October 27, 2007 Posted October 27, 2007 Cool girl , am trying to make myself believe always instead of flip flopping between I am great, I am ok, I am not, I donno something must be wrong with me, etc etc Hail the day it is always I am bl00dy great - each and every day Well bigheartkindsoul, I figure it like this: I love myself!!! Just the way I am! And I dont want to change!!! If I find myself changing for somebody else to think Im great, that just wont work! It won't! Its disingenuous! And then NO ONE is happy! I LOVE me FIRST!!! Cheers!
Lyssa Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 Yes have that too, work for a large finance company as an Account Manager, have reasonable qualifications too. Also just gerenerally intelligent about life, maths, general knowledge, computers, music, etc That's awesome then! I don't think I can date someone if she can't keep up with an intelligent conversation no matter how hot she is. You look and sound great so stick with that. If a guy can't see or appreciate that, it's his loss... I am very sure there are tons of guys out there that would go for you! Anytime, sweetie... anytime!
DutchGuy Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 It's such a shame that dating is so... academic. People are complex, they're not the sum of their attributes. Ofcourse it's nice to find good qualities in a person, but if you made a list of everything you could possibly wish for and you would be introduced to people that had all these qualities, it still would need a certain element to fall in love. Lots of people fall madly in love with someone that doesn't meet any of their usual standards. And what do words like intelligent, fun and attractive really say? I'd like to hear examples of how a person gives filling to these qualities. So you could relate to somebody in a more personal way. A sentence like "I like to write novels on my broken typewriter (I can't use any f's) with my cat Billy on my lap, who is also the only one besides me who gets to see my work." tells more about a person than any list of qualities. Everyone is a good catch for the person they ultimately end up with. It's shouldn't be a contest to get the most points on the 'dateable scale'. Although it really is most of the time.
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted October 28, 2007 Author Posted October 28, 2007 It's such a shame that dating is so... academic. People are complex, they're not the sum of their attributes. Ofcourse it's nice to find good qualities in a person, but if you made a list of everything you could possibly wish for and you would be introduced to people that had all these qualities, it still would need a certain element to fall in love. Lots of people fall madly in love with someone that doesn't meet any of their usual standards. And what do words like intelligent, fun and attractive really say? I'd like to hear examples of how a person gives filling to these qualities. So you could relate to somebody in a more personal way. A sentence like "I like to write novels on my broken typewriter (I can't use any f's) with my cat Billy on my lap, who is also the only one besides me who gets to see my work." tells more about a person than any list of qualities. Everyone is a good catch for the person they ultimately end up with. It's shouldn't be a contest to get the most points on the 'dateable scale'. Although it really is most of the time. I could have expanded somewhat but it might have been a awfully long post. Also people may be offended and thinking I was just on a bragging parade.
GALT Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 Dammitall! I figured you were across the pond! What are your thought on a LDR?
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted October 28, 2007 Author Posted October 28, 2007 So why for most/alot of men is this lot not enough then? What does one have to be to have a great relationship?
Poboy Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 are all these qualities of looks and personality, thats how you see yourself or how others see you ?
ThesinPride Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 So why for most/alot of men is this lot not enough then? What does one have to be to have a great relationship? Personality plays a key role, sometimes people just don't gel. If those factors that you mentioned were all that were needed than truth be told a lot of people would not be on sites like these. I wouldn't worry too much about it, sounds like you haven't met the person that compliments you just yet. I'm sure in time you'll find him.......or he'll find you. Either way, if you screen name is any indication to go on you'll find that person that "fits", so to speak.
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted October 28, 2007 Author Posted October 28, 2007 are all these qualities of looks and personality, thats how you see yourself or how others see you ? Mixture of the truth, how I know I am, and the qualities others see and know.
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted October 28, 2007 Author Posted October 28, 2007 maybe guys are intimidated by you ! even though I am very friendly, get on with people, am a good listener and have a warm smile which I do alot. I donno
GALT Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 No real answer here----from what you say, from your photo, and from where I sit, you are a good catch! Are you clingy or whiny?
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted October 28, 2007 Author Posted October 28, 2007 No real answer here----from what you say, from your photo, and from where I sit, you are a good catch! Are you clingy or whiny? Lol - certainly neither of those. Guess its one of those 6billion dollar questions I will either never know the answer too, will not care again in time, or will indeed one day be unfortunate for someone to tell me!! Rather it not be the latter.
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