Sticky Situation..did i make the right decision?

[LEARNING TO FLY]

I am newly married (3 months) and in addition to the stress of that have also moved to another country to live with my husband, started a new job, moved away from friends and family, ect.. So of course I feel homesick sometimes, and he has no problem with me going back every few months to visit (I actually just got back recently from a 3 wk trip home).

The problem is, I have a very old friend who I had a brief romantic history with 8 years ago. He has been .. how do I put this.. indisposed, shortly there after and will be coming home this July. We have remained good friends all these years and never mentioned our brief little tryst, but there has always been a bit of something there. Anyway, we had lost touch a while back, I fell in love with another old friend of mine (from overseas) & moved out of the country last year, went traveling, got married, ect..

Now I keep having dreams about this person. I have always thought about him a lot over the years, he was always the one who gave me butterflies in my stomach, but as he was indisposed and we were just friends, I didn't give it a 2nd thought. I can't make these dreams & feelings go away. I feel terrible because I love my husband, but it's making me question whether I made a big mistake. Any ideas? Please, if you have something nasty to say than don't say anything.. I am just far from home & have no friends to talk to. Thanks.

[JackJack]

I would just keep those thoughts and dreams as they are, thoughts and dreams. Reconize it for what it is, accept the fact you're married and have moved on. Accept the fact that other relationship was years ago, and that you're where you are now for a reason. Don't act on any of it. Go on with your life.

[Cobra_X30]

I can't make these dreams & feelings go away. I feel terrible because I love my husband, but it's making me question whether I made a big mistake. Any ideas? Please, if you have something nasty to say than don't say anything.. I am just far from home & have no friends to talk to. Thanks.

 

 

I'd say since this is more a new thing it has to do with the fact that you have been removed from your support system.

 

It forces you to focus 100% on your husband.

 

Ever have self esteem issues?

[SoHotZanzibar]

I'd say since this is more a new thing it has to do with the fact that you have been removed from your support system.

 

It forces you to focus 100% on your husband.

 

Ever have self esteem issues?

 

How did you jump to self-esteem issues? Please discuss.

[Doubt&Wonder]

Hang in there and remain true to your husband...... for feelings are nothing unless they are acted upon.