loveydovey82 Posted October 27, 2007 Posted October 27, 2007 So my friend brings this guy to a bar where we always go to chill at after work. I think she brought him specifically for me to meet. Anyways, I was drunk and singing karaoke. Just being silly me! We chatted for a little bit and flirted. I thought he was a cool dude. The night was ending and I was sitting on the hood of my car and he sat next to me and we were hitting on each other laughingly. We never got each other's phone numbers!!! I think it has been about a 1.5 weeks and he calls me from our mutual friend's cell at 2:30am this past Wednesday and asks me out. I thought it was a wee bit liquor inspired but he sounded not drunk. Maybe he just needed some liquid courage. So I said yeah I would go get coffee with him. He also asked if it was ok to get my number out of our friend's cell and I said yeah fine. He said he would call me Thursday night to make plans for Friday. Well here I am, freaking Friday...all alone. I can't for the life of me remember if he said he was going out of town this weekend and would call next Thursday...oh gosh... I'm not desperate. I guess he just isn't that into me. I'm still angry because I could have made other plans. blah...:mad:
Lyssa Posted October 27, 2007 Posted October 27, 2007 That sucks. Just wondering, why didn't you make plans knowing that he didn't call Thursday night?
Author loveydovey82 Posted October 28, 2007 Author Posted October 28, 2007 Because I had tons of homework to do and I knew that if I didn't go out with him I would stay home and get some much needed work done. I also found out that the guy has issues with being "forward" with girls. My friend said that he talks a good game but he has no confidence with women. Whatever! If he does decide to call I wonder if I should give him any of my time...? hmmmm...I guess it depends what kind of mood I'm in!
Jack Africa Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 If he does decide to call I wonder if I should give him any of my time...? I guess that HE has decided not to give you any of HIS time already. Did he hear you sing when you were drunk ? Now there is a clue.
reelwoman Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 I guess that HE has decided not to give you any of HIS time already. Did he hear you sing when you were drunk ? Now there is a clue. now now, jack africa, I'm sure lovey's dulcet tones were not at issue lol! but seriously, if he's shy or whatever, that's his problem and if he is/was interested, he needs to figure that out. It's not your responsibility to bridge that gap for him if he's giving you nothing. People say they'll call and they don't, and who knows why? Don't worry about it. It has nothing to do with you and is no reflection on you. I wouldn't go out with him because whatever his reasons, it was very inconsiderate not to call you and that does not impress me. If his shyness is so crippling that he can't be a grown-up and call a woman who's already agreed to go out with him, he needs more help than you should have to give hm, at least at such an early stage. Don't make excuses for him---I say, time to move on!
Cad Rake Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 I think your problem was being ok with him calling Thursday for a date the next night. That's pretty sad, honey. Next time make him call a few days in advance.
Author loveydovey82 Posted October 30, 2007 Author Posted October 30, 2007 "I think your problem was being ok with him calling Thursday for a date the next night. That's pretty sad, honey. Next time make him call a few days in advance." IT was just going to be a casual cup of coffee. I don't want or expect an engraved invitation to go for coffee...or even a date. Those are some high expectations! How do you date? Are you like totally stressed out all the time? I'm a chill girl and yet I still command respect. I'm seeing the guy Wednesday night and I found out that he is definitely into me from a few different friends. Ok, no big deal!
The Joker Posted October 30, 2007 Posted October 30, 2007 If the mutual interest was built upon liquid courage, who's to say it would have been fluid from there on out? It was his decision not to proceed with the date, just like it should be your reaction to move on.
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