Lucky555 Posted October 27, 2007 Posted October 27, 2007 I am so lost and i need someones perspective. Question: If a guy you were dating decided to just stop talking to you for months even when you tried to ask him whats was wrong and now reappears 5 months later, as if nothing happened...WHAT DO YOU DO? Facts: Knew each other for five months Dated (remained just seeing each other) three months. Saw each other at least once a week, talked almost everyday Asked what he wanted :was not ready for a relationship SOO confusing but ok Third month mark he started wanting to hang out in social settings (this was not dating , i dont think.) Decided not to go out with him in those social settings, he could have seen me again by asking me out..but as u read he didnt want a relationship I tried to talk to him .....found out from a source he was still communicating with ex every week! Checked out other girls while i was with him 5 months didnt talk to him again.....i see him again and he acts like nothing ever happened and is flirting..... So now i believe that he realizes he made a mistake but "ignoring me and still talking with the ex" he likes me but I don't know what to do, i still have feelings, i have had a boyfriend over our time apart because he and i were never exclusive as in a relationship but i broke up with the guy i was seeing, we didnt connect This current guy isn't dating anyone, flirting, likes me, but I don't want a friend with benefits. How do i know if he wants a relationship? I also think hes scared of being rejected. I am concerned that this will be a "hang out" thing. So what do i do and how should i know if hes really wanting to be with me? Should I give him another chance? If someone doesn't date u in the first place because they are not ready, should you let them try to be with you again? How much contact or information should he know (he has my aim name and knows what i am doing all the time, is that bad? ) I will go with the flow but I would like to be prepared if anything shall come up.
halfarock Posted October 27, 2007 Posted October 27, 2007 Ever so often a thread like this comes up and I wonder. More than once I’ve met a woman and then just kind of lost interest over time until we were no longer seeing each other. Then months or even years later we run into each other and there’s that chemistry that was there before and it starts up again, almost as if nothing had happened. Sometimes I think that it is just that relationships seem to come easily to me. Maybe too easily; so that I don’t work at keeping it together. I’m just amazed at the women who I’ve always liked, even loved dearly and then just abandoned them. Only to run into them again and they are happy for it, as am I. Maybe there is something broke in my head. Just last week I hung out with a woman who I hadn’t seen for more than a year. When I first saw her I avoided her, for several weeks, scared that if we were to meet that we would get along very well. I did meet her and we did get along very well. I could have fallen in love with her, maybe I did. Even now, there’s just something about her, I’m sure she feels it to. But I have a girlfriend and I’ve been loyal to her, for a year now, this week. It’s all so confusing.
Author Lucky555 Posted October 27, 2007 Author Posted October 27, 2007 Thanks for telling me how confusing it is lol I have known that. So your with your current girlfriend and your loyal way to go! However, my situation is a bit complicated i suppose. I guess we never really know who were supposed to be with. I have decided to go with the flow but its like there is no telling. This isn't black and white..i like black and white! its been gray ever since the beginning. I was heartbroken when he just stopped seeing me but then i wondered if he wasn't ready then maybe someday "if im still available" we might meet again. We are supposed to be "hanging out" in a social setting but this isn't on his part its a common friend of both ours who likes everyone to get together. I know there is something or else i wouldn't have broke up with my last boyfriend because i didn't feel anything for him and i needed to be honest with myself. Whew thanks for the insight haha
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