What would you do if..

[NotAgain]

You knew you'd be seeing your ex again. We have a few mutual friends, and both have the same local pub where we met. I've been drinking there for years, him probably about a year. I am not willing to give up the pub because of him, or my friends. I have friends in that pub and I have little else to do with my life just now (sad as it is:rolleyes:) I know there is going to come a time where we will both be there. And it may be many times. I'm really dreading this...dunno what I'll do. I know I can't expect his friends to ignore him or whatever...and I can't cause a big scene either or I'll get in toruble, and look the stupid one. It will hurt so bad, and I'm worried I'll break down and cry which I DONOT want to do infront of him again. How am I meant to act? I don't think I can do all nicey nicey bull**** when he's temp. runied me. I read a text he sent one of our friends and it said, "I might talk to Jade (me obv.) next week sometime when I'm ready, and she's come to terms with the fact it's over." I'm guessing he's gonna ask to be "friends" I don't think I want to be. I don't think I could bare it. But I know there will be times where I'll have to be around him. Anyone been in this situation and could help? And incase you're wondering do I want him back - I do kind of. I'm furious at him, but I obviously still love him and want him........

[norby117]

Hi,

 

I'm in the same boat, 4 months on and I'm still avoiding the pubs/ friends I had before HIM because I can't deal with the situation and the rubbish that he has told others.

 

All I can say is learn to live with YOU and remember the person you were before HIM!

 

Be strong and remember that he may pretend he is OK but blokes are all bravado and YOU know what's happened and it's self presavation time.

 

I'm avoiding things because I know I don't want to look like an emotional wreck - but wait till I'm strong again I WILL WIN JUST LIKE YOU.

 

Hope that helps X