peachmoon Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 So, I like my college English professor... every time I look up, I see him looking at me, and this happens often during the class. He's really nice and helpful to me and other students, I just can't help but have a thing for him, and I'm not sure what to do next, if I should subtly confront him or not, and how to do it in case I make a fool out of myself. Help anyone?
whichwayisup Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Don't say anything. Just enjoy the crush as it is...A crush! Remember, he is your professor, so nothing will ever happen! Especially if you are a student of his... Is he married? If so, there's another reason NOT to let yourself fall for him...Keep it as an innocent crush.
allina Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Oh god, please don't approach him, you'll just end up looking foolish. People have crushes on college professors all the time, keep it a crush.
LN99 Posted October 27, 2007 Posted October 27, 2007 I agree w/ the others. Keep it a crush. Professors are trained to pay special attention to students, help them out, and make class interesting. The really good ones actually do this. So, don't read too far into this, especially while you are in his class. If he is interested, he will approach you at the appropriate time(after your done with his class). Otherwise, I wouldn't put too much thought into it.
reelwoman Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 I agree with everyone's comments----absolutely do NOT act on this! This is SO common, and the teacher-student relationship gets very complicated. I'm a prof and it is so true that when you are committed to really engaging with your students and helping them to develop their thinking on complex levels, and especially if you run your classroom in a kind of informal way, joking around and having a lot of discussion, and giving a lot of help and support, the students really tend to get these crushes and feel that you're giving them special attention when really you're just doing your job. And the profs who take advantage of that are scumbags! If the guy is not too much older and asks you out at the end of the semester, great, but don't count on it and don't be disappointed if he doesn't. Enjoy the crush and don't agonize.
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