had sex with almost xhusband whos dating my xbest friend???????

[princess123]

ok.. lol catchy title i know.. but here goes..

 

I asked my husband for a divorce 2 years ago.. we were married for 10 years. I asked him because I felt he loved me more then i loved him and it was not fair for him. I just fell out of love. STUPID I KNOW BUT WELL THATS HOW IT WAS...

 

we lived together for 4 months after we said we were going to divorce.. and the whole time. just living as friends basically... We finally sold the house and seperated. He tried to come back for months and months.. I said no.. you will be3 happier with someone who deserves you.

 

he then started dating my then best friend. who also was just recently divorced. It pisseed me off. on so many levels that was just wrong.. then i decided. that well. if hes happy.. then im happy for them... then about 6 months after that.. we were talking and i told him i didnt want a divorce and we kissed and kissed and kissed.. but then just said it was the wrong thing. kinda mutual agreement. cause he was still dating and living with my friend.

 

a year after that ( now ) we went to court to sign parenting plan. I told him again I didnt want divorce.. he agreed. said he loves me blah blah bla... we talked about things how we were going to start again. everything.. i even had sex with him.. and we were NOT safe... and the timing was perfect for little babies to come into play. But he told his girlfriend and she went crazy. fine you get out never want to szee you again. blah blha blah.. he packed his stuff and went to his moms.. he tried to call me and I didnt answer cause i fell asleep.. but then he ended up going to her house and apprently they reconciled. lol AFTER WE MADE CONCIOUS CHOICE to be unsafe..

 

we share a 9 year old daughter just now. and posabilly one on the way.. HOW MESSED UP IS THIS SITUTATION? what is the best way to handle it? technically were not even divorced yet.. and then for more of a story.. read my other posts... can you tell im confused?

[lost4ever]

Did you have sex with him because you want to get back together or are you playing games?? If you really want to get back with him...then no problem, you are his wife...she will have to deal...but don't play games with this poor man

[Cobra_X30]

I told him again I didnt want divorce.. he agreed. said he loves me blah blah bla...

 

 

Based on your overall tone and attitude. My suggestion is that you set finish the divorce and leave him alone. If you have another child... then you can work out custody after.

 

Seriously, you really dont come across as that great of a person in your post. In fact, its shockingly bad how unemotional and selfish it seems. I'd suggest some kind of therapy for you. Not trying to be mean here... just telling you what I see. Hopefully you were just in a wierd mood or something!

[JosieMcCoy]

yes Princes123!

I think you are confused!!!

And that's ok because life is confusing!

I have never been married, so I hope I am not out of line for giving advice!

 

Have you talked to anyone else about this?

 

Cheers!

[My_Other_I]

Making babies to 'fix' your marriage is not fair to the babies. You should figure out what you want first, as opposed to putting another innocent child through the bs of divorces and dramas.

[Je Ne Regrette Rien]

Sounds to me like, as soon as the H who had put you on a pedastal found someone else worth loving, you started to feel a bit of an ego-knock.

 

From the sound of your selfish tone, I hope he finds someone who loves him for who he IS and not just because he mirrors how special his partner is.

 

Why not think about someone other than yourself? Once he decides he wants to come back to you will you lose interest in him again?

[lost4ever]

princess, what made you post this? I thought you liked the 25 y/o at work??

[Chrome Barracuda]

God if I was your husband I would just leave you alone, you sound like an emotional basket case with too many problems!!!!

 

If you truly dont want him, leave him alone. You said you divorced him because he loved you more than you loved him. What a load of crap. To divorce a person on the grounds like that is just bullcrap!!!

 

You dont deserve him. Let him go and be happy he's with your friend, at least your friend will treat him right. If anything you need to grow up and find what ticks inside you.

[kobegirl]

well having sex is sex , i mean your not divorced or he has a girlfriend doesnt really matter at this point i think the questions you have to ask yourself are ..

 

1. do you want to be with this guy ?

 

2 . does he want to be with you only ?

 

3. if you dont want to be with him then why are you having sex with him ?

 

 

other notes... maybe this is a way to get back at your girlfriend ? well you did it so that's that .. now you just got to follow what you really want. and maybe move on if you or he is not interested in being a couple. by the way you dont have to be a couple to be good parents