adviaceseeker453 Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Hello, I'm a college student and there's this girl I have a huge crush on. But first, I'll tell you the backdrop for this story. We meet twice a week (monday and thursdays) for classes. I didn't even notice this girl (nor approach), but I noticed a pattern at the beginning of September in which she would look back and stare at me. At times, she would even smile then face forward. For seating placement, she sat all the way in the front, while I sat all the way in the back. There were a total of 5 rows separating us. The fact that she would make an attempt to turn around and stare at me gave me strong signals. She's beautiful, but I didn't think I had any fighting chance with her. However, sometime during mid-September, she "magically" changed her seating position to sit 2 seats in front of me. From there, the staring continued, and from then I came to the realization that she does like me. So what I did that day was come up to her after class, and strike a conversation revolving around the class discussion today. She talked to me a little, as we walked out of class, then I noticed that she changed her walking pace in order to escape from me for some reason. I was extremely discouraged from that and assumed that this whole thing was a fraud, since she would walk with me if she liked me. The next week, she sat next to me and initiated the conversation about many things in general. I noticed that during the conversation she would blush and tend to mumble alot. We had an exam coming up for this class, and I asked her if we could study and she said yes. However, as she left class, she practically just ignored me as I tried to strike a conversation. She gave me her e-mail address, but when another girl came up to ask her to study, she gave her a phone number instead. I was right in front of her when this happened. When exam week came around, she wasnt able to study with me, and she cited her reason as being homesick, so she had to go home. So during exam week, I had feelings that this whole thing was a fraud (as I have felt before). However, after exam week, she "suddenly" (notice the emphasis) started being all chatty around me, poking fun around me, and the such. This would continue for three weeks, from which I strongly inferred that she did like me. I thought that the bad week where we had barely any contact was an exception. I still didn't muster the guts to ask her out. However, right now, (as in today) her signs changed from looking at me to playing with her hair, while only exchanging a few glances. Unlike before, where her looks were frequent, today they weren't so frequent, but instead she keeps playing with her, and putting her hair behind her ears. She only looked behind once or twice during a span of an hour and 15 minutes. So after class today, feeling very anxious, I asked her if she had any plans after class. She said that she would be eating lunch since she had classes the whole day. (wait, before I say anything else, I asked her if she had any plans after class, and she also said that she would be eating lunch, but she said in a nervous way). This time however, she said it an assertive way and as I tried to catch up to her, she was walking fast away from me. At this point, I feel very tortured and I just want to know what's going on. What is going on though? The signs in class are so strong, but outside of class, sometimes the signals are mixed. But if she was interested in me, wouldn't she be wanting to hang out with me after class? I'm so confused, and I feel tortured by this scene...... What should I do next? Should I tell her how I feel about her? Everyday I feel as if I'm losing her; but maybe I'm just paranoid, since some days she opens up to me and some days she ignores me. Please help, I need some advice (I apologize if this whole post sounds incoherent - I'm really in alot of pain with this situation)
Yosef Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 You're overanalyzing this WAYYYYY too much. For one, you're jealous of this girl giving a phone number to another girl. WTH. Two, she could have just been homesick! Why does taking a day or two off make you think she's cheating on you!? Jeeze. She comes back, feeling much better, and decides to mess around with you, there's NOTHING wrong with that. I think you're getting too attached and its making her uncomfortable. Be a little more casual and laid back. Playing with her hair is also a sign of her need to distract herself from you. It's a common sign of attraction. Think about it. She doesn't look back anymore because she's so used to being in your presence that it's not a constant thing anymore. Don't take it personally. She doesn't need to keep looking back to know you're there, looking at her.
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