tom-tom Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 ok, well this will probably be similar to a bunch of threads around here but here it goes. i've been going out with this girl for almost 4 months, (4 months in 4 days) and we're both 16. well we've had talks and things about certain stuff and we made it through those so i thought that since we made it through that, we had strengthened everything. to me, the last 2 weeks had been the best we ever had, but all of a sudden two days ago she said she needed to do something with me today and talk to me about something. so today afterschool we're walking home and i'd gotten my head around the thought that she's probably gonna break up with me all of a sudden. sure enough, she did. it didn't really feel like she wanted to though. she said that she didn't plan on doing this that she just wanted to talk about some stuff. she said it wasn't working for her right now and that she realized we never could do a whole lot together and that she didn't like when i compared our relationship to others (which unfortunately i did do occasionally) and she had been stressed lately and she wasn't every happy. when she was saying this she was beginning to cry so i knew it meant a lot to her and i'm not really sad right now cause i don't feel like this is the end. earlier, i sent her a couple texts when i get home and just said that if she wants to, in a couple days or weeks, she can lay everything out and i'll listen to all of it in the hope that we can work it all out. i'm just giving her space right now and gonna let her do what she wants but if there's any chance i can get her back i'm gonna do it. do you guys think all is lost? (i didn't give all the background details and what not cause i could go on for a while)
Amy22 Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 I don't think all is lost. I would sit back and see what she does. You told her if she wanted to contact you and you could talk about it. I would give it a week or two, see if she contacts you. If she does then maybe you can work things out. If she doesn't I would try to move on. I would give her space during this time unless she contacts you. I hope things work out for you.
Author tom-tom Posted October 26, 2007 Author Posted October 26, 2007 yeah thanks, i think that's what i'll do. it didn't seem like it was totally permament, more of something that just happened. we'll see, maybe i'm too optimistic.
tasha_982 Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 I think time will fix the problem, just sit tight and wait. It should work out.... Maybe she is temporarily confused and just needs to sort through her feelings. Just be patient.
Author tom-tom Posted October 26, 2007 Author Posted October 26, 2007 yeah i hope that's it. i asked her friend if there was somebody else all of a sudden she likes and she said 'no, i can promise you that' which made me feel a bit better.
Blurple Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Shes young she doesn't know what she wants. leave her be for a while until she contacts you. She will 100% positive. just be ready, dont bring up getting back together let her do that. Good Luck
Author tom-tom Posted October 27, 2007 Author Posted October 27, 2007 thanks for your help. that's what i'll probably do. her friend said she hates taht she 'hurt' me, but she really didn't because i still don't feel it's over. alright, well i'll see where it goes from here. maybe it's a good thing we won't see each other a whole lot in the next weeks. i leave for turkey for a sports trip wednesday till sunday and then she leaves like friday and get's back tuesday so we'll have some time off.
Author tom-tom Posted October 28, 2007 Author Posted October 28, 2007 so i've been doing pretty good lately just not getting upset about everything but today i seemed to just break down a bit more. don't know what happened but i feel like i want her more now than a couple days before. i have no idea whether she's feeling the same but should i ask her/my friend (i've been talking to her a lot and she's really helpful) about whether she's feeling anything like this or should i just talk directly. like i said, after we broke up i said that if she wants she can lay it all out so should i just leave it until that day may come up, or confront it in a week or so? (she's kinda shy and i don't totally expect her to say much if i don't talk to her)
Author tom-tom Posted October 29, 2007 Author Posted October 29, 2007 maybe i'll be able to close this thread soon if all goes well. so i need some opinions. tonight i messaged my ex (hate calling her that) and said that it honestly has been hard not talking to her and that if she wants to when she's ready we can talk it all over. she replied saying that she's sorry about everything. she doesn't know if she's ready to get everything off her chest and she hopes i understand. i replied saying that it's hard, and i totally understand so she can take her time. was her reply good or bad? i took it as something good because she wants to talk, she's just not ready which i thought meant it's been hard on her as well and she wants to try again. today was the first day back at school together since the weekend and we seemed to be looking at each other a lot and she seemed sad, i know it may sound mean to say this is good news but i hope it's something. any ideas?
Lee725 Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 Hi Tom-Tom, Mayb she has some other stuff going onright now, say at home or something and she needs to put her time into that. If there is no one else involved and she is still communicating with you, even tho it might be limited contact, once she works her herself out she might talk to you about it and all will become a lot clearer for you. Hang in there, i hope it all works out for you.
Blurple Posted October 30, 2007 Posted October 30, 2007 Maybe she likes someone else and doesnt know what to do. You have two options. You can play the game and act like you dont care and she will prob get back with you (wont work well in long run tho) or you can just not cantact her until she is ready to talk to you. Girls a weird and they always take their time with everything. Just let her be is the onlything you can do
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