act1 Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Hi I'm new here and would like to share my situation. I have been with the same woman for 11 years and lived with her for 9, I love her to death and would give anything to make her happy. I have help raised her 2 kids, one of them to college and the other still in High School. I'm 44 years old same age as she is. About a year ago I felt changes in her emotionally, her mood swings are more frequent, she's very unhappy around me and I just couldn't figure it out. I found out recently that she has been having an emotional affair with somebody from her home town through classmates.com (6 hrs away) for about 6 mths. We have everything we could possibly want in live, security, house, finer things and our health. Our relationship is not perfect but who's is? Sometimes she gets mad for no reason, she's feels unhappy when around me sometimes but most of the time it is a normal loving relationship with lots of loving and intimacy. About 2 months ago, she made an excuse to see her mother which happens to be in the same town as this guy. She left for the weekend, spent time with here mother for a day and the rest of the time with this person. I confronted her when she got home, she swore that there is nothing going on there, that they are strictly friends and she will still keep in contact with him. Couple of weeks passed and she did the same thing, left to visit her mom (before we might visit her mom once a year with the whole family) she came home that weekend instead of missing me just got furious to see me. This is a totally different person, we ironed things out and decided to go away together for a week to clear our heads. When we came back she decided that she can no longer live me and she doesn't think she can grow old with me. She insisted that we should split up and I should go my own way, her 16 year old son living with us wasn't happy about the news because he feels that he is losing another father, after 11 years he gave me that kind of respect. He told her mom that if you start seeing somebody else don't bring her here. I opted for us to go seek help but to no avail. I moved out hoping that she just needs time to think things through, but a week after I was out of the house, she invited this out of town friend to spend the weekend. I found this out because I came by the house to pick up the rest of my things in the garage and found a strangers car with the town dealership on his plate. I confronted her and I get the same excuse, you are blowing this out of proportion, there is nothing going on here, we're just friends. I know deep down inside all that I thought was happening is happening. What to believe, do I take her word that nothing is happening? and why would she do this so soon. Did what we had for 11 years mattered? What do I do? confused and torn. please help.....
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