bigheartkindsoul Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Heres a question. I am a member on an internet dating site and am going on a date with someone that has been pursing me quite heavily through the site (basically I wasn't ready before hence why only just agreed to meet up - a good thing I think). Anyways date is Tuesday night, fine. I am a big fan of a comedian that does live tours every now and again, this is one thing that is in my profile that I think he is the funniest man ever, he has just announced new tour dates for Oct/Nov 08. My date for Tues, we were talking about these tour dates and he then says not to worry I have front row tickets...????? Its a year away Perhaps he is just being nice and being hopeful? Should I worry about it? I am gonna get my own sets of tickets anyway because me and my best friend will be going like we did before.
compassion42 Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Yes, I would consider his having tickets for the two of you to see the comedian a year from now is a little presumptuous. It's thoughtful of him but I'd be careful-he sounds a little obsessed to me.
AussieChick Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Hey Bigheart, Don't go in being worried, a year is a LONG way away- he knows this. Go to Tues night ready for Tues night. You will know if there's anything there and there may be another Tues night. You and your friend will go to the comedian, and if anything eventuates, then your friend will have another date....or not Either way - go to Tuesday night with an open mind - you'll know soon enough just listen to your inner self. AC
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted October 26, 2007 Author Posted October 26, 2007 Yes, I would consider his having tickets for the two of you to see the comedian a year from now is a little presumptuous. It's thoughtful of him but I'd be careful-he sounds a little obsessed to me. Hey Bigheart, Don't go in being worried, a year is a LONG way away- he knows this. Go to Tues night ready for Tues night. You will know if there's anything there and there may be another Tues night. You and your friend will go to the comedian, and if anything eventuates, then your friend will have another date....or not Either way - go to Tuesday night with an open mind - you'll know soon enough just listen to your inner self. AC Two very different answers. Well whatever happens I will go at my own pace and will never again have my pace made by someone else. So I will go on Tues and take it from there. But it is still a little concerning that someone has booked tickets so soon on but it could be that he got them knowing he has a mate to go with or can sell on ebay if nothing comes of our date. Oh but then I always see the good in people, probably why I get hurt and trampled on. Oooh I donno, donno, scared I supposed because of being hurt before by someone who was so full on in the beginning and then dumped me when things started to get serious and stuff.
peace_pipe Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Well whatever happens I will go at my own pace and will never again have my pace made by someone else. Think about what would happen if everyone exhibited this behavior. Everyone would demand to go at their own pace. I guess you better find someone with the exact same PACE. Reminds me of two children fighting over a toy.... "No, it's mine!!!" ROFL :D:D
jcster Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Everyone would demand to go at their own pace. I guess you better find someone with the exact same PACE. Yes....that's called a "healthy relationship."
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted October 26, 2007 Author Posted October 26, 2007 Think about what would happen if everyone exhibited this behavior. Everyone would demand to go at their own pace. I guess you better find someone with the exact same PACE. Reminds me of two children fighting over a toy.... "No, it's mine!!!" ROFL :D:D Yes....that's called a "healthy relationship." Well if you had been pressured in a previous relationship this would make most decide that going at there own pace would be better. I donno I just don't wanna have some one come on so strong at the beginning and leave six/seven months later like before once I had fallen in their trap, fair enough? Just don't want to make the same mistakes as before which has got to be a good thing hasn't it?
daphne Posted October 27, 2007 Posted October 27, 2007 big, I agree. Nothing worse than an emotionally unstable person who comes on too strong in the beginning. They never know what they really want. That, in itself, is a huge red flag. It's like when I go shopping and see something I really, really like and have to have and buy it without thinking about its practicality and it gets returned shortly thereafter. Better to have an idea of what you want when you go shopping. Especially for groceries. I wouldn't worry about the new guy, however. He may have been kidding. Just get to know him a little bit better. At your own pace.
Jack Africa Posted October 27, 2007 Posted October 27, 2007 Yes....that's called a "healthy relationship." It is more like a fantasy. Girls, the objective is to attract a man NOT drive him away because you are not willing to adjust to his pace some. Sheesh !
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted October 27, 2007 Author Posted October 27, 2007 It is more like a fantasy. Girls, the objective is to attract a man NOT drive him away because you are not willing to adjust to his pace some. Sheesh ! You've got to be kidding me, why do we HAVE to go at your pace?? Here's an idea, Why don't you go at ours instead? Sheesh Besides isn't a healthy relationship based on comprimise on almost everything, even being willing to comprimise on pace's and perhaps meet in the middle somewhere??
Ariadne Posted October 27, 2007 Posted October 27, 2007 Hey, My date for Tues, we were talking about these tour dates and he then says not to worry I have front row tickets...????? He was probably joking. Just joke along and tell him to show you, and take it as a joke. Ariadne
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted October 27, 2007 Author Posted October 27, 2007 Hey, My date for Tues, we were talking about these tour dates and he then says not to worry I have front row tickets...????? He was probably joking. Just joke along and tell him to show you, and take it as a joke. Ariadne Well thing is he said, don't worry YOU (as in me) have front row tickets, so close you will be able to smell his sweat. We'll see
Ariadne Posted October 27, 2007 Posted October 27, 2007 Hi, so close you will be able to smell his sweat. okk.... I smell a weirdo... Careful he can be a creep, red flags up. Ariadne
Sand&Water Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 RE: Perhaps he thinks that 1 year from now, he and you will still be friends -that is, If a romantic relationship doesn't ensue, then a friendship will last forever, if not for at least years to come. Point Blank: I think you should be careful. Go with the flow, don't take things too seriously on your date with him. If at the end of the date, you don't see yourself going on a second date -Tell him! or he might think you secretly like him. Sand&Water
Trialbyfire Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 I think he was trying to be either smooth or funny or...something... Are you sure you can even book tickets a year ahead of time for comedy tours? I know I've never done it before.
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