Trialbyfire Posted October 27, 2007 Posted October 27, 2007 So we are communicating and she comes out in an email saying something very suggetive and implying that she has a strong physical attraction to me... and it's definitely reciprocated. The problem: I saw this girl as partner material. The fact that she came out with an overt suggestive comment actually... disappointd me. Though I get completely lost when I look at her, I had her in another mental category. Not the sex category, but the sweet and loving category. I actually found myself disapointed at the comment because it cheapened schema that I had created of a true relationship with her. This is the same issue as another thread where you mentioned that you only see having hot/wild sex with a stranger. Women aren't the only gender that's bought into the good girl/bad girl stereotype.
whichwayisup Posted October 27, 2007 Posted October 27, 2007 The fact that she came out with an overt suggestive comment actually... disappointd me. Can I ask what exactly she said to you? PM me if you don't wanna put it out here... Or, just tell me you don't want to, if it's too personal. Hate to say it, but it's kind of like role reversal here...You see her in the romantic light, the heart, the holding hands, and yes, sex is part of it, but not based on it all - And she took the male role, and made a sexual comment which now has made you stop and think. Maybe the fantasy/innocent bubble burst? She's not the 'romantic' staring into the eyes gal you thought she was? ...
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