cjhl8687 Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 me and my gf recently have been fighting and we broke it off and 3 days later she was kissing another guy because she drank to much. i had asked her if she ever planned on hanging out with this guy again and she said no, only if he happened to show up with other co workers. well tonight i was driving around with my friend and just so happen to see her car, well it ended up being that she was at his house, eating dinner and watching baseball, he called and invited her over and she said ok, and spent a good 4 hours there, i had seen her on the road and i know i shouldn't have but i followed her home to try to talk and i saw the lights on on her car meaning she just got home but she wouldn't answer her phone, and finally she did and i asked why and she said i was being nice, he asked, and said he was cooking dinner so i did, she said she didn't kiss him or drink and i mean i trust her, but i can never be exact, i mean she lied already once. she said she would never be his gf, but i mean does what she done show that she wants to or has more feelings for him then she is saying she does? i don't know what to do, she is asking for space, and i don't know what to do, im losing my freaking mind with no contact, always wondering what shes doing, who shes with, is she feeling ok? I mean im just losing my mind over this, i mean i feel like to attached and i want to give her space i just don't know how not to think of her, and hat to do in the mean time. does anyone have any tips? does it seem like she has more feelings for him then she says? how do i keep her of my mind to give her space? i care for her so much and have changed all the other stuff, the only thing i cant stop is the nc..what do i do? PLEASE HELP! i don't want this relationship to get any worse then it has
Author cjhl8687 Posted October 26, 2007 Author Posted October 26, 2007 ok, ill try that, does anyone know what else i can do? how do i feel? does this mean she does has stronger feelings for him then shes saying since she already lied once?
tasha_982 Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Could you give us some background info? How long have you been together, what happened? I wasn't checking if you had it posted somewhere else or no, but I would like to know more info.
bish Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 me and my gf recently have been fighting and we broke it off and 3 days later she was kissing another guy because she drank to much. hmmm...you 2 broke it off, and only 3 days later she was sucking face with someone else? Sounds to me like she didn't care about you that much to begin with. She sure didn't wait til the body was cold did she? I'd say leave her alone and move on to someone that does care.
Author cjhl8687 Posted October 26, 2007 Author Posted October 26, 2007 to answer everyones ?s we were together for 2.5 years, and she had to much to drink one night and kissed the guy, i asked her if she regretted it ad she said she wasnt sure. we had been fighting quite a bit towards the end, so i understand about the break, and breaking up, but the only thing that makes me so mad is that it was only 3 days, and she said that she didn't want to hurt, me and she didnt want it to end uo like this and everything, and im perfectly fine giving her time, because when i look deep in my heart, you know i do wanna be with her, and i do still care for her, its just lately, like last night, i mean i ask, im like why, why would you do that to me, and i know its not my place to ask because technically we are broken up, but it hasnt even been that long. I mean i dont know how to feel, she says she doesnt have feelings for this guy and she doesnt want to be his gf, but after the first time she kissed him i asked if she would ever hang out again and she said now, and obvisouly lied, but were not together so i dont know how i should feel about all this...please i need help, every second i dont talk to her, or see her i go insane, im slowly trying to give her time, today marks the first actual day of nc, and it was the hardest thing ever...please help
funkybassplayer Posted October 27, 2007 Posted October 27, 2007 sad fact is that it is over, and you and her can kiis who you like. I dont think that its her not caring, but she could be looking for that security of a man to help her cope.....the rebound, or as others have said, she is not into you any more and does not feel affected, but i think that most unlikley. please dont question her actions or follow her, this will end up in disarster for you, with her feeling smothered, and you feeling angry and anxious. Best to distance yourself for a time, come to terms that its over, and you deal with that the way u feel you need to, and above all try not to think about how or what your ex is doing to cope. You may get to a place where you will be able to talk to her without questioning her, but you have to get used to the fact that their is no romantic relationship anymore.
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